Heidi Rogers

17/02/2025

Why do some parenting strategies backfire with strong-willed or neuro-SPICY kids? 🌶️🌶️

It’s not about *what* we say —it’s about *how* their brains process things!

Swipe to watch me explain it in under a minute...

--

Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz [https://quiz.prismparents.com/spicy]

At the end, you'll receive a free, in-depth report containing a bunch of insights and helpful strategies to meet their unique needs!

12/02/2025

Why are we triggered when our kids "copy bad behavior"?

It has a lot to do with the stories we tell ourselves about how they're acting.

If we shift our perspective just a little, we can reduce conflict AND build their emotional regulation muscles.

Check out this snippet from a live Q&A call in my parenting program, where you'll learn:

• Why the stories we tell ourselves can increase conflict with our kids
• The hidden reason our bodies switch to 'fight-or-flight' when we think we're being manipulated
• What our children *actually* need when it seems like they're *choosing* difficult behavior

--

Strong-willed child at home? Discover just how S.P.I.C.Y. they are with this quick, 5-minute quiz 👉 https://quiz.prismparents.com/spicy

At the end, you'll receive a free, in-depth report containing a bunch of insights and helpful strategies to meet their unique needs!

24/11/2024

Melbourne friends! Come join me LIVE! I’m at Mckinnon Primary School tomorrow!
Monday Nov 25th @ 6:30pm-8pm
-
👍Applicable for ALL ages
🏘️Open to our community
-

😎Join me to learn the NEW facts about our old friend, ANXIETY!

This workshop will cover:

Feel Confident and Empowered: Learn how to help your child when you’re feeling helpless as a parent when ‘the usual’ strategies just aren’t working.

Your Anxiety Management Toolkit: Equip yourself with my top 10 evidence-based strategies to support anxious kids.

Self-Compassion: Explore the power of self-compassion. Learn why our tendency to be hard on ourselves can make their anxiety so much worse.

Why We Have Anxiety: Identify the symptoms of anxiety and its root causes so you can take early action to address it.

What NOT To Do: Understand the 3 common mistakes we make (unintentionally!) when trying to help our anxious kids.

What Research Says: Learn what the most progressive anxiety research is saying and discover why parenting with a brain + body approach could be the missing piece in your home.

Getting School-Ready: Discover the most effective approach to managing school anxiety for less stressful bedtimes and drop-offs.

Link to register:
https://compasstix.com/e/gdakm9hjtt

Or use the link in my bio 😉

16/11/2024

🗣️Come hang out with me this week!
Thurs Nov 21- IN PERSON!!! 🥳
7:00pm-8:30pm

We are going to unpack one of the phrases I hear every day: “they only listen if I yell!”

You will learn:
• Discover the hidden reasons behind your child’s back-talk and learn how to address it effectively
• Understand how brain development impacts your child’s abitity to listen
• Learn the proven methods to transform resistance into willing cooperation
• Learn ways to build a strong connection and foster better communication
• Tools to address your specific concerns in the Q&A

🏫East Bentleigh Primary School, PAC
➡️Swipe to see the full flyer!

📍Local people: This is a Melbourne community-wide event - everyone is welcome!

🧑‍🎓Applicable for all ages

💡Please save the flyer photo (swipe) and share in any parent group chats you’re in!

PS: 👩🏻‍🏫Teachers or other social / health sectors can get a PD attendance certificate too - so share the flyer with your school or child’s teachers!

prismparents.com/yell
Or
Link in bio

14/10/2024

'Does everyone need therapy?'

It's kind of like asking 'does everyone need deodorant'?

Not strictly.

BUT...

Do you remember your last train ride on a summer day?

Or that Uber trip? Or the customs line at the airport?

Yechh...

The sights, the sounds... the... smells.

Body odor (and lack of deodorant!) in a small space is kind of like our emotional struggles and unresolved traumas.

Both have an impact on the people around us, and we often don't even realize it!

The thing to remember is that therapy benefits everyone, not just people with severe trauma.

And one of the best things we can do for our children is investing in our own mental health.

By addressing our own issues, we create a healthier, more stable environment for our family to thrive in.

Join Heidi on this hot take to find out why, and learn what you can do about it!

25/09/2024

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint 🏃‍♀️

But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to the finish line.

*It's like the parenting version Groundhog Day…*

…we roll into bed exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, and anxious because we KNOW we're only hours away from doing it all again 😑

So, here's a little secret…

*By making small changes to the way we parent each day, the wins start to rack up - fast.*

And in the process, we create a beautiful legacy for future generations.

*That's how you become a cycle breaker - by modelling a new way of parenting for your children, your grandchildren and beyond.*

So where do we start?

A great place is learning how to fill your child's 'buckets'.

This builds a solid foundation of love and understanding while preparing them to be amazing parents themselves one day.

Unpack the buckets analogy with me to learn the 3 tools you can use to help your child feel 'ok', connected and respected (which leads to better behavior and greater emotional regulation!)
👇

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint 🏃‍♀️But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to...

