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27/09/2025

Neuroscience has officially proven that a father’s roughhousing style of play is actually crucial for a child’s brain and development. Those games of “chase”, wrestling or tossing your child into the air are actually improving your child’s cognitive flexibility, emotional regulation and social intelligence.

The physical exertion and excitement of roughhousing triggers the release of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF). This protein acts like a “Miracle-Gro” for the brain, stimulating neuron growth in areas responsible for memory, logic and language.

A 2022 study on father-child rough-and-tumble play found that the frequency and quality of this interaction were positively linked to a child’s working memory. Working memory is a key component of executive function and is crucial for academic success.

By exposing children to unpredictable scenarios in a safe environment, roughhousing “rewires” their brains. This increases the connections between neurons in the cerebral cortex, improving a child’s ability to cope with unexpected obstacles and developing resilience.

Roughhousing with a larger, stronger adult also requires a child to learn self control. They learn to modulate their physical strength and how to respond appropriately when things get too rough. Dads can teach this by holding back their own strength and showing the child what is and is not okay.

The intense but joyful emotions involved in rough play provide a safe “training ground” for the child’s nervous system. They can experience high-arousal states and then practice calming down, which helps balance their stress response system. The fun and laughter help relieve anxiety and stress.

Also, during roughhousing, children learn to read and respond to social cues like facial expressions and body language. They learn to take turns, negotiate, and understand when another’s persons fun has turned into discomfort. This builds empathy and social competence.

Children who regularly engage in high-quality, safe roughhousing with their fathers tend to be less physically aggressive with peers by learning to distinguish between playful, cooperative contact and real aggression.

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23/09/2025

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21/09/2025

A peer-reviewed study of historical Polish families uncovered a surprising longevity boost for dads: each daughter was associated with about 74 additional weeks of life, or roughly 1.4 years. The effect appears linked to emotional bonds, caregiving, and the stronger social ties often maintained by daughters within families.

The findings align with broader demographic research—like a Swedish study showing that, by age 60, men with children live about two years longer than those without. The common thread? Connection and care. As researchers suggest, having daughters may offer fathers more emotional support, closer family networks, and greater likelihood of assistance later in life, all contributing to a longer, healthier lifespan.

21/09/2025

You fail as a man when you harm your children's mother.

She's their primary source of strength and support.

She's the one they run to when they're scared.

She's the one they call when they need comfort.

She's the one who knows their needs and fears.

She's the foundation of their emotional security.

Destroying her stability destroys theirs.

When you stress her out, you stress them out.

When you make her cry, you make them anxious.

When you hurt her, you hurt their sense of safety.

When you disrespect her, you disrespect their home.

She's the one who sacrifices her sleep for their needs.

She's the one who puts their wellbeing before her own.

She's the one who advocates for them at school.

She's the one who remembers every detail of their lives.

Protect the woman raising your kids.

Support the person who's holding everything together.

Respect the woman who's nurturing your children.

Honor the mother who's shaping their future.

Your children are watching how you treat their mother.

They're learning about relationships from your example.

They're forming their ideas about love from what they see.

They're developing their standards based on your behavior.

Don't let your issues with her damage their emotional development.

Don't let your anger toward her create trauma for them.

Be the father who protects their mother, not the one who destroys her.