Selina Byrne Wellbeing Solutions

Selina Byrne Wellbeing Solutions Selina Byrne Consulting Psychologist, Clinical Nutritionist, Clinical Hypnotist and Trainer for your

25/02/2026

Power increase for you:

Listen to me carefully here, slowing now, breathing in, easy, now holding, and breathing out, fully, you can relax, you let go, letting your powerful eyes glide comfortably over my helpful words, as I speak to your inner mind, I want you to focus on the back of your right hand, you don’t need to look at it, just being lightly aware of it, that’s right, you may notice a warmer or cooler sensation on the back of your right hand now, or it might be neutral, the signal is right for you either way, letting your inner mind pay very close attention to your power, the meter slowly but surely increasing, your strength building, your focus much more sharp, your mind very calm, like a laser pointer at your intentions and quests for today, the laser brightens, your power meter goes up a little more, you have many strengths and resources, your power pack is solid, and an extra power bank is ready in reserve, so focus on your intention, laser in on it, notice the colors of your sharp laser beam, then be aware of the readiness of your power supply and now allow yourself to apply it in the direction you need, happening already, all seeds planted and watered, now go and enjoy the fruits of your creations. Enjoy.

24/02/2026

The clutches of a narcissist:

One of the factors in recovering from a relationship or friendship with a narcissist is the level of self blame and/or shame in not recognizing the pattern earlier and exiting on the spot. Of course it’s all obvious in hindsight but the truth is that narcissistic behavior is very confusing and deliberately misleading. Most people with narcissistic traits show mixed patterns, often very adoring at first, very charming, very accomodating and exciting. It feels good so we think (intuitively) that it must BE good. A non-narcissist doesn’t have paranoid thoughts or assume they are being exploited or deceived. Hence why it’s rare to find two narcissists in relationship. It just doesn’t work. So then there’s usually a mix of hot and cold behavior that comes later, always accompanied by an explanation of sorts and it will never be their fault. Narcissistic traits rely on non-accountability. If there is an apology (rare) it will be shallow or performative. And that’s confusing too. A non-narcissist generally takes their part in any problem very seriously as well as the point of view of the other. Narcissistic trait people rely on that in a primal way. Again, it won’t ever be their fault. This pattern of boundary pushing will continue going forward, mixed in with some peak positive experiences which often diminish over time, but now you’re fully ensconced, you depend on this relationship, you’re hooked. When the narcissist finally subjugates or detaches from you, it’s confusing, destabilising and often devastating. Of course you couldn’t exit earlier. The whole pattern is set up to seduce and destroy. This happens in romantic relationships, friendships and often at work in power relationships. Exiting earlier would require being fully in recognition of the patterns, sharing them with a trusted witness and taking action fast despite confused feelings. In truth, if we are confused about ongoing hot and cold behavior, we are not being unreasonable and we should protect against it. And if we haven’t, we forgive ourselves afterwards and learn from it. Learn the pattern recognition. No self-flagellation, just a determination to be more pattern-aware going forward. We live and learn.

23/02/2026

The sleep drug:

Sleep is the best medicine. Some people sleep easily and some struggle to get to, or to stay asleep. Either way, we need our rest. Do you perhaps need to get to bed earlier or prioritise rest with more intention? Lower the lights, cool the temperature, reduce the stimulation, put phones in another room, turn off the show, have a shower, go for a walk, reduce caffeine, help the brain switch off? Get a little more rest. You deserve it.

22/02/2026

Using beginner’s mind:

Beginner’s mind doesn’t ask us to ignore experience, knowledge or expertise. It’s about openness, curiosity, not making assumptions or presumptions. Beginner's mind is about remaining willing to discover and learn. Every encounter, each experience, each conversation or idea often has more potential than we imagine. Beginner’s mind knows to watch life as if it is still unfolding, because it is. If we remain in beginner’s mind and approach the people and places we think we know so well, we can make space for new insights, connections, and for clear responsiveness. Beginner's mind is less a technique than a philosophical stance. A quiet willingness to see that this moment may be different, more complex, and more alive than our unconscious assumptions might suggest. We will never be a hamster on a wheel repeating each cycle. Our openness brings a new lens to every new day.

18/02/2026

Connecting with the love:

If things have felt a bit off, or a bit lonely, or maybe even just a bit much, look here at my words, slowing your breathing now, eyes relaxing as you glide over what I say to you, here, tuning in with your inner mind, and I want you to imagine, to know, that the force of love is like the force of gravity, permanent, pervasive, part of nature, pure and potent, peaceful and yet packing a punch, able to be accessed anytime, anywhere, everywhere, just by tuning in, and you know, and I know you, that there are many ways to tune into the love force, the life force, firstly just by knowing it’s there, then maybe by remembering or connecting with nature, or thinking about certain people and their loving ways, or feeling the love you have for others, people, animals, anyone at all, or just by seeing the beauty that exists everywhere once we remember to look, remember now, programming your subconscious mind to have the love antenna receiver transmitter switched ON, love is all around, love is in you, and love is you, and you can feel it now, permanent, pervasive, potent and always possible, just remember the love force and go forward in peace today.

17/02/2026

Stop thinking and start doing!

That thing you’re avoiding? Thinking about all the ways it might be hard or might not work or might not be finished? Don’t think. Just start. See how it goes. Let it evolve itself. Just do 5 minutes. Let action and momentum carry you forward today!

