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17/02/2026

Do you remember being a kid on a trampoline?

You’d fall down, try to get your footing and just as you started to stand up someone would double bounce you and you’d go flying again.

It was chaotic.
Unpredictable.
Impossible to stabilise.

Loving someone in Addiction can feel like that.

Just when you think things are steady…
there’s another relapse,
Another broken promise
Another emotional explosion

You try to regain balance
And the ground shifts again

Overtime your body learns not to fully stand up.
Not to relax.
Not to trust the stability

Because it might disappear

This isn’t about blame
It’s about impact

Living in that constant unpredictability is exhausting

And if that’s how it’s felt for you, you’re not being dramatic
You’ve been trying to find your footing on unstable ground

💜 if you’re ready to feel steady again, without abandoning yourself, I offer 1:1 support through my life beyond Addiction program
💜 DM me a book of free via the link in my bio to find out more

Take care,
Nicole x

11/02/2026

So often, when we love someone in addiction, we’re told the same things:

We need to understand addiction.
We need to understand trauma.
We need to be compassionate.

And I actually agree with that.

But there’s a quiet downside to this way of thinking — one I lived myself.

We start minimising the impact on us.
We start excusing behaviour.
We tell ourselves, it’s okay, they’re in pain, they have trauma, this is just how they’re coping.

And yes — those things can all be true.
But they don’t mean we have to abandon how we feel.

We all have trauma. Every human does.
But excusing harmful behaviour because of trauma — and carrying the weight of it ourselves — isn’t compassion. It’s self-erasure.

I remember once feeling immense anger about things that had happened in my relationship, and immediately shutting it down.

He didn’t mean it.
This happened when he was young.
I’m not allowed to be angry.

And I was gently reminded:
Anger isn’t right or wrong. What matters is what we do with it.

In my own healing, that anger was never directed at my partner. He never heard it.
It wasn’t about attacking him — it was about letting my truth move through me.

About allowing myself to say:
That hurt.
That crossed my boundaries.
That wasn’t okay for me.

This is the part we don’t talk about enough when we look at addiction through a compassionate lens.

Yes — people have trauma.
Yes — they’re coping the best they can.
And also… when we are hurt in the fallout, we are allowed to be hurt.

We’re allowed to feel angry.
Confused.
Scared.
Sad.

Please don’t minimise your feelings by rationalising someone else’s behaviour.

Your experience matters too.You’re allowed to hold compassion without abandoning yourself

💗 if this resonates and you’d like to explore 1:1 support, you’re welcome to DM me LIFE and we can gently take it from there

Take care,
Nicole x

10/02/2026

So often, when we love someone in addiction, we’re told the same things:

We need to understand addiction.
We need to understand trauma.
We need to be compassionate.

And I actually agree with that.

But there’s a quiet downside to this way of thinking — one I lived myself.

We start minimising the impact on us.
We start excusing behaviour.
We tell ourselves, it’s okay, they’re in pain, they have trauma, this is just how they’re coping.

And yes — those things can all be true.
But they don’t mean we have to abandon how we feel.

We all have trauma. Every human does.
But excusing harmful behaviour because of trauma — and carrying the weight of it ourselves — isn’t compassion. It’s self-erasure.

I remember once feeling immense anger about things that had happened in my relationship, and immediately shutting it down.

He didn’t mean it.
This happened when he was young.
I’m not allowed to be angry.

And I was gently reminded:
Anger isn’t right or wrong. What matters is what we do with it.

In my own healing, that anger was never directed at my partner. He never heard it.
It wasn’t about attacking him — it was about letting my truth move through me.

About allowing myself to say:
That hurt.
That crossed my boundaries.
That wasn’t okay for me.

This is the part we don’t talk about enough when we look at addiction through a compassionate lens.

Yes — people have trauma.
Yes — they’re coping the best they can.
And also… when we are hurt in the fallout, we are allowed to be hurt.

We’re allowed to feel angry.
Confused.
Scared.
Sad.

