John Arber Counselling & Hypnotherapy

03/08/2025

Tempus Fugit! Time indeed flies—I can hardly believe it’s been over two years since I retired. During that time, I’ve often toyed with the idea of writing a book. I weighed two paths: one a personal memoir, the other a clinically focused guide to support others on their journeys of healing and growth. In the end, I chose to dedicate my effort to the latter.
Today, I’m proud to share that my “gunna” has become a “doing.” My book is well underway. This project draws on decades of experience in counseling, education, and rehabilitation, and is shaped by a passion for clarity, compassion, and accessibility. I hope it will resonate with individuals navigating recovery, as well as professionals seeking tools to better support them.
Stay tuned—there’s much more to come!

02/01/2023

AFTER MANY YEARS I have now Retired.
Thank you to all those who have supported me over those years
Best wishes John

06/04/2022

The Penn-led research, using a dataset of more than 36,000 adults, revealed that going from one to two drinks a day was associated with changes in the brain equivalent to aging two years. Heavier drinking was linked with an even greater toll.

21/03/2022

⁉️ 💔 Being cheated on is an excruciating experience and the feelings that come with it leave you feeling all sorts of way.

You’re emotionally flooded and feel betrayed, angry, even embarrassed, which would leave anyone heartbroken.

But it is during this time, dealing with intrusive thoughts and painful triggers is critical. Remember, there is a lot of healing to be done.

You may be finding yourself asking, why did this happen? Here John explains some of the common reasons people choose to cheat. 🆘 https://johnarber.com.au/after-the-affair/

Being cheated on is an excruciating experience and the feelings that come with it leave you feeling all sorts of way. We understand, you’re emotionally flooded and feel betrayed, angry, even embarrassed, which would leave anyone heartbroken.   But it is during this time, dealing with intrusive t...

14/03/2022

Grief is multifaceted, it impacts on all aspects of life, it is an ongoing experience, one that changes both our internal and external worlds.

Credit: whatsyourgrief.com

07/03/2022

The DRINKiQ quiz will help you find out how much you really know about drinking

07/03/2022

My Partner Won't Stop LYING 😡😔

You might be feeling frustrated, sad, angry or even a bit crazy because all you want is a straight answer without a fight BUT for some reason your partner never seems to be on the same page.

It is not only self destructive, but it also harms your relationship and stunts a relationships growth and development, making it impossible to move forward.

Compulsive lying can be a learned behaviour. It can stem from avoiding conflict and telling the person what they want to hear. It can also occur with people with low self-esteem, so they embellish stories to impress those around them. It can stem back from childhood or past or present relationships.

Click for full article on compulsive lying here....https://johnarber.com.au/my-partner-is-a-compulsive-liar/

We have all lied at some point in our lives, it comes naturally for most of us, for instance, we might complement someone’s shirt even if we don’t find it attractive or say we are fine when we are not. However, some people lie out of compulsion. Such a person who’s prone to continuous, often [...

20/02/2022

⚽️🎱It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or stressed during the week, especially since the world is pretty topsy-turvy right now. It’s essential to take some time for yourself and relax!
https://johnarber.com.au/tips-to-imptove-your-mental-wellbeing/

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or stressed during the week, especially since the world is pretty topsy-turvy right now. It’s essential to take some time for yourself and relax. There are various ways you can look after your mental health during this time, hopefully making it a little easier. He...

17/02/2022

❤️ 💔 The love stories and movies we’ve all grown up watching, portray what real should ideally look like. They glorify relationships and make it seem like a good idea.

After all, who wouldn’t want to ride off into the sunset together and live happily ever after?

But the stories make it look so easy. But if you go and ask any person in a relationship, they’ll tell you, in real life, is sometimes anything but easy.

Come to think of it, no one teaches us how to have a happy, healthy relationship. The movies end when the couple hooks up, the stories end with happily ever after, but no one shows what really happens after.

The best models young couples have is their parents and if they didn’t model it for them, then they will have no idea how to do it on their own.

Almost all relationships have problems. Some couples are better at working through the thick and thin better than others, but they all have them.

This article takes a look at the top five most common problems most relationships face and how a couple can overcome them.

https://johnarber.com.au/probelms-in-relationships/

Do you feel like your once happy relationship has turned sour? John Arber Counselling can help. Call John on 0418 720 176

07/02/2022

✨Sometimes the key to living a lighter, more free version of yourself is getting someone to talk to.

Contact me today for an initial free chat: https://johnarber.com.au/online-counselling/

30/12/2021

Stigma around addiction may come from old and inaccurate ideas or fear of things that are different or misunderstood. Addiction is a chronic, treatable medical condition from which people can recover and lead healthy lives. Feeling stigmatized can make people with substance use disorders less willing to seek treatment. As a first step, when talking to or about people with SUD, try to use words that aren’t stigmatizing. https://loom.ly/xRxtWRY

30/11/2021

Since the arrival of COVID-19 there’s been speculation that drinking would increase – and with it, increased alcohol-related harms. So, what’s the real impact? And where do we go from here?