"It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know
if you can sit with pain mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own.
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done.
It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.
Oriah Mountain Dreamer - The invitation
Image: French Riviera.
10/09/2023
Glastonbury Training well underway with our amazing trainer Vivienne .
Exciting to be travelling around the world next year to share this work.
Let us know if you would like to collaborate.
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16/08/2023
CLINICALTANTRA.COM
Is making its way over to the U.K this September
Let’s grow this amazing community even further and learn tools and techniques for expansion and opening through a program that is something else entirely.
14/08/2023
ok... I think its time to bring this page back to life... Apologies for the significant delay... its been Quite a ride through Covid - Being in the longest lockdown city in the world - and finding time post lockdowns to find balance while being absorbed by projects and creations from there.
Life is Fluid. We must not resist the fluidity and allow the current of life to flow through us.
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BioHacking Relationships. The Evolution of Love: How to build an intelligent relationship
BioHacking into Relationships to make them great again.
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The Journey of Erotic IQ - Founder and pioneer of the Erotic IQ Movement - Jaida Suheyla Simone wants to make Intelligence the pillar of relationships.
Relationships have stayed stagnant for the past 300 years. Its all about romance, love, emotions and addictions. We are not moving forward into the new era of exponential growth nor are we tapping into our own human potential.
Now imagine a relationship in which we placed intelligence at the forefront of that relationship. We planned, integrated, strategised, and used our own technology to revolutionise the commitment to ones self, to the other as well as to the future generations.
In September 2017, Jaida Suheyla Simone gave a TEDXMELBOURNE talk on just this topic. Titled 'how Biohacking can make relationships great again', she spoke on just that.
The system and social conditioning that we are all in has made us into a tool to benefit giant corporations. We are moulded by the songs that we listen to, the movies that we watch, the books that we read and social media. We see 'Love' as something of a fairy tale. We think that we will all Fall in love, Get Married and live happily ever after. But it doesn't always work that way. We create an 'Ideal' in our minds of what we 'Think' a relationship should be, and when it doesn't turn out that way, we are deeply dissapointed and hurt. When our fantasies of 'The One', 'Mr & Mrs right', the 'Perfect Person' don't come into our reality, we think that something is vitally wrong. We think we are not good enough, that we dont 'look' the right way, or 'dress' the right way, or are 'seen' the right way, and so we struggle with self worth, dissappointment and eventually fall into what the World Health Organisation states is the leading cause of disability worldwide – Depression.
The formulation of this social construct of relationships are benefiting multi billion dollar industries. For example, the Beauty industry, 'if only I looked a certain way I would fall in love and someone will love me', the fitness industry 'if only my body looked a certain way then I would find love, social media – if only I took a few more selfies then I would find love'. When we find ourselves unable to sustain our relationships – we delve into a cycle of attempting to create a self that not only dissolves our confidence, but our self worth, inflicting our abilities and ultimately our careers, families and friends. Until, we are mustered into thinking that if we Looked, dressed, acted a certain way then we will find love. And so we are thrown back into the viscious cycle again. Who benefits from this - “Those” Multi Billion Dollar industries.
Jaida is calling for everyone to Wake Up. Evolve from this dynamic and create a new paradigm of change. She calls the solution – Erotic IQ.
Each of us have different levels of erotic IQ, and these level fall onto a spectrum. Our Erotic IQ stems from life experiences, exposure, and the desire or pull to learn more. Developing and mastering our Erotic IQ is one of the most important self development tools to master in our adult lives.
Erotic IQ can be defined as the ability to understand one's own and other people's erotic capabilities, attitudes, aptitudes and to discern between different information to guide thinking, relating and behaviour in our relationships. Erotic IQ is also the abilitiy to utilise intelligence to enhance interpersonal relationships and understanding of interpersonal dynamics.
Our relationships come in different cycles and stages. Jaida Suheyla mentions in her Tedx Talk – that 'There is no Bachelor Degree of Love or Masters Degree of Marriage' – so how can we be ready and prepared for these cycles and stages?
The 6 stages of moving through the Erotic IQ spectrum can be defined as the following according to Jaida Suheyla ;
Stage 1
The Shadow Walk – To work through the Shadow component of ourselves as defined by Carl Jung, one of the Fore-founders of Modern Psychotherapy. To change our past, understand our behaviours and patterns and work to resolving any unconscious issues or baggage that lies deep within our subconscious. The Shadow can create big clashes in integration and connection with another, hence why we need to understand and take a walk through the Shadow. This is done as a Couple – together.
Stage 2.
Vegetotherapy & BioEnergetics – Working through the Somatics of the Body. Clearing the Body armour as defined by Wilhelm Reich – one of the leading Psychoanalysts of the 20th Century. Our body holds onto memories, generally formed by the Shadow Self. Opening the physical realm to the potential of living as a part of this world is essential.
Stage 3
Learning new Ways of Intimacy – Once taking a Shadow Walk, and a Bioenergetic cleanse, the couple can learn to master new ways of intimacy. Generally our experiences of S*x, intimacy and connection are very limited. Stage three brings in new forms of learning that you do as a couple. Bodywork, Sacred S*xuality, Sensuality practices and so much more than what we think we know of. Utilising Arousal Prototypes, The pleasure Spectrum, Eastern S*xual Mastery, this stage enables intimacy with Fullfillment and a deep connection. In essense, your engineering and designing your own s*x life.
Stage 4
The fourth stage begins the Neuro Engineering and Neuro Synchronicity part of the Erotic IQ spectrum. Being able to synchronise the brains together in Brain coupling. Neuroscience has shown this to be a possibility. Engineering the brain in order to synch with the other and be able to utilise this in our everyday lives. She mentioned in her Tedx talk that Neuroscience calls is Neuro Synchronicity, Quantum Physics calls is Quantum Entanglement and 'you' may know it as being on the same Wavelength. This stage forms the ability to navigate through lifes Cycles and Stages.
Stage 5
known as the Symbiotic Flow state. To be able to access peak experiences and altered states when life brings you a new stage. For example, when the first child is born, or when a crisis hits, or when we come across disappointments and failures or big wins and successes. The ability to Symbiotically connect together as a couple to better prepare for these stages is essential. Most problems in relationships occur when this connection is broken. The inability to understand or communicate to the other in relation to these life cycles and stages. This is an important part of the Erotic IQ spectrum.
Stage 6
But just as Symbiotic Flow states occurs in life Cycles and Stages – you are going in and out of peak and altered experiences. The Key is to be able to maintain the relationship in LEVEL 6 of the Erotic IQ spectrum. This is known as the Plateau experience – as coined by Abraham Maslow – one of the founding fathers of Positive Psychology. As we are in Symbiotic flow state which is turned off and then on – the Plateau Experience is a State of Transcendence which is 'Always Turned On'. This is where the relationship is formed into a sustainable, secure and long term connection. Some people feel that this is the state where coupes who have been married for 50 years are in. Its true, they may be. But if two people are willing to bring their entire 'all' into a relationship, have children and commit to one another – why, then, cannot the Plateau experience occur when a couple have been together for 10 years?
Erotic IQ is a totally new way of looking at relationships, it is an alternative view to couples therapy. A positive psychology, solution focused program. Plans don't fail, one just fails to plan. This is just as important as our relationships as it is for everything else. Bringing our intelligence, rather than our emotions as the most important aspect of our relationships will enable our relationships to be great again.
And as Jaida says ' lets take the plunge to master this human potential, because Erotic IQ has never been as important or as needed as it is today”