Please don’t minimise your feelings by rationalising someone else’s behaviour.

Your experience matters too.You’re allowed to hold compassion without abandoning yourself

if you’d like support in working through some of the feelings that have come up for you during this time, please DM me or book a free support call by my bio

Take care,
Nicole x

08/02/2026

I learned how to scan his moods, anticipate tension, and adjust myself so things wouldn’t spiral.

I tried being more patient and understanding, more careful with my what I said.

I genuinely believed that was what love looked like.

But it’s not…

This is what loving someone in addiction does.

It trains us loved ones to stay alert.
To feel responsible for everyone else’s emotional state.
And to slowly lose touch with our own needs.

That’s not a flaw.
It’s not our fault.
That’s our nervous system in survival.

I see this all the time with people I work with & engage with, beautiful souls who are loving, clever and thoughtful but who are exhausted from carrying what was never meant to be theirs.

So many blame themselves and carry a burden that’s not theirs because no one ever explained that hypervigilance and codependency are learned responses, not personal failures.
I too blamed myself for so long.

We don’t talk enough about the grief loved ones carry.
The confusion.
The fear.
The quiet unravelling that happens while you’re still showing up and still hoping things will change.

And that’s why so many of us end up feeling exhausted and alone, confused and scared.

If this resonates, you’re not broken.
You adapted.

Take care,
Nicole x

✔️ if you are ready for change, if you want to feel l more confident and more peaceful, if you want to walk beside your loved one but also begin to reconnect to you, DM or comment “HEAL”, and I can share more about how I can help you break free from the chaos addiction brings to feel more calm, present and steady x

05/02/2026

Loving someone in addiction can slowly teach you to put your life on pause, waiting for the day things finally change.

Hope
Disappointment
Hope again
Disappointment again
It’s exhausting

This isn’t about blame or giving up
It’s about recognising when your happiness has quietly been outsourced

You’re allowed to support someone without carrying their recovery
You’re allowed to keep your own keys of happiness in your own pocket

🫶🏼 save this for when you need a reminder that you’re well-being matters to

❤️ if you’re ready to hold your own well being safely in your hands again, I offer 1:1 support for loved ones through my program Life Beyond Addiction x

DM to find out more
Take care,
Nicole x

04/02/2026

How many times have you heard
“this is the last time”
”this is the last bet”
“this is the last drink”
“this is the last hit”

And for a moment, you believe it.
Because they believe it too.

Then the cycle repeats.
And you feel that heavy drop in your body of here we go again…

Loving someone in addiction can quietly put your whole well-being on hold.
Your nervous system stays suspended between hope and disappointment.
Clean.
Not clean.
Trying.
Not trying.
Over and over and over.

For a long time, I handed my happiness over without realising it.
As if my peace depended on whether, he stayed sober that day.

But eventually, I learned something important: I don’t have to carry his recovery to support him.

I can walk beside him without handing over the keys to my happiness.

This isn’t blame.
It’s left experience.
And if this resonates, please know you’re not alone.

💜 take care,
Nicole x

27/01/2026

Fixing can quietly become a survival strategy when addiction is involved.

Not because you want control but because you want safety, stability and some sense of certainty.

Over time, I noticed how much energy went into managing, monitoring and trying to prevent things from falling apart.

And how little energy was left for me & everyone and everything else in my life.

Letting go of fixing didn’t mean I stopped caring, it meant I stopped carrying what was never mine to hold.

If you are reading to let of of ‘fixing’, Dm or book a free call to find out how I can support you

Take care,
Nicole x

25/01/2026

Trust after addiction isn’t an automatic

It’s built gently, with consistency over time

We can’t force it

We can’t rush it

But understanding that our trust has been broken over and over again and needs time to recover, nurturing and safety is really important

So please give yourself grace if trust feels like it’s slow in coming or may never arrive

💜 if you need support navigating this time, please DM me to find out how I can support you

Take care,
Nicole. X

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