11/12/2025
Reflections - Owning Your Value
I have been reflecting on what it means to own your value. I joined Lee Harris's container titled this a couple of years ago and I don't think that the full expression of this really hit until this year.
Owning our value appears to be a challenge when we've been told many times in subtle and not so subtle ways that who we are and what we have to offer is not seen as valuable. Sometimes because the value can appear intangible and people place extra value on the tangible. For me the other thing to be mindful of was most of us have to move from proving our value to owning it. It's easy for a lot of us to slip into proving through people pleasing and this is where the problem lies. Learning what's ours and what's someone else's view of us is important to discern to truly own our worth.
Owning our worth is not just important in business but also in our personal relationships. When we are constantly seeking validation from outside of ourselves this can lead to compromising how we show up. When we ask if what I have to offer is what you want, that can be a slippery slope to stepping out of what it is that you really want to share and show up. When instead we come from a place of what I offer is valuable to the people who see value in it then I believe that you can truly show up authentically you.
The other important thing I believe is when you own your value your resonance shifts and you start to attract those that see your value instead of those that don't and spending your time convincing them you are worthy you waste valuable energy that could be invested in attracting those that want what you have to offer.
Some of the process of moving from proving to owning is recognising when you're in proving mode and taking notice then choosing to shift into if "I owned my value in this moment what action would I take?" and take note of what comes through and take action on that. This question can be asked in business and personal situations the action might be different, but the stimulus is likely to be the same in that we find ourselves questioning our worth. This will be a practice owning your value doesn't happen overnight.