26/06/2023
An authentic apology is a critical part of repairing the hurt you have caused your partner. However, simply saying, “I’m sorry,” doesn’t mean you’ve properly apologized.
To offer an apology that will reassure your partner, make sure you’re doing the following:
Rapidly address the issue: The sooner you repair this, the less likely it will form a long-term memory and cause future problems.
Be fully present: Remove all distractions. Maintain eye contact with your partner so you can see how they are receiving your words. If you notice something is wrong, stop everything and tend to their pain.
Actively listen: Give your partner the space to share their feelings. Repeat what you think they are saying. Ensure that you fully understand them.
Be specific: Instead of a generic "I'm sorry," apologize for the exact action or behavior that caused your partner pain.
Own your mistake: Take full responsibility. Avoid shifting back to your partner by saying things like, "I'm sorry you felt that way."
Don’t explain your intentions: Your reasons behind the action aren't as important as the impact it had on your partner. Apologize for your behavior, don’t justify it.
Keep these steps in mind the next time you have to apologize. The better you become at sincerely apologizing, the safer you both will feel in your relationship.
