SexWit counselling & sexology

"An honest, validating and inspirational experience from the incredibly supportive and motivating Zoë.

Zoë's insight into relationships, human behaviour and our internal reactions comes across so naturally, yet, is so profound and powerful.

My time with Zoë has holistically armed me with a sense of self worth, and I feel better equipped to enter relationships with confidence. I no longer allow self doubt to fuel my behaviour, and instead feel empowered in my approach to dating.

Zoë @ S*xWit is a highly recommended therapist for anyone who wants a deeper understanding of themselves, and a better understanding of relationships." - Jess.

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“I had seen psychologists for some time without much help or progress, then I found Zoë @ S*xWit on facebook. Zoë understood the internal struggles that I had been dealing with from the very first appointment. I can also honestly say that Zoë has been the only therapist to help me to fully identify & work through these struggles. She also helped me with what seemed like very subtle yet destructive relationship issues (with an abusive ex-husband) that had crushed me over many, many, years.

I am now taking my power back & can accept compliments and genuine love from others, rather than feeling I have to be the one to always give to others. I have also been able to discover & accept my own sense of eroticism & desire, & the lovers I have recently enjoyed would definitely agree! Thankyou, dear Zoë, for helping me find myself”. - Anna.

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“My wife and I found S*xWit together, as I’ll be honest, I was having issues in our love life I didn’t even know about till I met Zoë. She was amazing from the start. Open communication right off the bat, fast to reply and make my first appointment to start to help me right out of the blocks.

Now all cases are different, but in less than 3 months Zoë got me over my barrier and I’m happy to say my wife and I achieved our goal and are looking forward to bringing our second baby into the world next year. So from the bottom, the top, the whole of our hearts, thank you Zoë and S*xWit - our journey will continue thanks to your amazing skills and knowledge”. - Sincerely Josh Clark.

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discovering the authentic self. desire. relationships. & healing...

“We get to know ourselves in our relationships with others. Relationships teach us who we are & who we want to be. Intimacy comes by sharing ourselves with others”

Zoë’s interest in helping you…

Throughout Zoë’s years as therapist she has sought to encourage & celebrate human s*xuality in its many fabulously varied and vast forms. Zoë identified a massive gap in the attention & care given to our understanding of who we are as complex s*xual beings - in relationship with ourselves & others, how we connect & communicate, how we express our s*xual needs, wants & desires, & our sensual, creative & erotic selves, the need for a thriving s*x positive (consensual) community, for gender diversity & fluidity to be valued & nurtured, & for our own free self-expression to blossom whoever we identify ourselves to be.

The intimate self

One of the most important discoveries Zoë made when working with individuals, couples & family members is that intimacy is best understood in connection with another. Indeed, we are often told that getting to ‘love yourself’ is the start of good relatinships, however, the irony is that self-love is best learnt in our relationships with others - & how our relationships playout, & indeed, how we want them to play out. Relationships with others are confronting & indeed they provide a mirror for us to see who we really are.

As there’s always three or more in any partnered relationship - you, your partner/s & the relationship, this can be very complex. We come with a whole big bag of familiar, cultural, ethical & moral concerns & we often want to know what’s happening in our relationships and how to change them or make them better.

Unraveling & understanding any relationship begins with you & the way you understand, connect & communicate with others & how you understand yourself. Our relationships can impact & change who you are or who you want to be. This can be healthy or unhealthy, depending on the dynamic. Therapy can help you understand how to identify what you want & how to have more intimate, satisfying relationships. With others, with yourself.

“True intimacy is connection with yourself & in relation to others”

Intimacy with yourself & others is being connected to our bodily senses & emotions & how they move within us. Feeling into & accepting your body, mind & emotions is a compelling expression of who you are. It can be expansive, creative, erotic & vital. Your intimate self & who you are is the life force within you & it ought to be celebrated. This is the same for your relationships. Learning to be intimate & erotic with ourselves & others is not only about s*x. It is about vitality . A way of being, moving, living, thriving & loving yourself & others. Learning to better tune into yourself & others can be achieved in individual therapy &/or couples therapy.

