04/03/2026
🌿 THE 5 HARD TRUTHS🌿
Motherhood doesn’t come with a “how to book.”
It works with the experience you are having in the present moment.
The five truths I learnt-
🌼1. My child’s growth starts with me.
I am her model, her everything. She looks up to me, she sees me and she follows. After all it’s natural instinct.
The behaviour I model, the language I use and actions I take she learns from.
The more I better myself and have self growth within me, the more expansive her growth is.
🌼2. She doesn’t make me feel anything…
She doesn’t “make” me feel anything. My emotions are my responsibility. This awareness is HUGE in motherhood. Statements like “you make me angry” are bu****it because it’s you and your own expectations and negative narratives in your mind that “make” you angry. …. This one really changed the language I use.
🌼3. UNRESOLVED CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Triggers will remain triggering if past trauma is not resolved. Experiences through motherhood can trigger those experiences causing emotional outrage, spiralling and instability. … ultimately, breaking the generational trauma changes the way you parent and experience motherhood.
🌼4. The mirror.
She is a mirror of me. What I feel she feels, what I experience she experiences on some level. The awareness around this and acknowledgment of actions has created a deeper level of connection.
🌼5. The expectations.
The only expectations I have of how I parent are those I have placed on myself.
Before doing the deep personal development work I was ruled by “I’m not good enough” “I’m worried what others think” and fear.
And now, I stand strong in my truth as a parent.
Motherhood is no one size cookie cutter. This is the misconception of society. Everyone’s journey is different, everyone’s limiting beliefs and stored negative emotions are different.
Sure I have days where “I’m not good enough” creeps in as everyday reveals a different experience in motherhood and that’s where the growth is.
It’s about being 1% better with self awareness, growth and development than the day before.