20/04/2026
This is simple question but the answers can be complex. In busy lives, with war in the headlines and the world situation in flux, many of us can forget to take the time to truly nourish our intimate relationships.
We can get spread too thin, feel overwhelmed and then need to recharge alone. Or we use substances to relax and reduce the tension in our bodies.
Intimate connections offer nervous system regulation, joy, relaxation and safety. Plus if the relationship is a sexually intimate one, then the pleasure experienced is healing and enlivening.
Prioritising means valuing this as much as your survival, because it is survival. Our relationships are our greatest security. They are a manifestation of the divine, the sacred experience of sharing your soul, and your humanness with another.
Our culture has fostered independence as a great virtue, and it is up to a point. However it can leave us feeling alone, disconnected, burnt out and miserable.
I've been there, putting other things first when it felt like I "had to". Now I look back and think, I actually didn't have to, I could have chosen differently.
Don't wait for perfect relationships, instead nurture the ones you have, put the effort in and let them grow.
Make time to develop new connections too. Let there be laughter and sharing and 'breaking bread' together.
If intimacy was your No 1. priority this week how would it look, what would be different? Comment below if you'd like to share.
with love,
Cynthia