27/10/2025
I'd like to speak to something that I am noticing within my practice when treating women navigating midlife changes within their bodies.
I'm sharing for the purpose of self inquiry and reflection which has come through what I have learnt from their bodies and through inquiry within my own body.
At midlife you know yourself, It is your self knowledge that is your biggest obstacle preventing you from already being your emerging self. Simply said, you have a bad habit of being yourself and you want to expand beyond this, which is creating inner conflict.
You are becoming...
The one that is itching to be freed, from the habits, paradigms and mindsets of the familiar self.
There is an assessment and a re-calibration taking place, you are still growing.
You are becoming...
During transition there is death, and with death, there is the experience of grief.
The peri-menopausal woman has begun her journey, moving along the stages of the grief continuum meeting denial, anger, bargaining and depression. As she grieves the changes in her life stage.
Her inner and outer shifts of awareness, circumstance and her bodily changes.
She grieves the life not lived, the places where she was not herself, the places where with the knowledge she now holds, she would have chosen differently, she grieves her lack of autonomy.
She grieves her younger naive self, the people pleaser.
She grieves the journey of mothering (or the unmet desire for motherhood) and she grieve the passing of time.
She grieves not embracing her full expression, for fear of rejection and grieves a lack of belonging.
She grieves for a culture that wasn't lead by the feminine life giving and inspirational energy, she grieves a lack of safety.
And so you cry and you rage,
Because know you know more...
As you meet truth, find clarity, remember to befriend curiosity and attend to the truth of your inner wise woman, who nurtures and tends to your inner authority.
You are becoming...
Retrieval of our rejected parts feels integral to receive the final stage of grief, that of ACCEPTANCE.
The process of reintegrating our full selves back into the energetic body. It is the personal work of each soul and psyche to enter into retrieval and re-integration. To practice self compassion and return to self love to re-calibrate and re-activate our energy for this new phase.
Your body is inviting you to explore and tend to your emerging self. It wants the loving presence that was previously lacking, when you tried to fit a shape that will no longer hold.
You are becoming...
The loving self acceptance required to enter with full power and presence our final life stage, to be in the wisdom of our winter season of Eldership.
We must meet our truth, She must find clarity, she must befriend curiosity and align with the truth of your inner wise woman, who nurtures you and tends to your inner authority.
Our nurturing force must turn towards ourselves with radical self acceptance and truly begin to mother ourselves. To anchor into our bodies belonging, you were always meant to be you, as you are, not trapped in comparisons.
As we tend to all of our parts and reintegrate our energy to return to fullness. We begin the process of transforming back into the dark mother, full and potent with potential. We begin to walk along side death, and life is realised as precious and you the gift. We begin to restore the essences of our created power back to the formless expanse.
Our leaked energy must first condense back into our form, we must accept all of ourselves before we reach our final stage and return back to the void. To keep our linage clear and clean for our family line.
We must partake in the inner soul work of truly loving ourselves. We return this back into the alive unified field of the dark mother.
She is becoming...
It may be useful to add in the comments below how this lands for you.
