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Holistic Counselling with Zeynep, Melbourne (2026)

16/12/2022

On my page I share a lot about how to heal yourself and save your family unit.

Todays post is slightly different to that as there are quite a number of families on the edge of a breakdown that is not talked about enough.

And while divorce is an inevitable reality for some families, consider it your last card and not your first option at the first sign of trouble.

There are steps you and your family can take to help resuscitate your household before finalising a divorce decision.

And yes, these options DO WORK.

And yes, BOTH of you need to be involved in making it work otherwise it WON’T work.

As time goes on, together you will learn to navigate your way through challenges by:

-Communicating your needs efficiently & learning to listen to your families needs objectively
-Learning to feel comfortable with being vulnerable with yourself, your spouse & within the family unit
-Honouring your spouses & families needs
-Understanding your spouses/families limits & respecting them
-Knowing yourself intimately and your triggers
Etc…

And if this hasn’t happened yet, don’t worry. It will take some time before you start seeing results.

Issues within a marriage and family unit are very naturally occurring things.

However if the peace of the household is chronically disrupted by frequent arguments, outbursts, disagreements and conflicts then it might be time to think about accessing some extra help.

And there is no shame in reaching out for support if it means these services can save your family & marriage.

There are many therapists available with the right skills and expertise to give you the help you need in the areas you need the most.

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Finally an important disclaimer: this post does not apply to abusive circumstances. If you and your children are at the hands of an abusive partner, you need specialised care from the appropriate professionals. Please reach out if you need assistance with your current situation.

08/12/2022

Why did I choose Counselling?

It sounds so cliche but I always knew in my heart I was going to do something meaningful in my life.

I knew I was going to leave an impact, somehow, one way or the other.

And I say that with utmost humbleness!

Just like all the incredibly resilient and strong women that I’ve had the honour to work with, I too have a story of my own.

And it’s my deeply empathetic nature that made me gravitate towards counselling.

It’s being able to know that life is in Allah’s control, and He uses people to help us grow into our fullest potential.

And He’s blessed me with the role of helping other women look at their struggles from a fresh perspective, to find their potential that’s buried layer upon layer of hurt.

When I started off I was studying a Psych degree, hated it, failed multiple times and decided that this would be a good opportunity to start something I really enjoyed.

I explored things like Archaeology, Teaching, Law.. and even took online quizzes that matched you with careers suitable for your personality.

And for each one of those quizzes I would always get: Counselling/Psychology.

Some things are really meant to be.

I’ve been in the Counselling field for well over 7 years (excluding my Psych years).

When I became a mum, I was on maternity leave with no desire to go back to work and split myself between my child and a career I was so passionate about.

So I dove right into establishing my online practice Holistic Counselling with Zeynep.

I can’t begin to explain what a journey it has been to go from shy and scared to confident and excited.

My own traumas in life, my own struggles and some of my own unresolved issues have given me lessons I absolutely wouldn’t have been able to learn from a textbook.

It’s because of this that I can put my foot in the other shoe and do what I do with excitement.

Because if I can heal, so can you.

It’s important to note that while I share this to enlighten you on the background of therapeutic work, Counselling is my career and not my identity. I make mistakes, I have flaws and I am by no means perfect.

We are all flawed and believe me that is a good thing✨

05/12/2022

Attachment Styles are very real and they do exist.

They also say a lot about how someone shows up in everyday life; their relationships, their parenting, in their friendships and how they casually engage with people.

If there’s one thing I’ve seen in life and in clinical practice, is that ultimately the Giver of everything is Allah Almighty himself.

The good, the bad and the ugly all comes from the one Source.

So depending on whether you know your attachment style, there is comfort in knowing that your needs can be satisfied through Allah Himself and your trust in His provision for you is enough to satisfy your worries.

The Anxious needs: Security & Reassurance.

The Avoidant needs: Space & Secure Connection.

The Securely Attached: These pool of people are safe and stable individuals.

Allah knows what you carry in your heart.

Allah knows you want to feel loved, securely.

Allah ALREADY knows how your feeling, but He’s blessed you with resources to dig deeper into how you operate.

Whether this is counselling, life-coaching, psychological counselling etc.

Bring your worries back to the Source of Life and see for yourself what happens✨

04/08/2022

The thing with families is that conflict rears it’s ugly head in ALL situations.

The unwashed loads of laundry can create conflict.

The pile of washed laundry sitting in the same basket for weeks can create conflict.

Your spouse neglecting the marriage can cause conflict.

The teenager hiding secrets can create conflict.

You name it, and there will inevitably be conflict there.

So what do you need to remember during times of conflicting situations?

1. Each person in the family unit is a person with feelings, ideas, opinions and objective to themselves. They, too, are entitled to having the same feelings of anger, confusion, feeling offended and hurt.

2. Once the conflict settles down, it’s important to remember that each person also has their own way of recalibrating back to calm.

3. That just because you’re VERY ANGRY, does not give you any permission to physically hurt someone and cross the line of violence.

4. When we’re feeling emotions, they can come all too strong at once. This can hinder your ability to think logically, calmly and with empathy so remove yourself if you feel the emotions intensifying.

5. Resentment is a silent killer. Just because the conflict is over, does not mean you won’t develop resentment and bitterness about what happened. Come back to the scene of the crime and work out what went wrong to help you move on and let go.

6. If you take anything away, let it be this: You can only change what’s in your control and what IS in your control is only YOURSELF. So focus on taking accountability for yourself, for your own self-soothing etc.

Conflict can be difficult but it does not have to messy each time it happens.

What do you need to work on to help your mindset shift during a conflict?

28/07/2022

Dear mama,

(Or mama to be someday)

You do so much.

You cook

You clean

You tire yourself out

And you put a brave face on and do it all over again.

