Psychology Cab

04/06/2024

28/08/2022

Lots of food for thought here

A beautiful reminder of how our wounds, unmet needs, and misconceptions can impact our parenting.

24/08/2022

Very interesting

24/08/2022

How tragic

The authors of the bestselling confidence guide for girls share advice for parents on how to stop the steep drop in confidence common among tween girls.

24/08/2022

This is very interesting for all of you raising boys

23/08/2022

Such an important message

Do you ever find yourself going around (and around… and around… and around…) in circles, trying to make a single point with your contentious teen?

Have you ever considered walking away when the conversation just isn’t going anywhere? 🤷‍♂️

Our natural instincts scream “Doesn’t this let my child win? Isn’t it my job to fix the situation… AND fix my child!?”

So instead we stay in a conversation that’s not going anywhere. We let our ego get in the way.

Remember this.

High emotions = low intelligence.

Your child is clearly not in a position to learn from you in those kinds of moments. (And if your emotions are escalating, you’re not going to be in a position to listen either!) The best thing you can do is walk away.

The situation isn’t resolved, but the conversation just isn’t productive right now.

And most importantly, It’s not good for our relationship for emotionally charged conversations to continue to escalate.

Stepping away indicates to your child that your relationship is bigger than this issue. That you care more about THEM than the issue. That you have confidence that when everyone is in a better frame of mind, you’ll be able to settle on a win-win solution.

Work it out when you’ve all had a good night's sleep. Fix it on the weekend, or just give them space to tap back into the character they have at their foundation. Deep down your kids really do want to have good relationships with the people they love. And yes! That includes their parents!

Hear more of the conversation on the podcast with me, Kylie, and our bathroom builder (Yes! You read that right! We’ve roped in the guy who has been renovating our bathroom! 🤣)

23/08/2022

This is such a powerful message

Often we feel so triggered by our children because they remind us of memory in our own childhood. For instance, if your cries provoked anger in your parents, your child's cries will feel intolerable because it reminds you too much of the pain of not being able to express your own emotions. When these wounds come up, and we recognize them as such, we are given such a gift-- we get to break toxic family cycles and give our children what we so desperately needed as a child.

17/08/2022

I love this 💕💕💕💕💕

15/08/2022

These are skills I still find difficult. I would love for my kids to be more confident with them than I am

"Speaking up for yourself can make anyone anxious. But if we prepare ourselves by practising we can do it without letting our big feeling silence us. Kids standing up for themselves has a lot of benefits…
👉 They will feel comfortable saying no
👉They will feel more confident and strong
👉They will find their independence not rely on others to save them
👉 They will develop solid and healthy relationships with peers who align with her morals and values
👉They will unlock the inner power.

Let's work with our kids to help them face these challenges independently"

(Original post: June 30)

09/08/2022

Some great strategies

08/08/2022

Excellent message - modelling feelings as a normal part of life. Being real and genuine with our kids. At an age appropriate level.

Thank you . Co-Regulation (using our calm to de-activate our children's nervous system) precedes self-regulation in children. And we cannot co-regulate our children if we are in a state of dysregulation.

21/06/2022

Very well put