Kellie Sheldon - Trauma and Sex Counsellor

11/03/2026

Nobody talks about this part of healing from childhood sexual abuse.

The part where two completely opposite things are true at the same time. Where you can be okay and not okay in the same breath. Where you can be proud of how far you’ve come and completely exhausted by how far there still is to go.

The world doesn’t have a category for that. People want to know if you’re fine or if you’re struggling. They’re not comfortable with both.

But both is the truth for so many women healing from childhood trauma. Both has always been the truth.

A message from me to you - functioning is not the same as fine. Struggling doesn’t mean you are falling apart. And holding both of those things at the same time - while still showing up, still doing the work, still getting out of bed - that’s you being amazing.

That is what trauma recovery actually looks like from the inside.

You don’t have to choose which one is real. You don’t have to look okay for the world and hide the rest. You are allowed to be the woman who shows up and the woman who is barely holding on.

Both of you are doing an extraordinary job.

Send this to yourself for a day you forget that.

10/03/2026

Have a read of this….

This is why we need to jeep talking about what EMDR is and what it does.

Its not hypnosis - yes it can FEEL like
it - but its NOT. It mimics REM sleep which is the only time both side of the brain communicate and reshuffle information.

Because of this issue stated in the article, I explore court possibilities with clients BEFORE Emdr begins - this way there is evidence of what the distress was like. We offer up transcripts as well. We also film the sessions of Emdr, again for evidence, and follow the strick standard protocol. Cover your bases as such.

This does not dictate if the evidence can be used or submitted though, so in any case, if you are looking at court proceedings we talk about the possible outcomes in length.

The bit they miss, we definitely don’t make new memories, but the memories you have become clearer and often you remember details you previously forgotten.

Let’s talk about this…. What do you think?

Katie Bird sought psychological help for intrusive memories related to alleged sexual abuse. Her court case was discontinued because she underwent eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy.

09/03/2026

There’s a part of healing from childhood sexual abuse that we don’t speak enough about. And it’s not the abuse itself.
 
It’s everything that was taken from you because of it.
 
I’ve sat with so many women who can tell me exactly what happened to them. But when I ask them what they lost because of it — they go quiet. Nobody has ever asked them that before. Nobody has ever given them permission to name it.
 
So let’s name it today.
 
It took the little girl who deserved to just be a child. Carefree, safe, unbothered by a world that wasn’t supposed to be scary yet. She deserved to exist. She didn’t get the chance.
 
It took the parent who was supposed to stand between you and harm. For a lot of you that protection never came. That soft place to land was never there. And that is its own grief entirely.
 
It took your body before you even knew it was yours. S*xuality was supposed to be something you discovered slowly, on your own terms. It was stolen. Before you had words for any of it.
 
It took your ability to trust people. You learnt early that people weren’t safe and so you built walls. Not because you wanted to be alone — but because alone felt survivable and closeness didn’t.
 
It took the woman you were supposed to become. The dreams, the confidence, the natural unfolding of who you were meant to be. You were too busy surviving to let any of that happen.
 
It took your time. Years. Decades. And that is a loss too.
 
You cannot heal what you never name. Not because naming it fixes everything — god I wish it did. But because naming it makes it real. And real things can be grieved. And grief is how you begin to take yourself back.
 
You are allowed to name all of it. Out loud. Without apology.
 
The stolen childhood. The parent who didn’t protect you. The body that was taken. The relationships that felt impossible. The woman you were meant to be. The time.
 
You deserve to be you. All of you. Not just the parts that survived.
 
Save this. Share it with someone who has never been given permission to name what was taken from them. 💙
 
 
 

08/03/2026

These women…

My two girls - charlotte and Jazmine.

My staff - Cheryl and Sally.

My business besties - Fiona, Sam and Maggie - life with you in it ❤️❤️❤️❤️

And all the amazing women I am so humbled and lucky to work with - 🌺🫶🏼🌺🫶🏼🌺





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05/03/2026

You feel like you will never wake up from the dream that keeps you stuck in that room with THEM as a child. The feeling of them taking everything from you will be with you forever. Being an adult in adult relationships is hard!

I've lost count how many times I've been asked to 'fix' someone by a certain date. It doesn't work like that. And god I wish it did.

I promise you, it won't always be like this. Those first few moments of change you will miss, you won't notice it until someone points it out. And you will question it - I get it, this has been your life for 30 plus years.

But one day you will drive somewhere and not white knuckle the wheel. One day you will say no and not spend three days apologising for it in your head. One day you will let someone love you without waiting for them to leave.

You won't trust it at first. That's okay. Trust was never safe before.

The healing isn't loud, it doesn't announce itself. It just quietly shows up in the small moments you almost miss.

That's how you know it's real.
You are not stuck forever. You are just not done yet.
And that is enough for today.
You are enough today.

If you think you'd like to dip your toe in and move your life forward, send me a DM. Lets chat in how I can support you.

03/03/2026

i know this moment.... everything seems okay and then you're in the shower washing your hair and out of the blue the tears just fall.

The voice in your head pops up and it tells you "see! you can't do this, you cant get over this!"

The voice - it's lying to you. I know it's loud, and most of the time you listen to it. Not today.

Today you know and remind yourself that the CSA isn't happening today - that was 30 odd years ago. And today, right here in the shower, your body feels okay and safe ENOUGH to feel what you could not allow yourself to feel back then - the grief and anger children are not allowed to feel.

Today you sit in the shower and allow the tears, they even feel 'good'. You know you are not failing at therapy, you know its just a speed hump and you celebrate it BECAUSE you understand what is happening.

What a powerful place to be!

If you have never thought about setbacks this way, let me know.

02/03/2026

Another day of things going wrong and you’re thinking you have to fix it and make it right…. Because if you don’t you’ve failed.

Not true!!!

You’re allowed to have bad days and throw the lemons out - or make a pie with them. You get to choose.

Failure is not a condition on a bad day - it just means you’re having a bad day.

If you’re a survivor of CSA head on over to see what we talk about on my page.

18/02/2026

I know we like to hold onto beliefs because they make us feel safe, but what if they are keeping you stuck?

Sometimes looking at something from a different angle can help.

Which one of these are you going to give a go next time you find yourself being overwhelmed by the thought of a “trigger”?

Share to someone you know who might need a perspective shift.

13/02/2026

You know that thing where an argument suddenly feels way too big for what you’re actually talking about?

Like, you’re discussing weekend plans and suddenly someone’s shut down completely. Or a small comment lands like a bomb and neither of you can figure out why.

Here’s what Cheryl sees all the time: sometimes our bodies are reacting to things that happened years ago - not to what’s actually happening right now.

The freeze. The fight. The way words just… disappear when you need them most. That’s your nervous system trying to protect you from old pain, even when you’re standing in front of someone you love.

You can’t logic your way out of a body response. You can’t just “communicate better” when your whole system thinks it’s under threat.

That’s where Cheryl comes in. She helps couples untangle what’s actually happening - what’s about now, and what’s your body remembering something from before.

She’s calm, she doesn’t pick sides, and nothing shocks her (seriously, she wants to write a smutty novel one day 😏).

Rare opening right now - DM or check the link in bio. Face to face in Midland or online all over Australia.

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