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26/09/2025

Are you addicted to internet po*******hy?
3 steps to start getting your life back.

1. Let Go of Denial

As with any addiction, denial will stop you from getting help and getting well. Honestly answer the questions below to get some clarity:

1. Does internet po*******hy interfere with your work and/or free time?
2. Have you tried and failed to limit how much you use?
3. Do you use it to get high and/or escape and/or numb out?
4. Do you feel anxious if you can’t use it?
5. Does it isolate you?
6. Has your taste in po*******hy progressively become more extreme?
7. Have you used it in inappropriate places?
8. Does it drive you to behaviour that you feel is risky or wrong?
9. Do you you feel shame and/or secrecy about it?
10. Do you feel out of control about how long and/or how often you use it?

You now have a score out of ten. The higher your score, the more strongly I suggest you reach out for support.

Additionally, how much time do you spend on it per day or week? How does your partner/spouse feel about it? If they don’t know, how do you think they would feel about it?

2. Talk to Someone Safe

You’ve looked in the mirror of the above questions. Maybe your score’s higher than you’d like. Maybe internet po*******hy’s adversely affecting your marriage or relationship (and it does, even if your partner doesn’t consciously know).

Possibly the last thing you want to do is talk to someone about it. You’re not the only one there. But every kind of addiction thrives in isolation. In order to change, most addicts have to let go of the mistaken-but-deeply-ingrained belief that they just need to get better on their own by having more self-discipline and determination. For many people entering addiction recovery, adverse experiences in their formative years made them fiercely self-sufficient, following the unspoken rules of dysfunctional families: Don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel.

Here’s the thing: ‘We’re only as sick as our secrets.’ As they say in 12-Step recovery groups. But be discerning about whom you talk to. Sometimes your partner is not the first person that needs to hear about your po*******hy problem. Disclosure to a partner is a delicate process usually best done with the help of therapists and/or experienced-in-recovery support people. If you’re single, someone you’re sexually/romantically attracted to is generally not the right person to open up to.

3. Be Accountable and in Community

If talking to someone safe feels like an embarrassing thing to do, there’s one last part of the start-to-get-your-life-back formula that will possibly feel even more uncomfortable: Check out a support group. Addiction in general is isolating and self-centred. Internet po*******hy addiction is particularly isolating because of its private nature. The antidote to isolation & self-centredness is community. A good addiction recovery support community (online or in person) is a chance to hear others’ struggles and victories, and to realise ‘I’m not alone, I’m not a freak, I can be accountable to my peers here without fear of judgement.’

I’ve been addressing my various addictions for 16 years. The 12-Step, peer-support framework, in particular, has helped me get my life back. I continue to give & receive help there for free. In my counselling service, I don’t recommend one support group (12-Step or otherwise) over the other. I’d work with you, at your pace, to try a group that might work for you.

Some Resources

Here’s the most extensive list of support I’ve found:
https://yourbrainonporn.com/support-apps-forums-websites-books
Also worth checking out:
Reboot Nation https://rebootnation.org
NoFap https://nofap.com
Relay https://joinrelay.app
P**n Addicts Anonymous https://pornaddictsanonymous.org

If you or someone you love has a po*******hy addiction (or any other kind of addiction), please feel free to contact me.

27/08/2025

Hi Friends, My first in a series of 12 articles. https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/finding-healing-through-words-and-silence-exclusive-interview-with-andy-travis
Enjoy.

10/08/2025

Sisters Grimm

I’m an arctic she wolf,
Sworn to protect,
Big Green Walking Boots.
The simpleton,
The holy innocent.

He’s nowhere near as smart,
As his sister,
Little Red Riding Hood.

Big Green’s in danger,
From my twin,
The evil one.
He devoured their grandmother.
And the woodsman never caught him.

(Little Red escaped without anyone’s help.
Brothers Grimm told the version that suited men.)

Don’t be fooled by my silky white coat,
My teeth are as sharp,
My jaws as strong.

My womb-mate can see in the dark,
Through his nostrils:
Warm blood,
And the rank armpits of fear.

Rub snow on my fur,
And it glows:
Dispelling darkness,
Of night and souls.

I roll in holy crystal drifts,
As lesser canines,
Roll in s**t perfume.
And I’m ready.

He knows I’m coming,
Smelling my roaring heart’s cargo,
But not my fear -
I have none.

When I tear his carotid arteries from him,
His luminous red,
Jet, jet, jetting,
Melting the snow where it lands…

Will I die too?

