18/06/2025
For the longest time, I thought I had to stay just because someone had been there for a season of my life.
They hadn’t done anything that bad or maybe they did.
I didn’t want to hurt them and their feelings became more important than my own.
I felt guilty for pulling away.
Every time I stayed longer than my soul wanted to,
I slowly abandoned myself until I completely lost myself.
Your heart doesn’t feel heavy for no reason.
That guilt you feel isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong—
It’s a sign you’re learning to honour what’s right for you.
When you stay in a relationship (romantic, friendship, family, or business) because you feel guilty—not because it actually feels good, healthy, or aligned—you’re not creating true connection.
You’re maintaining a dynamic out of obligation.
You're keeping the peace, not feeling at peace.
You're saying yes while your soul is screaming no.
It’s not love it's self-abandonment
Discernment, on the other hand, is what allows real connection to form.
It’s the clear, calm knowing that says:
"This relationship is aligned."
Or, "This no longer serves me."
It empowers you to choose from your truth, not your guilt.
When you act from discernment—whether you stay or walk away—you’re honouring both yourself and the other person with integrity.
That’s what builds authentic connection. Not martyrdom, not people-pleasing, not guilt.
If this hits deep, the Discernment Meditation inside the Empowered Woman Meditation Library was made for you.
Because you deserve relationships that feel nourishing, mutual, and true.
