10/07/2024
🌷 REAL TALK: My Motherhood Transition 🌷
Motherhood came to me when I wasn’t quite expecting it and wasn’t really ready for it. I was a student, still in the midst of my nursing studies and unsure of the stability of my relationship.
However, like most things in my life, I prepared myself the best I could, gathered supportive people around me to help and guide me, and learnt on the go!
The first few months of life with a newborn were challenging, I won’t lie. I wasn’t prepared for the wakeful nights, the amount of crying (my baby and myself), and how quickly the days disappeared.
My partner had some time off work, then when he went back to work, my Mum came to stay – which was so helpful. She was able to help me learn how to care for my baby, keep up with the chores – especially the washing, preparing meals, helping me get out of the house for a walk and fresh air, and was great company.
Over time, I felt more able and comfortable with time management and getting through the days feeling like I had accomplished something – whether that was just a load of washing or a trip to the supermarket to get some groceries.
One thing I know is... Family (biological or chosen) is important. I understand not everyone will have family close by, or within the country. So, it becomes necessary to call on friends, neighbours, or social media support groups.
I was the first of my group of friends to have a baby, so I couldn’t really rely on them for advice or knowledge. They were also still studying themselves, so I couldn’t rely on them for babysitting or caring duties either. Even though they didn’t really understand what I was going through, they were willing to listen and provide company at a catch-up for lunch, dinner, or an afternoon of shopping.
With time, and with wisdom, I have learnt a few things...
🌸 Don’t sweat the small things.
🌸 Be organised and prepared.
🌸 Laugh, have fun, and create joy.
🌸 Get down on the floor and play with the baby.
🌸 Mess can always be cleaned up and washed out.
🌸 Your mental health is a priority!
Take care, you are the glue that will stick everything together.
Pen x
📷 Then and now, my motherhood transition