10/01/2026
When I first heard “observe it don’t absorb it” it was my version of the let them theory by Mel Robbins.
Since I remember I took on other people’s emotions, actions and choices as though as they were my own.
This is definitely something I’m still working on, trying to rewire my brain to not give a F***.
Something was bought to my attention recently, people speaking behind my back, it made me feel anxious and get into that spiral.
I spoke to my partner about it, he is a good role model with the “I don’t care what people think” attitude.
He said to me “Sophie, people are going to bitch or complain about anything, so it’s not your problem, it’s theirs.”
He’s to the point and definitely grounds me and gives me a different perspective.
And he’s right, it’s shows more about what their values are and we are not put onto this earth to all agree with each other, and that’s okay.
So observing it and not absorbing it or let them/let me is the perspective shift that detaches you from the feeling of responsibility of other people’s emotions.
As an ex people pleaser, this is a journey!
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