Michelle Brelaz - Life and Relationship Coach

11/08/2023

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2. Focusing on what isn't working.

04/07/2023

What to do when our values, expectations and societal constraints interfere in our relationships?

14/06/2023

100% 💛

14/06/2023

02/06/2023

By reminding ourselves of this simple yet profound advice, we can diffuse tension, promote empathy, and encourage open communication. And, rather than becoming entangled in unnecessary conflicts, we can choose a path of productive dialogue and constructive problem-solving.
I believe that by using this advice in all of our relationships the number of arguments many partners have would would diminish, paving the way for them to develop mutual understanding and progress.
So, remember: It's not about "me vs you," but rather about "us vs the problem." And, together, 'we' can transform disagreements into opportunities for growth, unity, and lasting resolutions.

31/05/2023

Communication is everything.

05/04/2023

If you ready to invigorate your relationship and take it to a whole new level, here are five simple steps you can start taking today to transform your communication and strengthen your bond with your partner.
Step one: Take 20 minutes to talk with your partner, about anything and everything. No matter how inane or silly it may seem, as this builds self-respect and trust for the person being heard. So, turn off your phone and the TV, sit down together, and just talk.
Step two: Listen actively and engage with your partner by asking 3 or 4 questions about the topic at hand. This step builds love and respect and lets your partner know that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say.
Step three: Look at your partner and hold their hand while you're talking. This shows that you're truly connected and enhances feelings of love and intimacy.
Step four: Share your fears and concerns with your partner kindly and respectfully, without berating or accusing them. This shows vulnerability and enables your partner to be vulnerable with you in return.
Step five: Ask your partner if there's anything else they want to talk about, because this shows you care about what they have to say. And after your conversation, hug each other to create a sense of intimacy and unity.
By doing this every day or every second day for one month, you'll be amazed at the difference it makes in your relationship. But don't use this as a way to get more s*x, because s*x is an emotional process and when the emotions align, s*x usually follows naturally. So, start implementing these steps today and see the positive impact they can have on your relationship.

If you need specific help with your relationship, contact me.
Michelle

And if you would like to read more then visit my website blog www.mbrelazcoaching for more tips and advice.

04/04/2023

When the lust period fades.

When a relationship begins, it's natural for there to be a period of intense attraction and passion, often referred to as the "lust phase." However, this phase doesn't last forever, and when it ends, it can leave some couples feeling lost or disconnected from each other. So, what can you do when the lust period ends in your relationship?

First and foremost, it's essential to remember that the end of the lust phase doesn't necessarily mean the end of the relationship. In fact, it can be the beginning of a deeper and more meaningful connection with your partner.

One thing you can do is to focus on building emotional intimacy with your partner. This means sharing your feelings, hopes, and dreams with each other, and really listening and empathizing with one another. This can help create a deeper bond between you, and can also help you feel more connected and fulfilled in your relationship.

Another thing you can do is to work on building a stronger friendship with your partner. This means finding shared interests and hobbies, spending quality time together, and enjoying each other's company. When you have a strong friendship as a foundation, it can help you weather the ups and downs of your relationship, and can also make your relationship more enjoyable and fulfilling.

It's also important to be open and honest with your partner about your needs and desires. This includes s*xual needs, but also emotional and physical needs as well. By communicating openly and honestly, you can work together to find ways to meet each other's needs and keep the spark alive in your relationship.

If you're struggling with the end of the lust phase in your relationship, consider seeking out the help of a relationship coach or counselor. They can provide you with tools and strategies to help you build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship with your partner.

At mbrelazcoaching, we specialize in helping couples navigate the ups and downs of their relationships, and can provide you with the support and guidance you need to create a deeper and more meaningful connection with your partner. So if you're ready to take your relationship to the next level, contact us today to learn more about our coaching services.

31/03/2023

Criticism - The Worst of the 7-Deadly Relationship Sins
Criticism can be a clear indication of deeper underlying issues in a relationship. When criticism becomes a recurring pattern in communication, it can cause significant harm to the bond between partners.
Although it can be tempting to express frustration with certain behaviors, it's important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding.
Continuously criticizing your partner can erode their self-esteem and make them feel undervalued and unappreciated. It can also create a negative atmosphere that makes them reluctant to communicate openly and honestly with you. Criticism can breed defensiveness, which can lead to an unhealthy cycle of blame and counter-blame.
It's essential to be aware of your own unrealistic standards and expectations when it comes to your partner's behavior. It's easy to fall into the trap of wanting everything to be perfect, your version of perfect, but perfection is an unattainable goal that can cause unnecessary stress and tension in a relationship. Instead of focusing on the negative, try to acknowledge the positive aspects of your partner's behavior and the effort they're putting in.
It's also important to recognize that both you and your partner have limitations and are susceptible to making mistakes. Instead of being nitpicky about every little thing, try to communicate your concerns in a constructive way. Approach your partner with kindness and understanding, and be open to listening to their perspective.
Criticism is a dangerous communication habit that can create serious problems in a relationship. It's essential to be aware of the impact of your words and actions on your partner and to approach communication with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to work together. By focusing on the positive aspects of your partner and being open to constructive dialogue, you can create a strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.
Michelle Brelaz - Relationship Specialist

28/03/2023

Get ready to ignite the spark in your relationship!
Sharing your excitement and joy with your partner is the ultimate way to infuse your love with positive energy. We're talking about those moments that make your heart race, your breath catch, and your skin tingle with anticipation. Imagine seeing a breathtaking sunset and feeling that warm glow of happiness radiating inside you - that's the feeling you want to share with your significant other!
But it's not about recounting the details of your experience. It's about sharing that feeling with your partner through actions or kind words, making them a part of your experience. Take that feeling of awe from the sunset you saw and wrap your partner into that sentiment. Tell them how much you love them, powering the words with the energy you feel from seeing that stunning sunset. Your words will be infused with that same energy, and your partner will feel it too.
Remember that your mental headspace can impact your relationship in both positive and negative ways. When you're feeling up, your brain pumps out those positive chemicals that make you feel good. Use that power to lift your partner up too! You can do this in other ways also. Use the power of memories that make you feel wonderful, or any music that sets your soul on fire. Your positive energy can be contagious
So, raise the level of positivity in your relationship! It doesn't take much, just the energy of your excitement and watch as it spreads to light up your relationship like a flame.

Michelle Brelaz - Life and Relationship Coach
www.mbrelazcoaching.com
Join the 3-Day challenge for couples on the 26th - 28th April.

28/03/2023

Some people find fault like there is a reward for it.

28/03/2023

A great practice to stay connected to your heart 💖 and to your most loving and compassionate self.

27/03/2023

Let's talk about intimacy. It's a word that conjures up feelings of closeness, vulnerability, and connection. But how do we actually get there? Well, it all starts with listening.

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in our own internal chatter and forget to truly listen to others. We might nod along, but our minds are elsewhere, just waiting for our turn to speak. But here's the thing: if you don't listen to others, they won't listen to you either.

That's where active listening comes in. It's not just about sitting there quietly, it's about engaging with the person speaking. Think of it like a game of tennis. If you don't hit the ball back, the game gets boring pretty quickly. Similarly, if you don't respond to what someone is saying, the conversation won't go very far.

Active listening means asking questions, making sounds to show you're engaged, and keeping the conversation flowing naturally. It's about making the other person feel seen and heard, and in turn, building their self-esteem. Because let's face it, not being listened to can feel like a slap in the face.

So, if you want to deepen your connections and build intimacy with others, start by really listening. It might just be the most important thing you ever do.