05/09/2024

Here's a question I recently answered for a Prism Perspective member about bedtime and phone struggles with her strong-willed teen.

While we're talking teenagers specifically here, keep in mind that the learnings are applicable for strong-willed and neurodivergent kids of any age!

This is what she asked:

"My 13-year-old SPICY child thinks she should be able to determine her bedtime, which would be anywhere up to 3am if I let her on school nights.

"When do we enforce a ‘phones off’ policy with a SPICY child?"

--

If you'd love more in-depth parenting strategies that _actually work_ with strong-willed and neurodivergent kids, Prism Perspective is exactly what you need.

No more walking on eggshells 🥚 in your own home, or pulling your hair out when generic positive parenting approaches just add fuel to the fire!

Learn more about Prism and discover the community where strong-willed, SPICY kids are understood... and FINALLY get the parenting tools that work (with the support you _need_) 👇

https://heidilinks.com/prism-fb-pp

17/07/2024

Struggling to understand and connect with your strong willed child?

Here's a reaaaaaaally common question I'm asked about parenting differently-wired kids in private practice and online:

'Why is my kid such a jerk sometimes??'

I can't tell you 'why' with 100% certainty...

But I CAN tell you they're not choosing to be this way.

What if the key to a better relationship was a simple shift in perspective?

*Key Takeaways*

1. Reframe Your Perspective: Understand that your child isn't choosing to be difficult.
2. Relationship Over Strategy: Focus on building a strong, empathetic connection.
3. Respond with Empathy: Learn how to approach discipline with kindness and curiosity.
4. Model Emotional Regulation: Show your child how to handle big feelings by example.
5. Address Shame: Recognize and respond to the signs of shame in your child.

👆 What are your thoughts when it comes to shifting perspective as a parent?

Have a strong willed child at home? It's a tough gig.Here's a reaaaaaaally common question I'm asked about parenting differently-wired kids in private practi...

25/01/2024

Return-to-school season can be brutal...

What helps?

Checklists, forward planning, adjusting our expectations and knowing how to support our children where they’re at.

When combined, these give kids a feeling of certainty (which in turn reduces anxiety).

If you’d like my help to make your return-to-school a bit easier, I’m running a video workshop TODAY!

Jump in now while it’s FREE!! Link in bio ☝️

Can’t make the workshop at your local time? No problem - we’ll send you the replay 🎞️

24/01/2024

Having trouble with...?

😠 School refusal
😰 Anxiety around starting school
🏫 The transition to high school/a new school
😎 Returning to school after a break
🚗 Tough morning drop-offs (no matter what time of year it is!)

Good news! There’s still time (just!) to book your seat in my workshop, Navigating School with Confidence: The Parenting F.L.I.G.H.T. Plan✈️

Join me tomorrow and reserve your FREE seat now!

Link in bio or: Heidilinks.com/PFP

Relevant for all ages🙌

Can’t make it at your local time?

No problem - replay is available for 7 days! 🥳

21/11/2023

Being a fellow traveler on this parenting adventure, I want to share some thoughts from the last few weeks (which have been some of the hardest in my parenting gig so far.)
 
I know that any of y’all that have a strong-willed, SPICY kiddo of your own, will probably read this and close your eyes and shake your head in solidarity when I say: “My SPICY child just had eye surgery...and then a 2-week recovery at home.”
😳😳😳
 
A lot of the fears I had emerged…and some didn’t.
 
But overall: it was just too much sensory EVERYTHING - and alllll pain meds were refused the first night - not even an ice pack was tolerated 😭🙈 ...It was very hard.
 
Why am I telling you all this?
 
You know how first responders or soldiers are often asked after a crisis...
 
“Wow! You were so calm in there! How did you navigate that?!”, and they say something like, “I don’t know – I was just on autopilot…I guess all my training just kicked in.”
 
These past few weeks, I have witnessed the power and quiet strength of training.
 
As I navigated some of the most challenging waters of my parenting journey, I found an anchor in my training.
 
It was so cool to see everything I preach be put into practice.
But it dawned on me: I’m referencing the entire library of all the books I’ve read, my education, and all the stuff I teach in my parenting programs…
 
Out of my entire catalog of content, I KNEW what 3 things I needed to focus on during that tough period...but….parenting a strong-willed child can sometimes lead us to focus on the wrong stuff.
 
Especially when we’re stressed.
And I was surprised that the 3 things I THOUGHT were the most important things…actually changed over the last few weeks.
 
So I wanted to share what I’ve learned: The whole experience taught me about focusing on what truly nurtures our kids and helps them through challenging times.
 
These 3 things were vital to not only my survival recently, but also in helping my daughter walk away with ideally the smallest amount of trauma possible.
 
If it’s the only training you ever do with me, do this one!
 
🥳FREE🥰
3 Part Training STARTS SOON!
LA: Tues Nov 21 @ 7:30pm
SYD: Wed Nov 22 @2:30pm
Link in Bio to register!

Heidi is a psychotherapist, counsellor and speaker with 20 years experience in mental health, with a focus on trauma therapy.