Healing Relationship Counselling

18/04/2025

15/02/2025

Most common mistake in communication is thinking you are fighting ABOUT something. What you are doing is fighting FOR something. Here are the three basic things we fight FOR.
1. Power and Control
2. Closeness and Care
3. Appreciation and Recognition

Follow for tips on how to communicate your needs more clearly and to fight the right way.

13/10/2024

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/oFLqwu8YksbnXgxZ/?mibextid=uSdriS

24/10/2022

Great advice on how to help kids regulate emotions

60 seconds · Clipped by Kyo-Ah Kay Chung · Original video "Dr. Gabor Maté — The Myth of Normal, Metabolizing Anger, Processing Trauma, and More" by Tim Ferriss

12/10/2022

https://youtu.be/yJQLuzWV_v4

Order your chaos! The Four Buckets approach to unpacking mental chaos. Sort your head out so that you can (1) figure out what needs to be attended to and (2)...

11/08/2022

19/07/2022

Mutual reconsideration, a trust reset, and more.

19/07/2022

What's something you learned about yourself through relationships?

23/06/2022

Talking about personality types and compatibility.

I invited a friend to talk about Myer Briggs personality types, compatibility, relationships and AI as future companions.

19/05/2022

... and why you shouldn't say, "You're getting defensive."

18/05/2022

Some actually good advice here.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship:

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language.
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes.
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other.

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.

- Lynne McCarthy

🎨 Shaza Wajjokh

10/05/2022

Here is a little blog I wrote for MindUp.
https://www.mindup.com.au/emotional-distress-in-relationships-and-what-to-do-about-it/

Why do we get so emotional at our partner when things are not going right? How do we know when a relationship isn’t working? Usually, we know when relationships aren’t working when we feel bad. We often feel emotional pain before we can even pinpoint what the problem is. It’s…