Healing with Tara

10/10/2022

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09/10/2022

I have felt pulled to share this post as I feel many will resonate. ❤️

Hi everyone

It has been a while since I’ve connected with you, or social media of any kind.

I’ve needed to… and continue to need, to take care of me – emotionally, physically and spiritually.

This post is quite vulnerable and personal, but I know it will resonate with someone.

I am very aware and more so than ever, that I am a recovering co-dependent… what is co-dependency?

“Co-dependency often has you funnelling your energy into supporting the people in your life without making space for — or even considering — what you need for yourself.

The signs of co-dependency typically include putting your own needs on the back burner to prioritize somebody else.

The main sign of co-dependency is consistently elevating the needs of others above your own. Other signs include controlling behaviors, self-sacrifice, and fear of rejection. But these aren’t the only ones.”

By Crystal Raypole on June 10, 2021 (PsychCentral)

You may know this state of being as a ‘people-pleaser’, a ‘rescuer’, etc. Does this sound familiar to you?

I’ve also become even more acutely aware, of how much I’ve allowed people to treat me with disrespect, disregard, unkind and even dismissive – again, mostly due to being co-dependent. It’s easily masked or excused as being tolerant, forgiving and letting go, don’t cause a fuss, don’t create conflict, keep the peace, etc., etc.

But the cost of continuing to allow poor and inappropriate behaviour can be emotionally and physically devastating – continually pushing down emotional pain and hurt can lead to anxiety, depression, heart issues, digestive and gut issues and burnout; the price for ‘keeping the peace’ is losing your own inner peace.

I recognise and acknowledge that I did not allow myself to grieve… I was more concerned about everyone else and months later it has caught-up with me. It has knocked me about and down both emotionally and physically. I am managing to continue my work with clients and then I allow myself to just rest, recover and space to grieve.

Social media became overwhelming and actually quite distasteful – I have closed my Instagram account and had deactivated my Facebook account until recently. I find the ‘noise’ of all the blah, blah, blah too much and it does nothing for my emotional state and Soul.

However, I have missed you on this page and my interactions with you and I want you to know that I appreciate your continued support. I will endeavour to re-start posting again but it will be when I have the mental and physical capacity to do so and when I have something I really want to share with you.

I am in the dark of the chrysalis, the black mush that the caterpillar becomes before it transforms into the butterfly… it is my time for transformation again, and although very painful, I know that I will come through to be the woman I am meant to be now and moving forward - I have changed and I am continuing to change. I have more life to live and more wisdom and knowledge to share… I know my place in this life and I am reminding myself of who I truly am and transforming to be my most authentic Self, without fear of what others think, want or expect.

I will share more about co-dependency as it is quite a common state of being and it is destructive unless you recognise it and begin the healing process. It’s quite an interesting time for me as I work with so many people who are recognising their co-dependence as I have mine. The most challenging part is actually accepting and acknowledging the co-dependence and once we do that, the healing begins.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts, opinions and views as always.

Love to you all xx

22/06/2022

Change of Business name coming… Woop that was fast..
Simplifying life 💕

09/06/2022

Love this! Be the person...

As we release the layers of trauma, this gets easier to do.

Room is made for more understanding, acceptance & compassion to come in.

It’s a bit like deleting painful files & replacing them with loving ones.

Healing our pain body assists our ancestral lineage. Amazing legacy.

26/05/2022

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21/05/2022

When was the last time you did something for you? SELF CARE is important 🥰

Some days, rest is best. In a go-go-go world, we gotta remember that NOT being productive *is* being productive.

But there is also peace, self-respect, and inner nourishment found in taking care of our adult responsibilities.

Both are forms of self-care.

❤️

Molly

20/05/2022

Really resonating with Wild Goose Counseling posts, if you feel the same go check out her page. (I don’t ever share other pages but I felt really pulled to share this one)
Have a great Weekend 😊

We learned early on that it was our job to focus on everyone else. Making them happy, solving their problems, meeting their needs…

That was our role.

And we did a damn good job, too.

Compassionately-hearted, we developed really strong arms when it came carrying to the burdens of others.

But when it comes to our own needs?

We struggle to identify what those even are, much less how to tend to them.

So it’s no surprise that we’ve also struggled with boundaries.

In relationships, at work, at home, in life.

Because setting boundaries requires an awareness of one’s wants and needs.

But we have no idea about what our needs are (much less wants, ha), so how can we communicate them to others?

We can’t even communicate them to ourselves.

When we try think about what our own needs might be, we feel guilty.

As if we are doing something wrong (or selfish) for turning our focus onto ourselves.

After all, it’s our job to focus on everybody else, right?

And so the miserable cycle continues.

And we’re tired, worn down, and depleted…

But we don’t know how to stop.

❤️

Molly

PS. If you wanna quit this cycle and discover a new way, you might love working with me in my 8-week online boundaries intensive (designed *specifically* for women with compassionate hearts).

To learn more, come watch the free intro class: http://boundaried.com 🦋

16/05/2022

A very common occurrence, put your self first. 😊
Great illustration thanks to Wild Goose Counseling.

16/05/2022

This is great for kids too!
Sessions are non invasive, it can be a great time to relax with or without talking, what ever suits best for you at the time. If you would like any details on what a session could look like, please message me. I do have some flexibility with session times just ask. 😃 Happy Monday

10/05/2022

It’s been a very long time between posts. I have felt pulled to step away for a while BUT I now feel it’s time to ease back into sessions again. $60 for an hour (Saving $20) for the remainder of May 2022.

Brain Fog is a big one at the moment... Why not come and have a session and give yourself an hour of much needed time out 😀

26/10/2021

LOVE THIS!

12/07/2021

21/06/2021

I will be taking the School Holidays off this time around. If you would like to book in a session before Monday please get in touch. $20 off 1 hour sessions for the remainder of this week to celebrate the holidays 😀