27/11/2025
You were probably raised on achievement & sacrifice.
Taught that your value is based on what you can do for others.
That wanting things for yourself is selfish & the best thing you can be is selfless, having no needs yourself.
Maybe you've been let down over & over so learned that it was safer to do it yourslef & not rely on anyone.
You became super independent, refusing to ask for help well after you probably should have.
It usually isn't until you really fall apart that anyone even realises you weren't ok & it comes as massive surprise to everyone.
Honestly uou are probably so out of touch with your own needs you don't even know what you want.
But you aren't alone.
There are a lot of us out there, working to get better.
Better at asking for help, better at taking selfcare time.
Healing those wounded stories & choosing new ones to pass onto our kids, because this is not a cycle we want to repeat.
So if this post feels maybe a little too targetted...
Buckle up!
Because this is the space for you & it isn't always going to be pretty.