Here’s what you need to know..

Your children will thrive from a happier you…

… a healed version of YOU.

The pain of holding on to the absence of your own parents,

The inability to connect with others and yourself,

The anxiety that won’t let you sleep,

The hurt of what happened…

It’s time to start showing up in all the right places.

Give your family the best thing they can benefit from;

A sound mental health.

I’m Zeynep and I’m a women’s counsellor helping mamas and women alike to heal from their wounds, break inherited beliefs, cycles and patterns to grow towards a version of themselves they never thought possible.

Join me on your healing journey towards self fulfilment, awareness, and self-love to start THRIVING.

25/07/2022

There’s a lot of buzz around “The Mother Wound” but equally as important to that is

The Father Wound.

Being a women’s Counsellor, I specialise in helping women heal their family wounds by breaking inherited beliefs, cycles, behaviours and patterns.

Many of the women I work with carry some type of a parental wound.

A dis-attachment, or sever in their relationship with a parent.

The Father Wound can create issues around attachment and development in both boys and girls.

Having a father who was:

-Absent psychologically or physically
-Strict or overbearing
-Passive in his role
-Deceased
And many other factors

All contribute to a rupture in what is a healthy child-parent relationship.

Having a complicated relationship, or no relationship at all can create profound impact on an individual’s self-esteem and other relationships far into the future.

In a study conducted by Kostos and Flynn(2012), children who had paternal absenteeism was at a great risk of substance abuse, school mis-conduct and antisocial behaviour.

Of the 15% of one-parent families in Australia in June 2021, 79.8% of those were led by single mothers, making father absenteeism rampant. But fatherlessness doesn’t just have to mean having an absent dad.

As U.K.-based psychologist Mari Kovanen explains, there is also pain in not having a “good enough” father, and such pain could lead to low confidence, anxiety, depression, anger and rage, too rigid boundaries, too loose boundaries, and having relationships with emotionally unavailable partners.

Whatever your scenario entailed, there are steps you can take to begin healing the father wound.

I’m Zeynep and my passion is all things families. Family discords, family conduct, family units and systems are all areas of expertise I can help you solve individually. And by doing so, I help you break free from the chains of inherited family behaviours, beliefs, cycles and unhealthy patterns.

If you would like to explore your family wound and seek counselling for this, send me a DM for. 1:1 session towards a healthier happier you!

22/07/2022

Toxic family members are the main source of a poor quality of life.

The reality of living with a toxic family member is the binding, life long ordeal of having them present in your life.

Some toxic family members come in the form of:

-Toxic mothers & fathers
-Toxic siblings
-Toxic grandparents
-Toxic Aunts/Uncles
-Toxic Cousins

Although you have the option to place limits and boundaries around how often you allow them into your life, some family members are there for the long haul.
(I.e children)

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18/07/2022

Broken homes aren’t just the definition of divorced families.

Broken homes are also dysfunctional toxic households that churn out broken people into society.

An unhappy family member will seek comfort, belonging and happiness in the realms outside of their home.

Through pursuits such as:

-Friends (not all friends are good influence)
-A place to “hang out”
-Drug or alcohol abuse as escapism
-Overworking to avoid going home
Etc etc

If you came from a broken home or family system, it’s likely that you re unfamiliar with what a safe family home feels like.

So how do you achieve creating a safe family sanctuary for yourself and your family?

-Quality therapy
-Marriage counselling if your relationship is the cause of family discords
-Family or group therapy
-Self development to kickstart your self-awareness box
-Reflecting on your role in the family dynamic and ONLY on your role

Breaking modelled behaviour is hard, but very rewarding in the long term as you see the fruits of your labour in real time.

What are some ways you’re breaking cycles in your own family home? I would love to know.

I’m Zeynep and I’m a women’s counsellor specialising in helping women break patterns, beliefs and cycles of behaviour inherited from their family upbringing. I help you break free from the chains of your childhood trauma and thrive towards becoming a happier, emotionally healthier version of yourself you were created to be. DM me today for a 1:1 session, I would love to work with you!

15/07/2022

I haven’t met any parent (yet) that does not want the best for their child and family.

“I’ll do anything for my family!”
“I’ll die for my kids”
Etc etc

No, don’t die for your kids thrive for them instead.

Heal for them.

Go to therapy for them.

Break cycles, for them.

Better yet, get to know yourself for them too.

It’s not necessary for you to sacrifice yourself for your children and family.

Heal from what hurt you, that’s plenty a sacrifice.

14/06/2022

Family discords are common however each home will experience issues differently.

These are some of the common issues family units experience in the work I have seen:

1. Miscommunication
2. Unhealthy Defence Mechanisms
3. Imbalance of family load
4. Unrealistic Expectations
5. Not progressing in alignment with Family Expectations
6. Unable to Regulate Self

Which one (or more) are you struggling with?

06/06/2022

Have you been in this position before?

So many emotions coming at you all at once.

-Anger
-Disappointment
-Hurt
-Resentfulness
-Bitterness

The lot.

When these bunch of feelings come together, they block your ability to think logically and rationally.

Instead you’re communicating with a drive to hurt and make your hurt be felt.

By this point, you’re knee deep into the swamp of emotions.

In family units, your biggest trap is miscommunication BUT master the art of language and you can turn every situation into a dialogue.

All members of the family communicate differently, and all member must be heard.

The common aim in communicating should be:

-To break icy walls when hurt

-To build empathy between what the family member is experiencing vs what they are perceiving

-To get curious about what’s going on for YOU
(Why is your spouse not being attuned to you hurtful?
Why is your teenagers attitude triggering you?)

-To aim for a mutual agreement or understanding that you will all share BIG feelings at many stages in life, however none of these are BIG enough to erect walls of animosity.

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