Dear Me Mother-to-Be (2025)

05/08/2025

Wouldn’t it be nice if every woman felt loved, supported, and held during pregnancy?

Many women felt isolated and alone during the ups and downs of pregnancy.

❣️If you are a pregnant mumma (or a woman hoping to be soon) don’t overlook the importance of having good supports around you during this time, especially in the form of nurturing wise women. If you have them in your life spend more time with them and ask them for support.

❣️If you don’t have supportive women in your life consider paid supports like hiring a doula, finding a great therapist, attending a women’s circle, or joining online groups.

We live in a culture that praises hyper-individualism but as social beings we need others to connect with, to support us, to walk with us, especially during vulnerable and expansive times like pregnancy.

Get your pregnancy to-do list out and write down connection and find my tribe! 👯‍♀️💕👯‍♀️

03/08/2025

Many of us women are going through pregnancy and birth without support or guidance from older mature mothers. There isn’t enough guidance about how to let go of the maiden childless version of ourselves and how to really become a mature mother. Not enough rituals to mark the huge rite of passage that it is.

Maidens need guidance and support during the vulnerable time of pregnancy, just as mothers need the same when mothering.

It wasn’t until I dived deep into maiden to mother work to really understand the transformation I’d just been through that I felt supported, seen, and had a clear picture of what I needed to do to feel more grounded and confident as a mother.

If you are pregnant and want to do not just honor your transition from maiden into mother but also do some inner work to truly prepare for motherhood then I have created a supportive eBook for you.

It gives a clear overview of what happens when a woman changes from childless to mother, has prompt questions to help you create shifts within yourself, and also has snippets of my own story and practical suggestions for action to help guide you on your journey.

From Maiden to Mother is available on my website. 🌹

24/07/2025

I just had to do another version of this trend but focused on mental health because it’s so overlooked in pregnancy.

Some of this advice comes from my professional experience as a Counsellor and some of it comes from my own personal experience of becoming a mother.

What else would you add? 🩷

17/07/2025

I know many women will say “yes of course discussions on risks are important” and say they fully agree but..
when a practice they love is challenged and risks are mentioned, they become defensive and don’t want to engage in an open honest conversation. 🫤

This came up recently with the discussion around water births on social media and the commotion it caused! Some women just flat out did not want to hear that there may be risks involved in birthing in water because they staunchly want to believe it is completely safe and risk-free.

We need to get better at having respectful conversations and keeping an open mind. We need to get better at not taking things personally and separating our own story from a general discussion or a critique of an intervention or practice.

When we discuss the risks of an intervention or practice it doesn’t mean we are attacking or judging women who have had them; we are critiquing the intervention, practice, or system, not the women themselves.

We need to get better at having honest conversations about risks when it comes to pregnancy and birth. Period.

Thoughts??

09/07/2025

What I literally would tell my best friend if she was pregnant 😘

Did any of these offend?? Tell me👇🏼

09/07/2025

Journal sneak peek inside 📕🌹Question from section two, Preparing for Labour.

⚡️”What are some tools or strategies you could use to manage any fears and/or negative thoughts that arise during labour?”

If you are a pregnant mumma wanting to do everything you can to prepare for birth you need to think about this question because you will at some stage of labour be challenged by your mind. Your mind telling you it’s too hard, too painful, you can’t do it, that something is wrong, etc etc.

Be organized by reflecting on this question and making a list of tools you can turn to during labour. It’s also a great question to share your answers with people in your birth support team.

I remember for me, this question helped me be prepared with a list of tools to use during the hard moments of labour. When my mind started saying “this is too hard” I focused on my breath. That worked well for a while until it didn’t, so then I used visualizations. Then it was onto the next tool and then the next and so on. By thinking about this before labour I felt like I knew what to do in those moments when it felt tough mentally and emotionally.

The question above, and others like it, are available in section two of the Dear Me Mother-to-be pregnancy journal. Filled with 48 prompt questions to help you feel supported during pregnancy, to help you heal and process your emotions, and to help you prepare mentally and emotionally for labour and motherhood.

