Happell Tune Psychology

19/04/2026

18/04/2026

Most relationships don’t fail from lack of love. They fail from patterns they go unexamined.
Do any of these patterns resonate with you?

🎥 via .holistic.psychologist

13/04/2026

A lot of what we call “personality”
is actually protection.

And we don’t let it go
until it stops working.

Terry Real

08/04/2026

Disconnection in relationships often builds quietly over time.

Not through one big moment- but through what isn’t expressed.

03/04/2026

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in relationships?
It often starts long before now.
Looking at your family of origin isn’t about blame-
it’s about clarity, compassion, and change.

26/03/2026

Taking on responsibility can start as a way to cope.
When things felt uncertain, being the one who managed everything could create a sense of stability.
But, over time it becomes hard to let go or allow others to step in.

24/03/2026

Pleasing often starts as a way to stay connected.

When conflict didn’t feel safe keeping the peace could feel like the best option.
Over time, it can become automatic - even when it means your own needs go unheard.

This coping strategy worked for you once but it could be getting in your way as an adult.

20/03/2026

Our character traits come from our internalised family of origin story.

15/03/2026

What we learn from our family of origin story as a child/teen is what we bring into our adult relationships. We learn to adapt/cope/manage/survive our early years through a number of coping strategies.. some of us learnt to withdraw when things got tough, some of us leant to fight (like a dog with a bone at times), some of us learnt to please (to calm the situation down), some of us learnt to adult (parentification) way too early..

Some of these adaptive skills are very useful but others are definitely getting in the way of healthy relationship in adulthood.. ie.. the partner who withdraws whenever there is conflict or something difficult to discuss, the partner who can’t listen or hear what the other is saying because their too busy having their say, the partner who problem solves when the other just wants a supportive ear, the partner who pleases who never learnt they can say ‘no’ to the point they often feel unseen.

There comes a time when the ‘coping strategy’ becomes the wall, where the relationship feels ‘dead’ and the distance between you both feels too great. This is when couples tend to come to therapy.. sometimes it’s just in the nick of time, sometimes the damage is too great.