ONTHEMAT_WithMel

27/02/2024

I built a house for love to grow
I was so young that it was hard to know
I'm as lost now as I was back then
Always make a mess of everything
It's about time that I face myself
All I do is bleed into someone else
Painting walls with all my secret tears
Filling rooms with all my hopes and fears
But oh my, oh my
I'll never learn if I never leap
I'll always yearn if I never speak
To be loved and love at the highest count
Means to lose all the things I can't live without
Let it be known that I will choose to lose
It's a sacrifice but I can't live a lie
Let it be known, let it be known that I tried
I'm so afraid but I'm open wide
I'll be the one to catch myself this time
Trying to learn to lean in to it all
Ain't it funny how the mighty fall?
Looking back I don't regret a thing
Yeah, I took some bad turns that I am owning
I'll stand still and let the storm pass by
Keep my heart safe 'til the time feels right
But oh my, oh my
I'll never learn if I never leap
I'll always yearn if I never speak
To be loved and love at the highest count
Means to lose all the things I can't live without
Let it be known that I will choose to lose
It's a sacrifice but I can't live a lie
Let it be known
Let it be known that I cried for you
Even started lying to you
What a thing to do
All because I wanted
To be loved and love at the highest count
Means to lose all the things I can't live without
Let it be known, known, known
That I will choose, I will lose
It's a sacrifice but I can't live a lie
Let it be known
Let it be known that I tried, that I tried
Let it be known that I tried

-Adele

26/02/2024

JUST THIS…❤️

In the stillness of her being, there's a whisper, soft and yearning, for a presence that sees not just the curve of her smile but the stories etched in the corners of her eyes. She craves a depth, a connection beyond the surface, where her essence is not just observed but completely revered, where her spirit is not just acknowledged but profoundly felt.

Her desire is for a sanctuary, a bastion within the strength of the masculine, where her heart can lay its burdens down, where her vulnerabilities are not weaknesses but bridges to intimacy. In this space, she dreams of safety, a fortress of trust and acceptance, where the masculine guards not just the door but every window to her soul, ensuring that within these walls, she can dance freely in her truest form.

To be adored is her silent plea, adored for the storms she has weathered, for the tears that have watered her growth, for the laughter that echoes in the chambers of her heart that at times are unsafe to be seen. She craves adoration not for the fleeting, but for the eternal within her, for the flame that flickers in her sensual gaze, for the resilience that lines her back, for the wisdom that whispers through her words.

Her longing is for a trust as deep as the ocean's unseen depths, where her fears can be spoken and heard, where her dreams can be shared without restraint, where the masculine stands not above but beside her, a guardian of her secrets, a partner in her journey. She yearns for a connection where trust is the foundation, built not on the sands of time but on the bedrock of mutual respect and understanding.

What she asks of the masculine is a strength that does not seek to overpower but to empower, a presence that is both shelter and liberation. She calls for a love that does not confine but expands, that celebrates her not just in her radiance but in her darkness, that loves her not in halves but in wholes.

In this dance of masculine and feminine, she seeks not a leader but a partner, one who understands that true strength lies in vulnerability, that true power is in gentleness, and that true love is in seeing and being seen, in knowing and being known. She desires a masculine that does not just exist but lives in this posture of openness, of courage, of unconditional love.

This is her vision of love, a space where the feminine can thrive, safe and adored, seen and understood, a haven where trust is the air she breathes, and love is the ground she walks on. In this dance, she does not seek perfection but authenticity, a bond that is not unbreakable but resilient, a love that grows not in the absence of storms but through them.

Her heart whispers this longing into the universe, a call for a love that transcends, a partnership that elevates, a connection that transforms. This is her dream, her desire, her plea – for a masculine that rises to meet her in her entirety, in her complexity, in her simplicity, in her infinite capacity for love.

One is glad to be of service.

🎨

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Ladies, join us tomorrow night for Breathwork For The Feminine to explore deeper intimacy. Secure your seat here: https://stefanossifandos.com/feminine/

21/02/2024

We CAN do EVERYTHING a man can do (and IMO sometimes even better 🙊) but in order to do that, we go into our masculine, disconnecting us from SELF and our healthy feminine, which then means we lose everything that makes us special and unique as women, we lose the ability to tune into our intuition, listen to our bodies and our emotions and our sense of joy & play…

We are the DANCERS and the DREAM MAKERS, the WATER, the MOON… we are ever changing & FLUID .. THE OPPOSITE of a man, for a reason…

I NO LONGER have the want or need to prove, I can do what a man can, my only want and need now, is to be the FULL expression of MY-SELF, to lean into my healthy feminine and embody that fully…

