Phoenix Transformation - Reiki courses + energy healing

14/12/2025

14/12/2025

Just went to an amazing sound healing with Taiko drumming ~ LOVE ❤️

14/12/2025

WHY CHRISTMAS HITS YOUR CHILDHOOD WOUNDS HARDER THAN AT ANY OTHER TIME OF YEAR

Every year around December, people find themselves wondering...

“Why do I feel so emotional?”
“Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?”
“Why does Christmas feel… heavy?”

And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season... 🎄

It’s a somatic time machine.

This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood.

Christmas isn’t just a one-off date.

It’s a sensory cl*******ck of:

🎄 Fu**ed up family dynamics
🎄 Expectations
🎄 Pressure
🎄 Disappointment
🎄 Traditions
🎄 Roles you were forced into
🎄 The “perfect family” fantasy (which may not be at all accurate for your family)
🎄 The reality that rarely matched

Your nervous system remembers all of that - and it starts remembering waaaay before Christmas actually comes around. 😳

Even if you don’t consciously think about those childhood Christmases, your body does.

The smells. The sounds. The emotional vibe in a room. The tension. The yelling. The silence. The criticism. The pressure to behave. To hug the creepy uncle. To stay in a room you didn't want to be in.

Your body logs those memories, and when the season rolls back around…your system automatically goes into alert mode.

Your body remembers the pattern long before your brain does.

IF YOU GREW UP IN CHAOS, YOUR BODY PREPARES YOU FOR CHAOS.

If Christmas in your house meant... a substance-affected parent, a stressed-out caregiver, shouting matches, passive aggression, criticism, feeling invisible, being the “good one” to keep the peace, managing everyone else’s emotions or watching the people you love fall apart...

then your nervous system learned early that December = danger. ⛔️

Even decades later, your inner child still remembers, and braces for impact. 😥

If this is hitting home, the you’re EXPERIENCING A TRIGGERED NERVOUS SYSTEM.

A trigger isn’t about what’s happening today, it’s about what it reminds your body of.

Christmas stirs up the unsorted grief, trauma, emotional neglect and unmet needs you had to swallow as a child.

Your brain connects the season to the feelings you survived.

SO WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WITH THIS AWARENESS?

1. Stop judging your reactions - give yourself grace for how you're feeling.

2. Name what's happening - that's it's an old wound speaking to you. This will help you regulate how you're feeling.

3. Have boundaries ready - know it's ok to give yourself space and say no when you need to. ✋🏼

4. Give your inner child what they didn’t get back then - safety, a hug, comfort, rest, permission to feel your feelings.

5. Reduce contact with people who you don't feel safe around (yes, this includes partners and family). You don't owe anything to anyone who's caused you pain. 🥺

Christmas doesn’t need to be picture-perfect. It just needs to be safe, nourishing, calm and honest.

And if your partner is adding to your stress, confusion or emotional load?

Then babe…it’s time to look a little deeper.

Which is why I created a free download: “10 Signs Your Relationship Is ACTUALLY Toxic”

It’ll give you clarity when everything feels loud.

Download it via the link in my bio.

You deserve a Christmas that feels peaceful - actually, you deserve every day to feel peaceful, not just this one day.

Love you,

Coach Carly xx

13/12/2025

13/12/2025

WHAT I CAN SENSE IN PEOPLE'S ENERGY DURING A COACHING SESSION

I once had someone completely unknown to me who contacted me for an urgent coaching session.

While she wasn’t initially there for an energy treatment, a lot of the things she spoke about led me to believe she likely had:

🥺 totally unbalanced chakras
👹 negative entities affecting her
🎯 a totally misaligned assemblage point
❤️‍🩹 a lack of self love

She wasn’t sure what she wanted other than to feel happy which she hadn’t for a long time. 😔

I suggested the idea of doing an energy treatment as a priority over coaching to get her back into balance. 🙌🏻

She had an amazing treatment + responded really well to it. 👏🏼

When she arrived she said she was a massive over-thinker. 🤯

At the end of the session she felt much more calm. ☺️

As I’d thought, I needed to clear negative entities, balance all her chakras (none of which were functioning properly), sent healing love energy from her heart to her other chakras + readjusted her assemblage point which had been stuck in the area of over-thinking for over three years.

I also removed two energetic daggers stuck in her heart from betrayals by a close friend + restructured the organs of her heart (emotional pain), lungs (grief) + throat (inability to speak your truth). 🗡️ 🫀

She left feeling much better than when she arrived. 🤗

Most clients say they have an amazing sleep after an energy treatment. 💤

The following day she said “thank you for clearing my fog” + said she’d been noticing positive changes in her interactions with others. 😶‍🌫️

The energy work keeps clearing stuff for 3-7 days following a treatment so there are continued positive changes after treatments.

For deeper level changes and healing that needs to take place, please know the results can be much slower than this.

It really depends on the context and the client, as well as how open they are to being an active participant in their own recovery.

If you’re curious about how energy work can help your situation, drop me a message and let’s chat.

Catcha on the flip side,

Carly xx

H E A L I N G
T H R O U G H
C H A N G E +
T R A U M A 🙌🏻

12/12/2025

THE REAL REASON CHRISTMAS IS ALWAYS FULL OF DRAMA IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

When I moved to Australia in October 2010, I pretty quickly met a guy who I started a whirlwind relationship with and what ensued was an on/off relationship for the next eight years. 😳

There was SO much drama. All. The. Time. 🦙

The weeks leading up to his birthday? He'd sulk for most of it. 🙄

Christmas was the week after his birthday - and that was no better.

I love Christmas in Australia - time at the beach, by the pool, eating snapper, crayfish... 40 degree heat... a bit different to the UK, what's not to love! 🥰

But Christmas with him was always a pain in the arse because he didn't particularly get on with his family (I thought they were all pretty cool, but because he was a pain in the arse he made family gatherings painful.)

There would generally be some kind of drama he'd create like he'd have a headache, feel sick, have a fall out with someone... and usually at a time I was having fun it'd be time to swiftly pack up and leave. 🏃‍♀️

There are just some people in life who love the attention on them, whether it's good or bad.

The kind of people who don't like to see others enjoying themselves if they're not. 😤

So they somehow make it all about them.

I ended that relationship in 2018.

I'm about to have my sixth Christmas with Hot Fiancé and his extremely cool, fun, drama-free family and life couldn't be different than those previous Christmases. 🎄🥰

We just enjoy spending time together, having good conversations, lots of laughs and chilled times. 🤩🥳

Are you getting stressed about the drama-filled Christmas you're about to step into with your partner?

Download my free "10 Signs Your Relationship is Actually Toxic" checklist - link in bio - and you'll find some tips in there from me.

If you want to change the way your Christmases end up (with the love of your life), drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help. 😘

From mine to yours, I wish you the easiest, happiest, fun filled Christmas possible, surrounded by legends instead of smug f**kwits.

Love you,

Coach Carly xx

C O A C H I N G
T H R O U G H
C H A N G E +
T R A U M A ❤️