Order your copy today 📕🌹

04/07/2025

Homebirth friends of the Yarra Valley 📣 Our next meet is happening. Come join us 😄🤰🏻👩🏻‍🍼👶🏻🏡 Hosted by myself and another local homebirthing mumma

Our intention is to create a safe place for homebirthing mums and their families to come and share their experiences whilst connecting with other local homebirthing families. It is also an opportunity for those with a respectful interest in homebirth to come and learn more.

There’s no need to RSVP, but ideally if you can join our WhatsApp group, it will be helpful in case of last minute changes or updates. DM me for the link.

If you have any questions, just reach out ❤️ we look forward to meeting you!

30/06/2025

Some quotes from the book Birthing From Within by Pam England and Rob Horowitz. 👌🏼

I’ve just added this gem to my Pregnancy & Birth Reading List.📚 It’s a free downloadable list on my website that saves you time with a list of all the best books for expanding your mind during pregnancy and deepening your knowledge of birth. I provide a short synopsis of what each book is about and why I personally love it. And trust me the books I have listed aren’t your usual run of the mill pregnancy and birth books. 😉

I have been meaning to read this book, Birthing from Within, for a while as I love Pam England’s work and had read her other book, Labyrinth of Birth, which I loved. This one did not disappoint.

Head to my website and download my free reading list to hear all about this book and why it might be one you should read. 📚

24/06/2025

The Dear Me Mother-to-be pregnancy journal was created for the brave women who want to be transformed during pregnancy.

❤️‍🔥It is filled with 48 reflective questions to facilitate powerful inner work and healing, and assist with mental preparation for labour and motherhood.

❤️‍🔥It goes deep on many topics that commonly arise for women during pregnancy, such as addressing labour fears, the mother wound, and worries about motherhood.

Dear Me Mother-to-be is proudly a mum-run Australian business. We give a percentage of profits to the Australian charity Birthing on Country.

Shop Now link in bio. 🌹

08/06/2025

If you have never journaled and worry it will be too hard or boring know that it can also be fun and rewarding! Many people feel a sense of relief when they journal, they feel lighter, clearer and calmer. 😌

Journalling may genuinely feel boring to some people of course but as an experienced Counsellor I know that *sometimes* labelling something as boring can be a cover up for something deeper: a way of avoiding something that feels uncomfortable or challenging.

For years I thought journalling was boring too and I avoided it like the plague even though it was encouraged as something to try during my counselling studies. I hated it the first few times but then slowly I realized I felt so good after it and I realized that the parts of it I didn’t like (slowing down, facing my thoughts head on and admitting to my true feelings) were exactly what I actually needed the most in my life! And soon it became one of my favourite self-care/wellness practices.

If you have never tried journalling maybe now, whilst pregnant, is a good time to give it a go. Not only can it be a soothing mindful practice to help you slow down during pregnancy but it also supports your mental and emotional wellness, and nurtures you through this huge transition into motherhood. 💞

07/06/2025

Pregnancy can be so hard in many ways. The nausea, the back pain, the trouble sleeping, the food aversions, and more!

But when baby arrives and you hold them in your arms you forget everything. It doesn’t matter anymore because suddenly they are in your arms. You look into their tiny eyes and your heart explodes knowing every single minute of pain and challenge you went through was worth it. ♥️

Am I right mummas?? Drop a ♥️ if you know the feeling.

*Of course this does not take away from the fact that pregnancy can be traumatic for some women and if that’s you.. you are allowed to not feel good about it and there’s no shame in saying it’s hard or sharing your story. I am by no means saying you should feel grateful and dismiss your challenging prgenancy experience.

27/05/2025

When I was pregnant I remember I had this moment thinking but “who is going to help me during labour? What if I can’t do it?” And in my heart I knew the answer. No one. I had to do it. No one could save me from the pain and challenge of labour.

I actually felt a lot of fear around this feeling of being alone during labour which I actively addressed through therapy and journalling. I had to re-frame this and make meaning out of why it was okay to feel alone. It was on me to birth my baby, no one else. Once I really acknowledged and processed this I felt less scared or worried about how I would do it.

Of course having an amazing nurturing birth team is extremely important and no one should feel unsupported.

🌉 Did you fear walking the bridge of birth alone? How did you cope? Share below for the first time pregnant ladies to see.

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