23/07/2025
Do you feel as parents we are expected to control our children? Yes, it’s our responsibility to educate, nurture and guide our children so they grow up to be wonderful, well-adjusted adults. ⭐️
But what is missing in our “culture of parenting” is – respect.
Our babies are complete, experienced souls that are having an earthly experience, they’re on their own journey here to experience life and as Mums, our claim to them is we helped them transition from the spiritual world 🙏 to the physical 🌍 through the portal of our body – birth. We need to tell them every day “I’m so grateful I’m your Mum”. 🥰
Now look at your baby with new eyes!! 😄 Knowing they are already a complete person! We need to respect that prior experience and tell them “Hey! I see you and I appreciate you and love you so much that you’re here with me”. 🤗
This respect also extends to when you are doing mundane activities of daily living, like a nappy change. Showing respect by saying “Now we’re going to change your nappy, is that ok with you?” Knowing they would of course want their nappy changed, but it’s setting up the practice for you asking and them getting used to you checking in with them rather than just going ahead and looking after their physical needs without telling them what you’re doing.
It's also respectful when they are crying. Being curious, being responsive and attentive about what they are trying to tell me? 🤔 What does that cry mean for them? 🤔 Being comfortable with listening to them cry knowing it’s a way of communication and they’re talking to you. You’re not trying to stop the cry, sshhh them up or worse still, plug a dummy in their mouth. Once you’ve worked out what you think they’re telling you, then you validate this …“Am I right? Is this what you’re telling me? You’re sounding frustrated, I hear you!” 🤗
This is being respectful. Giving your baby space to express themselves. See them as a colleague and a friend, someone who may end up teaching you something in this life!