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11/07/2025

08/07/2025

I know you will have been there
That place where you child is screaming at you “I hate you, you’re the worst mum/dad ever”

It is so hard to hear, especially if you are a PDA parent and have a huge sense of burden or just general feelings of under appreciation about how much you do and give up for your child.

I hear that, I see you.

It might be that in that moment your own inner child is triggered by feelings of being unlovable.

Staying curious and getting support for me from a family therapist who works in internal family systems (IFS Model by Richard C. Schwartz) has been a game changer for finding responsiveness rather than reaction in these moments.

It allowed me to see how this younger part of me was showing up in relationship with my children because of this believe that they were unlovable. It was big hard work and still is to sit with that part and let them know they are now safe, loved and secure to allow me more moments to pause when I hear those words.

It’s a good place to start if you feel you might have this belief of being unlovable from your own childhood.

Do you feel like this could be influencing your communication with your child ?

17/06/2025

04/06/2025

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04/06/2025

Why the w-sitting position can be a problem for some kids…

When a child prefers to sit in the w-sitting position, it can be a sign of poor muscle tone. Their body has to adjust to a comfortable sitting position to stabilize their…

💪Core
💪Trunk
💪Posture

Kids who have one or more retained Primitive Reflexes may also sit in this position as a way to compensate for the retention.

As a result, you may find the child having a hard time with:

🤔Slouching in their chair
🤔Poor eye-hand coordination
🤔Clumsy handwriting
🤔Attention and focus issues

To find out additional signs and what can happen to the body and learning development with retained Primitive Reflexes that can cause w-sitting, comment “W Sitting” and we’ll send you the link.

04/06/2025

23/05/2024

Just a little light reading this evening :)

11/05/2024

Not all days will you be the parent your PDA kid needs, because it’s simply not possible to be someone else’s everything in terms of support and regulation all of the time, without loosing some or all of yourself depending on your own neurodivergence, trauma and/or regulation.

This picture is about two years old and at the time I couldn’t see the funny side, which is what my son intended. I put the I love you sticker on and he put the dead eye crosses on in response.

I just felt gutted that he wanted me dead, Crossed out. I had been working so hard to rebuild with him, because nearly everyday he told me he wanted his dad and I to divorce so he could live with him.

I felt like a failure which is a big trigger for my rage. And then my shame at the rage followed. I spiralled for days. He felt this as PDA’rs are so receptive to others moods but didn’t know why. This could not of made his feel safe or loved.

In the moment I couldn’t connect in and see my desperation to be loved by him was a massive demand for my PDA’r.

In order to save our relationship I had to find ways to love myself in every moment no matter how broken, dysregulated or unlovable I may have felt in moments.

That love had to become unshakable, for him to feel truly loved and accepted as well.

In the big moments now (where I am regulated enough to) I ask myself if I am making a fear based or love based decision?

And that is how I rebuilt things with my kid. By choosing love for both of us. And I did it with the help of the book in the second picture. Radical self love and rebellion from the old narratives I’ve lived by continues to grow.

Sending you all much love in whatever way you need today on this Mother’s Day 2024.

08/04/2024

I remember the toddler days clearly, well not clearly because hello 5 years of solid sleep deprivation but the feeling.

The feeling was exhaustion, agitation and large amounts of anxiety. Too anxious to ask for help because I was a “professional” and a perfectionist who was tapped out and drowning in mess.

All I could see was my failings and the potential Trauma I was causing from my dysregulation.

I felt not enough, isolated, lonely, guilty, ashamed and towards the end of toddlerhood quite broken.

I can’t believe I’m the same mum now. If you had of told me it was possible I would have probably got defensive and told you that was unlikely, but here I am.

It all started with a piece of paper divided into three columns.
1- Tears
2- Teaching
3- Triumph

This paper allowed me to shift my focus to me.
Under Tears I marked down whenever my behaviour resulted in tears,

Under Teaching moments where I was able to use strategies one at a time consistently (until I didn’t have to think about them and where I used narrative from my own life to share teachable moments with out shame with my kids.

Under Triumph I wrote down when I stayed present and just held space, rather then succumbed to my overwhelm or negative thoughts.

What I had at the end of the week of definitive proof that I wasn’t doing as bad as I thought I was. There was more instances of teachable and triumph but I couldn’t remember them because the dysregulation, agitation and guilt darkened my memories and allowed me to never feel like it would get better. That I could do better. That we would develop a secure attachment.

Starting was hard but staying where I was would have been harder!

If you need some support to get started please reach out. Safe space no shame :)