
21/08/2025
When Accommodating Becomes Exhausting 😴💙
"I know my child needs me to be flexible. I know traditional parenting doesn't work. I know their nervous system requires accommodation. But I'm so tired of constantly adapting, negotiating, and walking on eggshells."
If this sounds familiar, you're experiencing accommodation fatigue ... and you're not alone.
What accommodation fatigue looks like:
• Feeling drained from constant flexibility
• Resentment creeping in (then guilt about the resentment)
• Questioning if you're "doing it right"
• Feeling like you've lost yourself in the accommodations
The truth is:
Your child DOES need these accommodations. Their nervous system IS wired differently. AND you're allowed to feel exhausted by it.
What helps:
• Acknowledge that this is genuinely hard work
• Find micro-moments for your own nervous system
• Remember: you're not just accommodating, you're rewiring generational patterns
• Seek support from others who understand
You're not failing. You're pioneering a new way of parenting that honours nervous systems. That's revolutionary work, and revolutionary work is exhausting.
Your tiredness is valid. Your love is enough.