16/08/2025
Finished 'How To Love Better' by Yung Pueblo 📖
Food for thought and lots and lots of ideas to journal on..
Whether you are in a relationship, going through a breakup or are happy single, this book will give you insight into why you show up the way you do and how that has created your current reality.
Highly recommend!
If you want different relationships all you have to do is take responsibility and accountability and make a change. No one is going to do it for you. Blaming your trauma or another person's choices are not going to get you a more fulfilling life. This is not to say that trauma isn't allowed to have affected you.. but you have a choice to make. Hold on to it like a security blanket and blame it for all that's bad in your life, or make it part of a stronger, more confident and more self-aware you..
Self awareness is key to knowing who you are but also to let your partner get to know you, truly.
Your relationship with yourself is mirrored in the relationship you have with others. Be who you want to attract in your life.
Physically and emotionally removing yourself from difficult conversations halt the connection from going deep. Arguments will happen anyway, so when they happen, argue to understand. Not to win.
3 Green flags to look for in someone according to Yung (and I agree): kindness, compassion & growth.
These traits are key players in cultivating a strong, deeply connected and loving relationship because:
When someone is kind, they'll have a much more positive outlook on life and are able to bring softness when things are hard.
Compassion allows others to see or learn your perspective and focus on where you can meet each other versus who is wrong or right.
And growth is an acceptance and understanding that you both will change in the relationship. It is also a sign that someone is willing to work through things.
And one last reflection: Learn how the other person wants to be loved versus giving them the love the way you want to receive it. And check in regularly if they feel loved. Whether you call this love languages or simply being curious about your partner, either is fine.
Learn how to love them better 🤍
Go read it!