To heal the world, you first must heal yourself, and restore the balance WITHIN yourself, to allow a natural, healthy partnerships to emerge and support and love you along your journey and you theirs

💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

We only need to be what we were born to be,… OURSELVES 💖

01/02/2024

They say you don’t grow in your comfort zone, well, …I’ve never been more uncomfortable,… 🥴

Everything is crashing down around me and, the tower is crumbling…

And let me tell you, I’ve been doing everything I can, NOT to go down with it, BUT I can’t keep holding on to what is falling apart, I need to let go and surrender to the process…

My marriage is officially over, I have no job and very soon I will have to move out of my home where I have raised my children and lived for the last 10 years,…

Everything is changing and I feel as though I am being burnt at the stake ….

… but I need to trust that I will not be burnt down to the ground, but rather that I will rise like a phoenix from the Ashes…

I’m feeling very vulnerable and exposed as both my internal and external words shift dramatically….

19/01/2024

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16/01/2024

Beach hair, don’t care 💁🏼‍♀️

It’s been a weird summer for me, more time inside than out, but today, I got my sad little butt off the couch and down to the water, for a much needed dose of Vitamin-sea and D.

….and I am SO glad I did!

The beach has always been “my place “… the place I go to, to heal and find comfort but for some reason, this summer, I haven’t done as much “soul therapy” as I normally do, I’ve needed to stay inside and process some big changes happening in my life right now…

But a few days ago, I felt her calling me and I knew it was a call I couldn’t ignore, like the mother she is, she welcomed me with open arms, held me close and whispered,… it’s all going to be alright…

Sometimes, we get in our heads, fearful of a possible outcome, but 9 times out of 10, it’s worse in your head than it’s ever going to be… show up, lean it and let go… it’s ALL going to be alright! 💙

10/01/2024

Eyes forward to the future…

… grateful for now 🙏🏼

09/01/2024

Absolutely LOVE Brene’… everything she said just LANDS with me in a way I am able to feel it, relate to it and UNDERSTAND it… pure gold she is 💛✨

08/01/2024

To all the QUEENS out there doing the best they can 💖

"The Undaunted Spirit of Women"….

"Every woman is the sovereign of her own illustrious narrative, a queen who reigns supreme over the kingdom of her life with grace and unyielding fortitude. Her wisdom, a beacon that illuminates the path of the lost, her strength—an anchor in the tempestuous seas of challenge, her resilience, a phoenix rising from the ashes of tribulation, and her compassion, a balm that heals the deepest of wounds. These are not mere traits, but the very essence that weaves the fabric of her regal spirit. Queens do not merely walk upon the earth; they leave footprints of inspiration, with each step a testament to their profound impact. They chase their passions with the ferocity of a storm, explore the vast corners of the globe with boundless curiosity, foster life with the tenderness of their touch, roar down open roads with the freedom of their spirit, surrender to the depths of love with the bravery of their hearts, and embody every role with the versatility of the winds.
They require no ornate diadem to assert their sovereignty, for their crown is forged from the mettle of their souls. It's in the courage that dances in their eyes as they stand up for their convictions, in the sacrifices they bear as badges of honor, and in the love they radiate even in the face of adversity.

Tears may grace their visage, a silent testament to the battles they face, yet they stride forward, heads held high, for they know that sorrow is but a passing shadow over the sun of their indomitable spirits.
To every woman who has ever doubted her brilliance, let these words be your clarion call: within you roars the heart of a queen, mightier than the doubts that besiege you. Your ability to rise is inexhaustible, your potential to rule your destiny is infinite, and the time to unleash and embrace the majesty of your inner queen is now.
She who wears the invisible crown knows this: her empire is not made of stone and mortar, but of courage, determination, and the undaunted will to triumph. With each challenge hurled her way, she does not falter; she builds higher, stronger, more resplendent than before. Her castle stands not on the grounds of conquest, but on the fertile soil of her unbreakable resolve."

"So, let your gaze be as fierce as the noblest of queens, your spirit as resplendent as the most opulent of palaces. Stand tall with the knowledge that within the chambers of your heart, the throne is yours and yours alone. Let the world behold the spectacle of your reign, for you, in all your splendor, are a true queen. And never, not for a fleeting moment, should you forget the empire of self that you embody, for it is vast, it is beautiful, and it is irrefutably yours."

Written by -Steve De'lano Garcia

26/12/2023

From my heart to yours, no matter how you spent your Christmas, I hope your day was filled with love, laughter and peace 💚🎄