'Grow Where You're Planted' Bodywork Therapy.

30/08/2025

Hey gang, my websites down. Calm of your farm. You can continue to schedule bookings via DM or shoot me a text, like the olden days: 0490316691. Give me a beat to iron out the kinks of hosting nonsense. Love to all. Happy spring! x.

11/08/2025

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I’ve extended my operating hours so I can squeeze a few more of you in after work of a week day. Everyone knows after hours is the sweet spot. Jump online and have a gander. ⁣
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Love to all. ⁣
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www.alexandracoffey.com.au⁣
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📷 : Barrington Tops.

18/07/2025

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When the poet Andrea Gibson learned that their cancer was incurable, the news led to some of the most joyful years of their life. Faith Hill on what Gibson, who died this week, knew about living: https://theatln.tc/sLeyrNz2

📸: Courtesy of Coco Aramaki

15/07/2025

09/06/2025

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During pregnancy, fetal cells migrate out of the womb and into a mother’s heart, liver, lung, kidney, brain, and more. They could shape moms’ health for a lifetime, Katherine J. Wu reported in 2024:⁠ https://theatln.tc/qozjIdje
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The presence of these cells, known as microchimerism, is thought to affect every person who has carried an embryo, even if briefly, and anyone who has ever inhabited a womb. The cross-generational transfers are bidirectional—as fetal cells cross the placenta into maternal tissues, a small number of maternal cells migrate into fetal tissues, where they can persist into adulthood. ⁠
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Genetic swaps, then, might occur several times throughout a life. Some researchers believe that people may be miniature mosaics of many of their relatives, via chains of pregnancy: their older siblings, perhaps, or their maternal grandmother, or any aunts and uncles their grandmother might have conceived before their mother was born. “It’s like you carry your entire family inside of you,” Francisco Úbeda de Torres, an evolutionary biologist at the Royal Holloway University of London, told Wu.⁠
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Some scientists have argued that cells so sparse and inconsistent couldn’t possibly have meaningful effects. Even among microchimerism researchers, hypotheses about what these cells do—if anything at all—remain “highly controversial,” Sing Sing Way, an immunologist and a pediatrician at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital, told Wu. But many experts contend that microchimeric cells aren’t just passive passengers. They are genetically distinct entities. And they might hold sway over many aspects of health: our susceptibility to infectious or autoimmune disease, the success of pregnancies, maybe even behavior. ⁠
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If these cells turn out to be as important as some scientists believe they are, they might be one of the most underappreciated architects of human life, Wu writes.

05/05/2025

https://www.amazon.com.au/Medical-Gaslighting-Deserve-System-Makes/dp/1637745397

For women, the possibility of experiencing medical gaslighting—having a health care provider dismiss or ignore their concerns without considering appropriate testing or creating a treatment plan—has always been a very real and present danger, with consequences ranging from self-doubt and...

29/04/2025

Don’t bring your ideas to start a skateboard company to your realist or cynic friends—firstly, keep your ideas when they are new inside for a little while.

Because when ideas are new they are wobbly and don’t have knees and can be knocked over easily by people who have no right to weigh in on your dreams, and secondly take it to your friend who thinks the sun literally shines out of your ass and that you are god damn tinker bell.
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I have a few friends where I could say, “I’m running for president!” and they would look at me with encouragement, belief, love, and light in their eyes and sincerely reply, “I’m looking forward to having a coffee with you in the white house someday.”⁠
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I also have friends who would laugh at me and question said ideas and those friends can be really funny in their bitterness and realism absolutely has a place—I walk a thin line between being an idealist and a realist. Idealist 80%, realist 20%—but those are not the ones I bring my ideas to.⁠
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Be gentle with your ideas—and share them, and your life—really, with the people who tell you that even if it has never been done, that you are the one to do it.⁠
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It is so damaging and kills us to share our ideas with our realistic, and cynical friends and people in our lives because they can tear the rug from under your toes and none of the greats or the inventors of our world would have gotten anywhere with realism.⁠
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It fu***ng kills me when I hear people who have given up their life’s work and passion because someone told them it wasn’t a good idea.⁠
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I want to go find that person that told them it wasn’t a good idea, knock on their door in the middle of the night and throw a pie in their face.⁠
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Idealists are vital to dreaming the undreamable and making it come to life—and they are both who we need to become and who we should surround ourselves with when we are in a dreaming state.⁠
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Ceilings don’t exist, and if you are going to choose company that is realistic or cynical make sure you take their words with a grain of salt, humourfully, and then carry on with your bad-ass self and slay this world.

📷: Hannah Claire Photography

16/04/2025

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PARASYMPATHETIC LO******NG

There are two pathways possible when entering into the realms of erotic arousal.

Broadly the main pathway indulged and promoted by most of the world is what I would call sympathetic.

You know it.

