Jodie Myintoo Counsellor

Jodie Myintoo Counsellor Counselling
Blended Families
Step-parents
Single Parents recently separated
Trauma
Grief My name is Jodie Myintoo and I am a government accredited counsellor.

I am also Author of my book " The Broken Can Become Warriors"

I am also co-author 1 of 9 authors
"JOURNAL TO WELLNESS "

Tune in 97.7FM Casey Radio Monday Mornings I connect with Bill and Fid Breakfast Show. I offer counselling in:
Family Law
Separation
Anxiety/ Depression
Trauma
Grief/Loss
Anger Management
Relationships


My approaches I will use in session is mainly solution focus and per

son-centred therapy, I honour that the client is the expert in their own life and I support them to discover this through counselling. I offer a safe and supportive space, where you can talk about your difficulties or challenges you are currently experiencing, I want to help you find positive ways to manage the current situation

I see you....We do not talk enough about the healing power of simply being with someone in their darkness. Not to fix, n...
16/08/2025

I see you....

We do not talk enough about the healing power of simply being with someone in their darkness.

Not to fix, not to distract, but to offer quiet presence.

For the person living with a hidden illness, that presence can be a lifeline, a moment to feel seen not dismissed.

Invisible illnesses often take more than health.

They can take the freedom to do the everyday things many people take for granted.

What was once simple living can become exhausting living, opportunities to do things without pain..

If someone you care about is walking this path, know that

đź’›your patience,
đź’›your gentleness
đź’›your willingness

to sit beside them in the shadows can bring more comfort and hope than you realise.

You are not dismissing them, you are actions are showing them:

They are not a burden.
They are not invisible.
They absolutely matter

The ability to sit in another storm is true essence of being human.

We can't have the rainbows we out the grey skies and sunshine both are part of life.

Are you able to sit with shadows?

What’s behind the mask?It’s legal, right?When the target is in their late teens, the groomer, generally a very much grow...
22/07/2025

What’s behind the mask?

It’s legal, right?

When the target is in their late teens, the groomer, generally a very much grown adult, justifies their actions by saying it is legal.

They work to build trust with families, friends, colleagues, and society to create delusion.

The defence is always the same:
"But it’s legal."

When challenged, they continue to hide behind the "But it's legal" mask.

When questioned, they want to be seen as the victim.
They want sympathy.
They want support.
But mostly, what they truly want is silence.

This is not about love.
It is about control.
It is about manipulation.
It is about avoiding accountability.

Those behind the mask choose their words carefully:

"It is legal. You’re making a big deal out of nothing."

"You don’t know them. They were so mature for their age."

"They pursued me. I’m the victim here."

These are not explanations.
They are tactics to control the narrative.

A scholarly article,
Sexual Grooming: Integrating Research, Practice, Prevention and Policy
by Winters and Jeglic (2022), states:

"An adult seeking to commit a child sexual offence may spend time and effort grooming the family and community, manipulating the surrounding environment."

These behaviours hide behind charm, likability, and legal loopholes.

The mask remains.

It is normalised because the law says it is legal.

But how comfortable would any of us truly feel
if it were our own child being targeted
by someone hiding behind this mask?

Would we still say it is acceptable
simply because the law allows it?

What about morals?
What about values, integrity, and a clear understanding
that a teenager’s brain is still very much developing?

Legal does not mean right.

The picture is much bigger than the word legal.



We are shaped by what we are raised in right??Yes  our environments plant powerful core beliefs within us. They shape ho...
12/07/2025

We are shaped by what we are raised in right??

Yes  our environments plant powerful core beliefs within us. They shape how we see the world, what we believe about ourselves, and how we learn to respond to life.

But as adults, we get to ask

Are these beliefs still serving me?

Are they enriching my life, or have they clouded it with fear, mistrust, and shame?

For years, I would have said the world was unsafe.

That it was frightening, unkind, and that I didn’t belong in it.

I carried the belief that I wasn’t enough not strong enough, not worthy enough, not loveable enough.

It took years of healing to unravel those inherited wounds.

To see that they weren’t mine to carry.

To understand, I had value.

To finally stand in the truth that I am enough and always was.

One of the greatest honours of my life beyond giving birth to my beautiful sons has been becoming a mother to my daughter.

Not by biology, but by heart.

Seven years ago today, I adopted her.

Seven years ago, I chose her.

In every way that matters, I became her natural mother  a title I carry with pride, humility, and deep reverence.
Motherhood isn’t just about birth.

It’s about who shows up.

Who stays.
Who sees.
Who loves without condition.

I knew becoming a parent meant becoming a "cycle breaker"

It meant doing the work  not just for me, but for her.

So, I chose to love differently.

I chose connection over control.
Respect over fear.

Curiosity over criticism.