The authentic self

Intimacy means getting to truly know yourself, who you are, your desires, wants & needs – whether they be personal, s*xual, professional or otherwise, & learning the art of accepting our authentic self & sharing ourself with others - & only in the way we choose. This is a form of self-mastery, & for many, it can be a large part of a healing process.

When we are in contact with our authentic self & what truly matters to us, we are discerning about what we will, will not, or no longer accept in our lives. When we have insight & clarity, as well as clear boundaries & limits, we can work a way forward to create the life we desire.

The erotic self

And then there’s what we call the erotic, or eroticism. It doesn’t necessarily refer only to s*x. Sure, it may in many contexts, but essentially feeling & being erotic is all about vitality. It’s a way of being, moving, living, doing, thriving & loving yourself & others. We can tap into & take our eroticism anywhere - into a meeting, while shopping, while doing our hobbies, at a theatre, at the gym, when we travel, by the way we walk, or the way we consider & think about things or how we respond to others. Being erotic is tuning into our vital self - & letting the world know we value ourself.

When it comes to s*x, eroticism is the tension of particular longings or attractions coupled with obstacles to overcome. This tension creates an energy, often a passionate energy, that fuels your desire, whether real or fantasy. It’s a sense of expansion where we are free to fulfill our desired s*xual nature or persona. Again, this is a certain vitality. And when it comes to s*x, it becomes a s*xual vitality. It can be passionate or tender - indeed, there is a difference between the two & eroticism can make itself manifest in many very different ways.

Do you seek to discover & understand your erotic self more fully, & importantly, find new ways to live it out?

Is counselling for you?

Change is difficult to achieve on our own. But the good news is help is available.

You may be seeking support in regard to relationships, all things s*x & s*xuality, mental health or other life concerns. Whatever your concern, Zoë will work beside you providing a confidential, safe, healing space, where you can explore at both an immediate & deeper level to understand & manifest your authentic self/selves.

Zoë’s style is authentic, respectful, curious & empathic. Zoë is interested in growth & change, creativity & resourcefulness, building coping capabilities & resilience, identifying unique strengths, & helping you feel more connected & satisfied.

Zoë also provides clinical supervision & secondary consultation services.

S*xological & other concerns Zoë can help you with as an individual or a couple include

S*x Therapy & Relationship counselling, Psychos*xual Therapy & Education

(all s*x therapy is talk therapy & touch is not involved).

• BDSM/kink

• Chronic Pelvic Pain & related Gynecological s*xual concerns

• Compulsive/addictive s*xual behaviours & s*xual deviance

• Discovering & sustaining s*xual pleasure

• Discovering your erotic self

• Erectile difficulties/rapid & delayed ej*******on

• Fe**sh

• Gender diversity/identity

• Low s*xual desire & arousal

• Mismatched Libido or different s*xual drives

• Painful s*x/genitalia

• Po*******hy – overuse/compulsion

• Post-surgical relationship & s*xual difficulties

• Prostate cancer & related s*xual concerns

• S*xual health & education

• S*xual assault & s*xual healing

• S*xually diverse relationships

• S*xual orientation

• Solo s*x (ma********on)

• Transition & transgender

Relationships

• Affairs & infidelity

* Betrayal, secrets & lies & disconnection in relationships

• Couples difficulties

• Dating coaching

• Family difficulties

• individual needs therapy

• Grief & loss

• Intimacy – lack of/too much

• Open/diverse

• Polyamorous

• Teen

• Work & professional related concerns

Mental Health – situational, on-going & chronic concerns

• Anxiety

• Compulsive thoughts & behaviours

• Depression

• Stress

• Psychiatric disability – chronic mental health care (NDIS)

• Trauma & PTSD