Hot lustful kissing turning into clothes ripping, hard thrusting, full friction, bed shaking and collapse in a sweaty mess.

It always amazes me how in movies and shows characters go from that first kiss to ripping each others clothes off, with the cliched knock something off a table and/or slam against a wall, in like 15 seconds.

Granted it is hot.

It can cause that little stir inside, a little pelvic rock of pleasure and anticipation.

The thing about this pathway of lo******ng, however, is that it requires intensity.

High levels of excitation are required to generate the blood flow necessary for full engorgement and moistening.

Hence the clothes ripping, grabbing, thrusting nature of it.

Hence why addiction to the seeming delights of the adult entertainment industry is such a big problem for many men.

Because, like any thrill seeker… you always need more.

More intensity. More excitement. More heat.

It’s why lo******ng can be so passionate at the beginning of a relationship and then lead to diminishment of desire over time.

It’s hard to continue to generate an ever increasing supply of intensity… especially when you throw kids, jobs, financial stress, familiarity and all the other normal things of life into the mix.

The other pathway, parasympathetic arousal, is fuelled by an entirely different kind of energy.

Safety.

This is the kind of arousal that occurs when you feel so safe, so secure, so stable that your heart opens, your body relaxes, you can just be you in all your beauty and uniqueness.

Arousal from this place is effortless.

It doesn’t require intensity, excitement, friction.

This is the kind of arousal that occurs when your partner smiles at you with loving eyes, and you know they are truly there for you, and you are safe and you don’t have to do anything special to be wanted and loved and then… so naturally, so easily… your body is turned on.

I’ve found that the more safety I develop both in myself and my relationship, the easier it is to find my arousal.

There is no striving. No effort. No need to create any special conditions.

This isn’t “let’s light candles, stare into each others eyes for an inordinate amount of time with the requisite ambient music in the background for long full body massages before special ta***ic lo******ng”.

I mean sure, that’s nice and I’m all for it sometimes when there is time.

Yet this is much simpler.

It’s simply a body that responds to safety as the biggest turn-on.

And you know what… even though I’m 41, this part of my body feels like a teenager all over again. Even though we are past the honeymoon phase.

We can entirely rewire the erotic nature of our nervous system.

In my opinion it’s worth it.

More lo******ng.
More safety.
More love.

~ Damien Bohler

19/03/2025

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Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.

In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.

There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.

Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together.

~ Anonymous (author unknown)

**edited for fact check

18/03/2025

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-03-18/woven-coffins-sustainable-death-ritual-alternative-using-weeds/104995298?utm_medium=social&utm_content=sf276684552&utm_campaign=abc_australia&utm_source=m.facebook.com&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR35LMl2EZfnSdZWp27IeHougIlqKH7SUzTQLkMsVrsujSXOurzd-KiB1co_aem_5vN4qSOQ12w6hDRNdVrLbw

Coffin weaving workshops teach people how to make an alternative to traditional wooden caskets to suit their loved ones while helping the environment at the same time.

16/02/2025

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Bodywork appointments available this week Wednesday-Friday in Newcastle. ⁣
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Book online: ⁣
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www.alexandracoffey.com.au

03/02/2025

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Alexandra Coffey worked in music + media for years in Tokyo + Melbourne before devising her own system of bodywork therapy, some 14 years ago now. ⁣
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Derived from a combination of healing modalities; reflexology, acupressure, therapeutic deep-tissue, stomach massage, medicinal-grade aromatherapy, sound + yoga breathwork. Her method of bodywork therapy is a holistic deep-tissue physical treatment that covers not just the muscles of the body but also the skeletal system and the subtle body energy systems (qi or prana.)⁣
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Integrating and evolving these techniques to fit in with a simple philosophy of finding every bit of tension in the body and releasing it, as appropriate. Observing also, that the source of some residual tension in the body can be from emotional or stress-related reasons, as well as physical traumas and injuries.⁣
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Her Bodywork Therapy also recognises the body as one holistic organism and that dealing with one part in isolation is often not as effective as dealing with the whole person.⁣
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Bodywork Therapy has seen Alexandra travel the world and treat bodies of all types:⁣
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“I work a lot with children, elite athletes, the elderly and the chronically + terminally ill. I can’t think of anything else I’d rather spend my time doing.”⁣
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“Alexandra is not just an energetic bodywork healer— she’s a bit of a force. She holds space for you so powerfully that your nervous system takes a big sigh of relief the moment you’re in her presence. Alex doesn’t do surface level fluff. She dives into the depths. She has this bold, unapologetic way of speaking the truth- truth that lands and makes you think. Even if her perspective challenges you, theres always a gem of meaning that makes you stop and think.”⁣
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-Lucy Ellis, Psychotherapist.⁣
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Connect with Alexandra + www.alexandracoffey.com.au + 🎧 Grow Where You’re Planted on