Rebeccah Evans Counselling & Psychotherapy

03/09/2025

This is what I call “Choose your hard”…

24/08/2025

30/07/2025

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22/07/2025

A little recap on some of our emotions…

20/07/2025

This is something I’ve been experiencing over the past two years. It’s confirmed that I can be ok with myself and that I’m perfectly great in my own company too.
I used to feel so upset that relationships weren’t reciprocated. Questioning myself. Now I’ve truly experienced that I can enjoy people as they are: that takes the disappointment and frustration away.

I’m teaching myself to pull back when I start to notice my place in someone’s life.

It’s not always easy—especially when they mean so much to me—but I’ve learned that holding on too tightly only leaves me feeling out of place. Sometimes, no matter how deeply I care, I have to accept that I don’t hold the same space in their heart. And while that realization stings, I remind myself that it’s not a reflection of my worth but simply the way people are wired differently.

Not everyone loves the way you do. Not everyone sees relationships with the same depth or tenderness you offer. I’ve had to stop expecting my heart to be mirrored in others. It’s a tough lesson, but it’s freeing, too. It teaches me to cherish those who truly see me, while quietly letting go of the need to force connections that aren’t meant to be.

After all, your heart is meant to be protected, not stretched thin trying to earn a place in someone else’s world.

— LJ Guzman

— Artwork : Hiril

15/07/2025

As the saying goes, “it bites you on the arse when you’re not looking”…

15/07/2025

Does this speak to anyone?

25/06/2025

Healing is messy

**No one really talks about the angry stage of healing.** The part where your sadness gives way to something much sharper — **rage.** Not the kind that lashes out blindly, but the kind that simmers deep inside you when you begin to truly grasp what you went through. The kind that burns through the fog of confusion and denial and says, “I can’t believe I let that happen. I can’t believe *they* did that to me.”

It's the stage where the masks fall off — theirs and yours. You see their manipulation clearly. You see how they guilt-tripped you, gaslighted you, made you question your worth, all while pretending to love you. And you see how much of yourself you gave — your time, your loyalty, your energy, your love — all to someone who only ever cared about what they could get from you.

**The disgust hits you in waves.** One moment you're fine — breathing, moving forward, hopeful. And the next, it hits: the flashbacks, the memories, the self-betrayal, the realization of just how long you were surviving instead of living. You remember the lies. The emotional games. The way they played the victim when *you* were the one being hurt. And you rage — not just at them, but sometimes at yourself, too, for not walking away sooner, for loving them harder instead of protecting yourself.

But here's the truth: **that anger is part of healing.** It means you're no longer numb. It means you're no longer buying into their fantasy. It means you're starting to advocate for yourself in a way you never could before. Anger is not a setback. It's a powerful, necessary part of the process — because sometimes, before you can make peace, you need to make noise.

So let the anger come. Let it rise and teach you. Let it burn through the lies. Let it show you just how much you deserved better — and how fiercely you will protect your peace from now on.

**You’re not crazy. You’re healing. And healing is messy, honest, and beautifully real.**