16/06/2025

I like sprouts.
I'm an alfalfa male.

21/03/2025

Recorded this five-minute guided meditation for heart and soul this morning.

A 5 min guided meditation for heart and soul.

26/02/2025

Back from a holiday and keen to get new clients on Wednesdays, where I've just started renting this room in Monbulk, Victoria. If you want some online or in-person counselling on a Wednesday, contact me and mention this post for a 25% discount on March 5th and/or 12th. Thanks, Andy. +61 415 734 744.

Are you looking for a counsellor who can really hear you well and support you to find your own solutions? In addition, would you like to do more than just talk therapy?

27/01/2025

14/01/2025

Addicted? Just need to be listened to well? Here's a virtual visit to Meeting Point Counselling's new room. See me there Wednesdays at Hills Consulting Suites in Monbulk. Feel free to contact me for a free 15 min phone session to see if I can help you.

17/09/2024

The Script in my Soul.

In this epic play,
So many characters:

Sunny sovereign,
Warrior,
Shopkeeper,
And street sweeper.

In the final scenes,
A weary and wounded band of gypsies inside me,
Yearning for lost Paradise.

Thirty-five years ago,
A meditation and drama teacher visited my school.

He was radiant in white coveralls,
And shook hands like a holy prince.

He guided a little group of us in a meditation,
To our better world.

I was touched,
And followed the path he showed me,
Into a whole new life.

Since then,
All the bare-knuckle boxers,
Streetwalkers,
Orphans,
Widows,
Hunchbacks,
And thieves,
Inside me,
Have been coming back home.

And by the grace of Creator and Creation,
They’re welcome.

17/09/2024

*I am a poet*

A smoke detector,

BEEP. BEEP. BEEP. BEEP.

I will make you stop what you’re doing,

Till you run,

Or flap a tea towel at me,

My job done.

*I am a poet*

A submarine,

BOOP. BOOP. BOOP. BOOP.

Mapping the ocean floor — the collective unconscious — reading the echoes.

*I am a poet*

A caged canary in a coal mine,

CHEEP. CHEEP. CHEEP. CHEEP.

Living yellow amidst the black of fossilised sunlight,

Here because the most helpful thing I can do,

Is to die first.

And until that moment,

I will sing.

19/01/2024

Hi Friends,

Tomorrow at 5am Sydney time, I'm the feature speaker on an international, 12 step recovery Zoom. For those of you in the US, it's at a more civilised hour - Friday, January 19, 2024 at 1:00 pm eastern time. I'll be sharing 25 min of my spoken-word poetry about addiction and emotional recovery, entitled "Rebuilding from the Rubble".

Here's the link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83106239501?pwd=MlVmcDZaRTNMaWoyMEx0Ymtub2MwZz09

Speaker Bio:

Andy T had a spiritual awakening (as a result of discovering meditation) 34 years ago. It enabled him to put down alcohol and other drugs. However he had some behavioural addictions and a mood disorder that progressed up till he joined 12-Step recovery 15 years ago. Andy's now a self-employed counsellor and continues to participate in 12 Step peer-support groups.

Here's one of the poems I'll be sharing tomorrow:

*When the Wars are All Over.*

Today I heard about a woman’s aunt.
Auntie Elena (aged 8) saw her big brother shot dead,
As he handed her onto the boat,
To escape from the war,
That was ricocheting around their heads.

How does anyone live with that?
Where does the pain go?
It trickles down generations,
Turning children’s and grandchildren’s homes,
Into deserts,
Bereft of love.

And still all of us,
One way or another,
Through one script or another,
Trudge on,
Carrying our wounded hearts,
Our shaking hands,
Our glazed eyes,
Into tomorrow.

Carl Jung said that every soul,
Reaches for wholeness,
As instinctively as an acorn,
Reaches for oakness.

Love,
You are the sun to my acorn,
You are the warmth that draws trauma’s poison,
Out of my veins,
Distilling it into compassion.

Hearing these stories,
I now know that my pain doesn’t separate me from humanity,
It joins me to it.

And when the wars are all over,
Inside and out,
We will come home to you.

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26/08/2023

Random audience member brought up on stage at the circus last night. Ringmaster/clown (Walison Muh) is somewhere between a mime artist and a beatboxer. He led us in a Wild-West showdown complete with sound effects. I had a ball. Who'd have thought Yr 12 impro drama classes would be helpful, out of the blue, 35 years later?