16/02/2026

Social media and human needs:

Many experts note that people organise their life choices around meeting the main six human needs: love/connection, contribution, significance, growth, certainty and variety. In the past, many prioritised certainty and connection. Since the rise of social media we have seen a massive shift towards the over-inflation of the need for significance, a boosting of the individual desire to feel special or important. Prior to social media we only had neighbors, family, friends and other peers to compare ourselves to. Since the latest social media boom we have “experts”, celebrities, other professionals in our own field and other fields, other so-called influencers who seem to know everything and be everywhere looking stunning, plus random other people sent to impress us or to get us to want what they have. It’s provided a point of comparison (often unconscious) that is very unhealthy, especially for young minds. Organising life around feeling significant is a big risk emotionally, as well as being impossible and very anxiety-provoking. Choosing connection, growth and contribution is more meaningful and fulfilling. We need to maintain awareness of how this crazy online world impacts our sense of identity as well as its widespread effect on seeking significance. Being led to feed the ever-hungry ego via social media is subtle and dangerous to life satisfaction. We need to focus on what truly matters to us.

15/02/2026

Choose yourself today.

Many of us carry a sense of responsibility and containment for a lot of people, perhaps both through work life and personal life. And that’s ok. But our own needs can sometimes be parked in the background and that’s not ok. All sets of needs matter, and mostly, nobody is going to help us meet our needs; that’s an inside job and a conscious choice. We will always look after our chosen others but how about choosing the self as well? How about prioritising one self-need today? Tune into what truly matters to you and what you really need and factor that into your day. Physically, emotionally and in every other way, you matter.

11/02/2026

Protection for you:

You know, and I know too, that sometimes there are energies that we can feel, energies that affect us, other people’s stuff, world stuff, weird stuff, and we can release that now, and protect your system too, so listen now, slowly breathing, softly, as your eyes glide easily over my helpful words, relaxing your eyelids, that’s right, letting those tiny muscles relax, the jaw, the neck, the shoulders, holding all that tension, they relax now, they let go, and I want you to imagine, in your inner mind, that there is a cleansing tank, just the right size for your comfort, very very safe, set at exactly the perfect temperature, and you can enter that tank now, and swim around happily, and as you move around enjoying yourself, the water cleanses all of your energetic body, you can also notice a vague grey/brown mist leaving your system, all the energy you picked up from the world, washing and moving away, dissolving cleanly in that powerful safe water tank, purifying, and you may notice a lightness, a brightness, a clarity of mind, and you can step out into the protection zone, where an energy hazard shield is automatically installed, perfect white light all around you and through you, energising and motivating, activating your inner fire, your focus, your attention, your system is safe, cleansed and protected now, you can move into the world with that white light shield of protection, the force is with you, the force is in you, the force is you, so go in peace towards your wonderful day. Enjoy.

10/02/2026

Intuitive signals:

Our bodies usually know things before our minds. Intuitive signals are primal, helping our nervous system code safety and threat. The signals may not be related to actual safety or harm in the present, but might also be a sense of recognition or memory of past threat or safety. For example a new person may unconsciously trigger recognition in the nervous system. If someone has grown up around a certain personality type, the familiarity might be coded as a safe signal even though that person in the past was harmful. This may be why some people have a “relationship type”. When it comes to events and strangers we should notice our intuitive responses carefully as they are important pieces of data. Many of us have overridden our primal bodily responses only to lament later. Our pets usually respond to their towards/away instincts and trust them (they’re often right about people too!) but we humans have a “rational mind” that interferes. We can use our wide mind to evaluate our signals but noticing that initial threat/safety mechanism is crucial, as well as questioning its possible relationship to our past. If it feels familiar, is that actually a safety response or a coded trauma reminder? It’s all data and it needs to be felt, noted and assessed wisely.

09/02/2026

Weird symptoms:

The body can produce almost any symptom in service of releasing human stress. From chronic pain, to tight throat, to fatigue, to breathing issues, panic attacks, dizziness, numbness, and other unexpected discomforts, the sensitised nervous system gets into a loop and may continue reproducing the symptom pattern every time a threat message is activated. And of course, the more we fear and focus and fixate on the symptom, the louder it gets. Adding a layer of hyper vigilance (which is often subconscious) will usually keep those weird feelings looping around. Tracking symptoms with detachment seems to help. Notice the sensation and its location and type of feeling. Be casual. Thank the body for its service and suggest it can stand down now. Copy that, messaged received, now chill. It’s unpleasant but not unsafe. No threat. Normal neuroplasticity pattern activated by the busy human nervous system. Just usual human weirdness. All is well.

08/02/2026

Emotional predictions:

Research suggests that most humans are wildly inaccurate at predicting how things will feel over time. Most experiences will feel better than expected and most unpleasant things won’t affect us as much or for as long as we might expect. Many experiences will be surprisingly fine and we mostly bounce back from the vicissitudes of life more quickly than predicted. Our happiness set-point is largely stable (excluding major grief and trauma) and most of us will ride the emotional waves then return to shore about the same as before. We can release fear. For most people, the sense of fulfilment and enjoyment also increases over time, with happiness ratings for life only increasing. Trial the mantra “the better it gets, the better it gets” today, and relax, knowing the numbers really do support the idea of our increasing enjoyment in life.

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