30/08/2025
I am consciously uncoupling from my business.
Consciously uncoupling from relationships is trendy terminology.
As I have had a relationship with my business for longer than many people have marriages I decided that this explains it perfectly what I am currently doing.
Thirty years is a very long time. My business is like one of my children, my baby. It has been with me through the ups and downs of life over the past three decades. The things I studied and learned as I worked on my own healing were used to help clients.
This isn’t like the ending of a relationship, I’ve realised, because my business was more than a relationship, it was my baby, my last born, and I would never let go of my babies even though my human ones are adults, middle aged adults actually with their own growing ‘babies’.
Waves of grief kept overwhelming me with surprise and then receding again.
There are so many layers to this uncoupling. Layers that required lists so that I do them in the correct order as I slowly shut down.
Another wave hit me when I realised it's like turning off the life support of someone you love.
It took me right back to my father as he lay in a coma for ten days on the other side of the world and Mum was having to make that decision. Dad made it for her and passed away without any intervention.
When I’ve come back to this some time later I realise it’s more like Mum’s death. She had dementia and it was a slow protracted death.
It’s like cleaning out your family home, when it comes time to sell it - the one your children grew up in. Complete with all the memories and ‘stuff’.
And I have so much ‘stuff’.
The entire process has been an emotional roller coaster. Physically and emotionally exhausting.
Up and down the stairs, moving boxes and furniture, sorting through thirty years of ‘stuff’.
I have put my course/guide Make Your Home Your Sanctuary to good use. (I'll put the link to purchase it in the comments)
Holding each thing I asked:
💓 Do I needed it?
💓 What does it mean to me?
💓 Why do I need to keep it?
💓 Does it bring me joy? (my favourite which I used in workshops way before anyone had heard of Marie Kondo)
It was a roller coaster ride and I am pleased to say that I have come out the other side of it.
Clearing out all my 'stuff' helped me to let go, not just physically but emotionally too.
The purge has continued to other areas of the house and as I write this my husband is clearing out boxes of his 'stuff' that I have been asking him to clear for years!
It's a powerful time this energy of spring!
It really has been a purge, a letting go of the past. I feel calm and excited about the next chapter of my story which I will share with you when I know 😉
I'm going to focus my attention on my FB group Just ... Be.
Come on over and join us. I'll put the link in the comments. Please answer the questions to join.
Photo is of the second night of burning all my client files.
(No need to panic as all your information has now been turned to ash and placed in my garden.)
