09/06/2021
WORLD EMPATHY DAY ā JUNE 9
Empathy isā¦.
Seeing with the eyes of anotherā¦.
Listening with the ears of anotherā¦
And feeling with the heart of anotherā¦.
On this special day let us recognise and empathise with the millions of Australians living in chronic pain.
And just how we react to our loved ones and friends when they are in pain or receive a bad health diagnosis can make a big impact on how they feel too.
āWhen patients receive bad news or open up about their pain or illness to family and friends, itās important to remember as the receiver of this information, that you need to listen at least as much as you talk,ā says Sydney Pain Management Centre's Pain Physician Dr Vahid Mohabatti.
āWhen people are in pain or going through a health crisis they want to feel heard. They want to feel understood. Unfortunately, many people donāt know the best way to deal with this kind of information. They may think itās reassuring to tell someone just diagnosed with bowel cancer, that an Aunt survived stage III bowel cancer and is doing well. However whilst this is well-meaning, what works for one person, doesnāt work for everyone.
In fact, outside of health professionals, unless asked, offering unsolicited opinions can often only make the patient feel even more disconnected or confused," he says.
If someone is in pain, or going through a health crisis, instead of offering āstoriesā āopinionsā or āsolutionsā positive statements might include:
- āIām so sorry you are going through this.ā (Instead of, āyou look so well, -
things must be going OK?ā)
- āIām here if you need me or want to talk about your treatmentā (Instead of How is the chemo going?)
- āIām available Mondays or Fridays if you need to be taken to your medical appointmentsā. (Instead of insisting on taking them to ALL appointments).
Small acts of kindness are usually appreciated but large ones can be a burden or overwhelming.
Sometimes silence isnāt silent at all and listening with open ears, and only offering thoughtful opinions when you know they are truly welcome ā well that is what being a true empath is about.