I learnt to become the kind of mother I longed for.

I leant into what I would have needed and gave that to her.

And every day, I keep showing up to love, guide, and empower her to become the extraordinary woman she is meant to be. I am so proud of the amazing adult she is i all the choices she made.

Respect is a two-way street  and it begins with us, the parents.

Not through demands or fear.

But through presence, patience, and a fierce kind of love that says:

You are worthy,  you belong, and you are deeply loved 🩷

It may of just been 7 years, but it's truly been 24 years of knowing my beautiful daughter.

ULTIMATE GOAL...HAPPINESS RIGHT?🤔🗣 “If I’m happy, I’ll be content.”🗣 “If I’m happy, I’ve made it.”🗣 “If I’m happy, life ...
02/07/2025

ULTIMATE GOAL...

HAPPINESS RIGHT?🤔

🗣 “If I’m happy, I’ll be content.”
🗣 “If I’m happy, I’ve made it.”
🗣 “If I’m happy, life will be on point.”

But here’s the thing while happiness is a beautiful feeling, it’s not the only one that matters.

In fact, a 2017 Harris Poll in the U.S. found only 33% of people considered themselves happy.
So… is happiness the right thing to chase?

🔍 What if the deeper goal is meaning—a sense of purpose that anchors us in life’s storms, rather than fleeting moments of joy?

Some research suggests that constantly pursuing happiness can actually make us feel less fulfilled. It can distract us from what really matters: truth, wholeness, and emotional honesty.

đź’¬ In my work as a trauma-informed counsellor, I often say:

"All emotions are messengers. Happiness is one, but so is sadness, anger, grief, awe, and calm."
When we stop performing happiness and start connecting with our truth, we create space for something richer: a life that feels aligned, grounded, and meaningful.

🌀 Balance is everything.

Let’s stop striving for constant happiness, BUT instead seek WHOLENESS.

You matter.
You always have.

THIS is YOUR reminder that CHOICE is your superpower!

🧠 Want to read more?

Here are a couple of thought-provoking ltitles I recommend:
đź©·Four Pillars of Meaning

https://hackspirit.com/psychology-says-finding-meaning-in-life-comes-down-to-4-basic-pillars/

đź©·Trying to Be Happy Could Be Making You Miserable

https://time.com/5356657/trying-to-be-happy/



It’s not just the abuse.It’s everything that follows.For survivors of sexual assault, the trauma doesn’t end when the ab...
01/06/2025

It’s not just the abuse.
It’s everything that follows.
For survivors of sexual assault, the trauma doesn’t end when the abuse stops — it echoes through their lives, often in silence.
👉 The shame that makes speaking feel unsafe
👉 The discomfort others feel when they do speak
👉 The minimising: “It was a long time ago.”
👉 The betrayal of being told to “let it go”
👉 The abuser pretending they’re the victim
👉 The questions: “Are you sure that’s what happened?”
👉 The silence in rooms where there should be outrage
👉 The protection of reputations over truth
👉 The pressure to heal on society’s timeline
👉 The nervous system, still carrying what the mind wants to forget
👉 The fear that if they speak up, they’ll lose people — again
💔 Many want survivors quiet — because it makes them more comfortable.
But silence was never safety. It was survival.
✨And still — survivors rise.
They are among the most powerful warriors you’ll ever meet.
They rebuild themselves from the inside out.
They fight for healing their nervous system, their voice, their joy.
They speak not just for themselves — but for the ones still too afraid to.
The abuser hopes they’ll stay silent.
But we are done making silence the safest option.
Hold space. Listen. Believe.
Because speaking is an act of rebellion, healing, and power.

👇 Here’s a critical article shedding light on truths too often ignored:
https://amp.smh.com.au/national/the-shocking-number-of-australian-men-sexually-attracted-to-children-and-teens-20231117-p5ekum.html

If I had a DeLorean time machine…Would I direct myself down different paths?Absolutely. I often ask myself that question...
05/05/2025

If I had a DeLorean time machine…

Would I direct myself down different paths?

Absolutely. I often ask myself that question.

There are moments I wish I’d screamed the truth,
avoided certain situations,
stood in my courage more.

I wish I hadn’t carried other people’s baggage.

I wish I’d stood boldly in my boundaries.

The endless list of should’ve, could’ve, wished I hadn’t…

Of course I’d love to reconnect with loved ones who’ve passed.
Tell them how much I love them,
how deeply important they were.

But we all saw what happened in Back to the Future…

Changing the past robs us of our HUMAN side.
The part that didn’t ask for storms.

The part that never wanted the tragedy, the betrayal, the bullying…

Oh yes, I would’ve wanted that DeLorean during those horrendous chapters—
what I call the life TORNADOES.

But when the storm passes, and you look at the damage—
honestly, the soul damage—it’s overwhelming.

