Kayla Oakley - Serenity Counselling

18/11/2025

~ 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿'𝘀 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁 ~

I think this picture says it all...

We worry we aren't doing enough or too much.

We wonder if we are doing the right thing.

We blame ourselves for our child's behaviour and struggles.

We fear we are making things worse.

We fear we have 'messed them up' or our own sh*t is affecting them.

And things get even more painful when we realise we could have done things differently or better.

You see, no matter how hard we try, we are never going to get it completely right.

No one has ever mastered parenting.

We all make mistakes, struggle, worry, doubt, but in the end all that matters is that we are trying and doing our best.

But, even when we know this, the dark cloud of guilt fills our mind and body, preventing us from enjoying time with our children and enjoying life in general.

The way through it all is an act of acceptance, self-forgiveness and a willingness to move forward despite these feelings and create a life that is in alignment with your highest values.

Taking a good look at self-limiting beliefs can be quite helpful here too (there's a method to this, reach out if you need a hand).

To learn more, please read my latest blog 'Mother's Guilt - doubt, worry, fear, shame' (link below):

https://kaylaoakley-serenitycounselling.com.au/blog/f/mothers-guilt---and-everything-that-goes-with-it

Make peace with yourself ❤️🙏

Kayla

P.s. Coming soon, meditation for letting go of guilt - keep an eye out for this! 👀

14/11/2025

🎓 Graduation + Gratitude time!! 🥰

One thing I've learnt is that we really can't do anything great, alone.

Just to do this one degree, there had to be family to support me ( Tim Oakley 😊 & the boys), extended family (Mum + Lucinda Richards ), many, many volunteers for the role-plays (too many to mention, thank you all!), CUC and the beautiful ladies there, Ben Gleeson for allowing me to pick his psychology brain, and of course Jaspreet Singh for his continual wisdom, guidance, and encouragement.

I am forever grateful, thank you all!!

❤️🙏🎓

📷 by Penny Vella

30/10/2025

✨️ Tapping for Teens - Developing a Positive Body Image 🩷

If your teenage daughter is struggling with her body image and lacks confidence, this is for her.

This tapping tutorial will teach her the basics of tapping and how to release the negatives and make room for the positives.

Self-Love | Acceptance | Worth | Confidence

All my love,
Kayla 🩷🙏

P.s. Mumma's can watch this one too, sometimes your daughter's aren't the only one's struggling with body image xx

Learn how to use tapping as a tool to help find your worth, beauty, and inner strength ✨️Whether you are struggling with your body shape or the colour of you...

29/10/2025

I absolutely LOVE this! There are a few different techniques for tapping, but this just melts my heart ❤️

It really does work (science is even on board) and has been a huge part of my own healing journey.

With clients we focus first on digging out the dirt (the worries, fears, etc) then put this good stuff back in like this!

These guys rock 💪

Watch here 👇

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CqbKxqzPhzP/?igsh=Z2NsazBya2Izc3po

26/10/2025

🍂 Guided Mindfulness Meditation- Leaves on a Stream 🍂

Bring a sense of peace to your mind and body as you learn how to become the observer of your thoughts and emotions.

When we create distance from them, they aren't as overwhelming and we can see clearly 🔍 gaining a more peaceful perspective of what is happening 😇

Many of the beautiful women who have worked with me or come to my workshops will be familiar with this one.

I wanted you all to be able to access it whenever you needed 🙏

Lots of love,
Kayla ❤️

P.s. I will be creating many more of these and putting them on YouTube, so please feel free to add yourself to my channel!

Gather your thoughts and emotions as I walk you through this peaceful and calming 6 minute mindfulness meditation.Find clarity, find strength, find calm ✨️🙏...

22/10/2025

💁‍♀️𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗺 𝗼𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵👇

First of all we must clarify the difference between low self-esteem and low self-worth...

🩷 𝗟𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗺 has more to do with lack of confidence, lack of belief in oneself, and feeling inadequate, feeling like they lack the skills, knowledge, or even 'looks' to achieve something.

They may:

• Avoid people, places or situations so as not to look 'silly' or embarass themselves.
• Avoid trying new things for fear of failure.
• Not believe in their current abilities.
• Put themselves down for the way they look (body image).
• Often say "I can't" or "I'm not pretty enough/good enough" etc.
• Be scared of making mistakes.
• Compare themselves to others.
• Have difficulty making decisions.

🩷 𝗟𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵 ️involves a deep rooted belief that one is not good enough, and/or does not deserve to be happy or enjoy life. Usually tied up with guilt.

They may:

• Have negative self-talk such as "I am not worthy" or "I don't deserve to be happy".
• Self-harm.
• Feel guilty internally about something.
• Have experienced abuse.
• Allow themselves to get sick, look untidy, not take care of themselves.
• Feel unloved or unable to be loved.
• Feel undeserving of success or joy.
• Have suicidal thoughts.
• Become depressed.

🌸 Before you panic (as a Mum, I know your fear) please remember there is help and that self-worth, self-belief and self-love are very much possible 😉

Sometimes we just need a hand to learn how.

I am currently taking bookings, working with teens and women to help them make peace with themselves, to love themselves, to heal, and to grow 🩷

If you or someone you know struggles with any of these things, please reach out.

