20/01/2026
I’ve been guilty of this too. Especially in the earlier years of my lingerie business, where body love was often positioned as the goal. It came from a good place. Empowerment, confidence, worth, self-love. All the good stuff. But over time, and the more I studied human behaviour, psychology, trauma and mental health, I started to see the unintended impact it can have.
For a lot of people, being told to love their body just adds another expectation. Another thing to fail at. Another way to feel like they’re doing healing wrong if they don’t wake up feeling confident or positive about themselves. That pressure doesn’t create safety. It creates more self scrutiny.
You don’t need to love your body to respect it. You don’t need to adore every part of yourself to be worthy of care. Neutrality can be a far more supportive place to be. A place where you stop attacking your body and start acknowledging what it has carried you through. Where your body becomes part of your story, not the measure of your worth.
Loving your body is beautiful if it happens naturally. But it shouldn’t be a requirement for healing, confidence or self worth. Sometimes the most compassionate shift is simply allowing yourself to exist in your body without forcing positivity. And often, it’s from that place that real care and respect begin to grow ❤