That’s when I breathe.
Because the tornado reminds me:
life is unpredictable.
In the depths of trauma, in the chaos I never asked for…
yes, I’ve craved the magic of a time machine.

But it wouldn’t have been organic.
It wouldn’t have taught me wisdom.

Without the storms,
I’d be clueless about empathy.

I wouldn’t understand LOVE,
or the essence of hard work and its quiet rewards.

That little girl—exposed too early to harsh truths—
had no idea what lay ahead.

Sure, the DeLorean could have delivered me to safety.

Helped me outrun the unsavoury souls.
But how would I know JOY,
if pain never showed up?

How would I comprehend
GRATITUDE,
GROWTH,
EMPATHY?

Truth is—I wouldn’t.
Someone once told me,
"Everything happens for a reason."
And I remember looking at them—horrified.
The audacity to suggest that the horrendous acts inflicted on children, youth, adults… had a reason?

No.

Nobody asks for the TORNADOES.

We just hope to find the glimmers—
and hold on to something that looks like hope.











Then there were humans like us...Where fear no longer chained us to perfectionism.Where we became REAL.We hurt.We cry.We...
01/05/2025

Then there were humans like us...
Where fear no longer chained us to perfectionism.
Where we became REAL.
We hurt.
We cry.
We scream, shout, and grow weary.
We get it—
We gave up on chasing perfect a long time ago.
And what even is perfect?
Unattainable. And that... is so beautiful.
As we stepped into our realness,
we stopped pretending to be bulletproof.
No more “invincible warrior” masks.
Instead, we wove resilience through the threads of our soul.
To those who threw stones,
who labelled us,
who flung mud—
We say:
DO YOU.
We learned to let go.
To wash away the mud.
To peel off the labels.
An opinion?
It’s just a word.
Perfectionism is fantasy.
We don’t always need answers.
We don’t need to pretend to face the world.
We get real.
We get vulnerable.
We get courageous.
And in that courage,
we meet REALISM—
every day,
every hour,
every minute.
No more hiding.
We relish being ourselves.
BE YOU.
DO YOU.
FOR YOU.
The beauty of imperfection...
Choose to accept yourself—
All of you.
Your body.
Your personality.
Your beautiful, messy, glorious self.
Some days you’ll ROCK this world.
Some days you’ll crawl into bed wondering why you couldn’t.
Choose it all.
And always—
Look for the gold nuggets,
The lessons,
The growth.
And grow.
And grow.
Into the unique,
A M A Z I N G
YOU.

Worth measuring...How do you do it?Me, in my life — well, I no longer measure my worth based on whether someone accepts ...
27/04/2025

Worth measuring...

How do you do it?

Me, in my life — well, I no longer measure my worth based on whether someone accepts me or not.

The truth is, for years I tortured myself, my self-worth, using the acceptance method.
It went something like this:
If people like me, I must be good.
If people dislike me, I must be bad.
Does this resonate?
There were years I yearned to be loved by others — and honestly, who doesn’t?
Love is amazing.
But chasing it that way?
It’s soul-draining.
Years of tears and heartache, wishing to be accepted — within family, amongst friendship circles...
I became haunted by the feeling that something was wrong with me.
That I was flawed, simply because someone decided they didn't like me.
But this?

This is what can appear when you've lived a trauma-based life.

Healing brought insight.
I began to measure me by what I bring to the table:
Am I being the best version of myself?
Am I growing?
(Some days, honestly, I don't always bring my best — because I am human.)
The truth is, some people will never like you.

Jealousy, control, their own unresolved issues — it’s often not even about you.
It’s about them.

We cannot control what others feel or do.

So letting go of those suffocating measurements —
those old indicators of whether I am "good" or "bad" based on others —
they needed to be thrown onto the same pile shame sits on.
Left there to rot alongside shame.
For a long time, my life was nothing more than surviving and dying inside.
Something had to give.

So, I chose to start believing in me.
I chose to challenge myself each day:
Be true to my values.
Live my beliefs.
Hold my integrity.
We can’t help it if our uniqueness, our essence, isn’t for everyone.
We have to anchor ourselves back to our core.

Bringing it back to:
What is in my control.
Chaining our self-worth to the opinions of others?
Exhausting.
Damaging.

Choice truly is a superpower.
***de

Be courageous, they say!Courage isn't just showing up. Courage is investing in you! It is an ultimate investment of self...
20/03/2025

Be courageous, they say!

Courage isn't just showing up.

Courage is investing in you!

It is an ultimate investment of self-love, self compassion.

I honestly believe those who take the step to sit and talk about their problems, their struggles, how to navigate healing...

This quote speaks volumes by Maria Consigilo

"That part of myself I respect the most is the survivor in me. I keep going, even when so many would quit a long time ago. There is a special place in my heart for all the survivors out there who are still here and still trying. I honour you, and I salute you."