"Once the relationship with self is healed, everything else falls into place"

Bookings:

https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/kaylaoakleyserenitycounsellin

Love always,
Kayla ❤️🙏

21/10/2025

🎉🌟 It's finally here!!! 🌟🎉

🌟NEW WEBSITE! 🌟

Everything is coming together beautifully ☺️🌸 please check out my new website!!

You can find everything here from the services I offer, to my story and hints and tips for becoming a more peaceful, calm, and confident you! 😇

I am currently working as a registered counsellor within the Narrabri region supporting women and teens who experience low self-esteem/worth, stress and anxiety.

📅My current hours are:

Tue - 9am-3pm
Thu - 9am-3pm
Fri - 9am-3pm
*Sat mornings when needed

To book direct, please follow the below link:

https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/kaylaoakleyserenitycounsellin

Otherwise take your time and browse through my website, discovering what may be there for you!

🌸 Also, a HUGE thank you to those who have provided testimonials and feedback over the years and who are currently doing so. I am forever grateful 🙏

🌸🌸 Plus an extra HUGE thank you to everyone who has ever sat with me, meditated with me or came to one of my many workshops, this is all because of you 😘❤️🌹

📸 thank you to Marsella Morris for the photos 😘

Love always,
Kayla ❤️🙏

Make peace with yourself

17/09/2025

✨️ 📢 Seeking 3 x women/teen girls to work with (3 x free counselling sessions each) who may be struggling with at least one of the below:

▫️ Low self-esteem
▫️ Anxiety
▫️ Stress

All I ask for in return is your honest feedback on how you felt these sessions went and to provide a testimonial should you find benefit in them!

So, if you would you like to feel confident, calm, balanced, and light 😇 please reach out.

To qualify you must:

♡ Be willing to put yourself first and do this for your own benefit
♡ Commit to the 3 sessions
♡ Be open & willing to positive change

⭐️ The sessions will be person-centred (unique to you and your situation) and may involve methods, tools, and techniques of both a holistic and mainstream background.

*Not applicable to current clients as we have already begun your work 😉

Thank you for your help!

Lots of love,
Kayla

11/09/2025

🌸 R U Ok?

If we make talking about things 'normal' and stop hiding what's really going on, a few cool things happen:

• We align with who we truly are and what we are experiencing at that moment (no more pretending which relieves SO much pressure) 😌

• We give the other person a chance to help (which also helps them 😉)

• We free ourselves of the internal dialogue 😮‍💨and heaviness

• We open ourselves up to new and amazing possibilities 🤹‍♀️

• We shift the stagnant and stale energy, changing it up for something more productive 🦸‍♀️

• We show others it's okay to talk

• We feel lighter and better within ourselves! 🪶

So by sharing your struggles, even just a little, others may feel comfortable to do the same.

You aren't in this alone, we are in this together 💪🙌

Feel free to chat with me, about anything, you've all heard and seen my story, I've struggled and been in the depths of sh*tville... nothing you could say would make me judge you ✨️🙏

Lots of love,
Kayla

09/09/2025

🧘‍♀️People tell me time and time again that they can't meditate, that their mind is too busy, that it's too hard, or funnily enough, that they don't have time...

But what they are really describing and experiencing is their struggle to settle themselves enough to actually meditate.

Nothing bad has ever come from meditation.

Meditation is nothing bar a silence, a peace, a blissful state of nothingness 😇

What you are currently experiencing is the torment of your life, your mind and years of doing, going, being and happening.

Learn to slow things down, sit for even just 1 minute doing nothing.

You will get there, just don't stop, the feeling of true meditation is indescribable 🥰🙏✨️

If you need some guidance, please just reach out 🧘‍♀️☺️

24/08/2025

To the beautiful ladies who came today, my goodness, thank you, from the bottom of my heart, thank you ❤️🙏

It isn't always easy to face the darkness within, but to be able to share with like-minded and caring women helps so much.

I thank you, I bow down to you, you all inspire me to keep going, to trust, to follow this path.

It isn't me who does this, it is beyond all imaginable, and to that I am forever grateful.

I hope you all got something out of it.

My love to you all,
Kayla ❤️🙏

P.s. Thank you to The Exchange Narrabri for an absolutely stunning venue and facilities 🙏

21/08/2025

FORGIVENESS 🌷

If you are struggling to forgive yourself or to forgive someone else, please do listen to this 🙏

To forgive does not mean to forget, or that what you did or the other did was right.

It simply means an acknowledgement and understanding from where one can then let go.

So if your pain is coming from a past mistake, a broken relationship, abuse, whatever it may be, the pain and resentment and regret you hold only makes the body heavy.

"Be the point at which pain does not multiply" as Alan Watts talks about.

Break the link, break the cycle, save yourself, save your children, your family, and the world.

Do not let it ruin the rest of your life like dark poison seeping into the cracks.

Accept, forgive, let go...

Lighten your energy, purify your thoughts, focus on how you WANT to feel.

Let love, understanding, and compassion pour through each and every cell making you well again ☺️✨️🙏

Please watch ❤️

All my love,
Kayla

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