That is courage at its finest.

Don't dismiss that courage within ..

It generally is the first step to begin to take your life back and steer it to that path called healing...

You matter you always have.

Choice truly is a superpower...đź’›

***de          

When life gets tough, we can sometimes head down similar roads...Natural urge paths I like to call them...👇👇👇👇👇👇👇So do n...
27/01/2025

When life gets tough, we can sometimes head down similar roads...

Natural urge paths I like to call them...

👇👇👇👇👇👇👇
So do not allow..

Loneliness, make you reconnect with toxic people you have let go of..

If you are currently navigating a stormy situation, it may be an opening or a solution as it's familiar to you to allow toxic souls back into your environment again...

When I say environment, I am talking about your mind, your SOUL, your life.

Take the step to keep boundaries in PLACE, you deserve happiness, you deserve peace, you deserve a drama free life...

So stand by you and your values.

Place your focus on the new path you are carving out.

Reach out, connect, and speak up to your tribe your people.. you will be surprised to find how FREE life can be when you stand with YOUR RESILIENCE.
:
:
Old patterns may arise in times of stress, overwhelm.
:
CHOICE is a superpower...choose to enrich your life, choose to break old habits, choose to understand you deserve happiness not the pain, not the drama, not the headaches, not the stress that toxic relationships may of brought to you...
:
If you chose to remove them from your life prior to this physical distancing, there had to be a very good reason to do so.

Remember YOU!

         

This time of year can be a whole bunch of triggering thoughts and feelings. Some of us will be experiencing it with a l...
20/12/2024

This time of year can be a whole bunch of triggering thoughts and feelings.

Some of us will be experiencing it with a loved one that has passed, some will be navigating as a single parent, and some may be doing it differently because a lot changed in 2024.

What I take from this time of year is a reminder to be kind.

Most importantly, to be kind to yourself.

Be aware that every person is coming into this time of the year with their own story.

Some of us will be disappointed, despondent, and perhaps confused as we had watched some people who committed horrendous wrongs allowed to be free to live without any consequences.

But, this is a time to reflect and focus on you and the ones you love.

What's in your control?

Kindness!

Kindness does not cost us anything.

Kindness is a smile.

Kindness is a cheer to a stranger, wishing them well.

Kindness is responding to that salesperson. They deal with a lot of disgrunted people this time of year who perhaps haven't been kind.

Kindness is returning a greeting to whoever may have wished you a Merry Christmas or Happy holidays or just simple blessings.

Kindness is being genuinely patient.

Kindness is respecting others' boundaries.

Kindness is reflecting and being aware of your own behaviours.

This Christmas thing is just a day, it is not about the presents, it is not about the big feast, it is not about many things..

However, it is a reminder that you exist, you matter, there is hope, there are many things beyond this day that truly matter.

So please be kind.đź’›

We do not know everyone's story.

We do not have to have $$$$ to be kind.

It's a beautiful gift to yourself and others.

***de        

We are what we feel right? Well, yes because we will roll with the feelings. Emotional wellbeing... It certainly wasn't ...
05/11/2024

We are what we feel right?

Well, yes because we will roll with the feelings.

Emotional wellbeing...

It certainly wasn't something I was taught in school.

It wasn't something that was listened too, discussed, or accepted.

Dark emotions to be hushed, shunned, dismissed.

Told, don't be sad, don't be stressed, don't cry, snap out of it, that anger, that just is not tolerated.

So imagine,  we are shunned, judged,  hushed on how we feel, we suppress, we shame ourselves.

Because these emotions are reactive, creating reactions that can be damaging..

Survival mode, I often discuss this in sessions with clients. I will let you in on a secret we were never meant to sustain a life in SURVIVAL MODE.

In survival mode we react  its our fight and flight.  Impulsively we make decisions,  these decisions can de destructive. 

Detaching us from our world who care for us, friends, family  isolated, alone as the reaction has placed yet another big wall up.

The emotions are so strong,  heavy and difficult to focus on anything that presents through the day.

All decisions are being made from that emotional state... I am angry, I am hurt, I am furious, I am sad.. fair to say that in these states we may not make the greatest decisions. 

We sit in that emotional state, unable to regulate it.

Regulate? Yes, we can grab the handlebars, by being concious  getting understanding just how our nervous system works. Accepting the feelings coming up.

Stopping, pausing, grabbing a moment to be really conscious of the feelings, these strong emotions..

Not shoving them down, dismissing them, or just running from those shunned emotions..

Emotional regulation? Exactly what is that?

It is learning how to accept the emotions,  how to understand what I call a superpower choice.

Choice allows us to make decisions consciously.

It is choosing a different path way, a habit, boundaries or routines.

***de      

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