Mended Minds

02/01/2026

✨ New Year, Same Old Habits? Let’s Break the Cycle. ✨
Ever feel like you’re stuck on repeat with your resolutions? In Schema Therapy, we look at "life traps"—patterns we learnt as kids that still trip us up today. 🔄
Instead of just trying harder this year, try looking deeper:
• Recognise the pattern: Are you always putting yourself last or being too hard on yourself?
• Be kind to yourself: That "inner critic" usually comes from a place of old pain, not current reality.
• Heal the root: Real change happens when we understand why we get stuck.
Let’s make 2026 the year you stop fighting your old scripts and start writing new ones. You’ve got this! 🧠❤️

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26/12/2025

A Season of Peace from Mended Minds 🎄
The holiday season wasn't just about the "hustle and bustle"—it was a time for quiet moments of clarity and a rested mind. At Mended Minds, we hoped you remembered that your peace was a priority.
Whether you celebrated with a full house or enjoyed a quiet day of reflection, we trust your Christmas was filled with kindness—both for others and for yourself.
We hope your day was bright, your heart was light, and your mind was at rest. 🕊️
Warmest wishes from our family to yours!

24/12/2025

Ever wonder why some people snap or get defensive the moment you ask a simple question? 🚩
It’s rarely about what you asked and more about how they feel in that moment. To a hypercritical person, a question doesn't feel like a request for information—it feels like a threat.
Here is the psychology behind that "defensive wall":
• The Fragile Ego: If someone struggles with deep-seated insecurity, they perceive a question as an interrogation. They attack your "phrasing" or "logic" to flip the script and regain a sense of superiority.
• The Narcissistic Shield (NPD): For those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a question can trigger "Narcissistic Injury." Because they need to be seen as all-knowing, a question feels like you’re pointing out a gap in their knowledge. They respond with hypercriticism to belittle you and re-establish their dominance.
• Control = Safety: For those who grew up in high-pressure environments, being "wrong" felt dangerous. They use criticism as a preemptive strike to keep you at a distance and stay in control of the conversation.
• Projection: They are often their own harshest critics. They project that internal "inner judge" onto you, assuming you’re judging them just as harshly as they judge themselves.
The takeaway: Their hypercriticism is a "smoke screen" for their own vulnerability or need for power. It's a reflection of their internal world, not always your ability to communicate. 💡

18/12/2025

Healing isn’t about pretending the heavy days don’t exist; it’s acknowledging the storm without becoming consumed by it. When we focus attention on gratitude, a kind word, a warm cup of coffee, or just a quiet moment of peace we start to find the hope to take the next step.
Keep looking up and you will notice the light breaking through the clouds.☀️🌈

16/12/2025

Friendly reminder: asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you want things to be better.
If you're struggling, reach out. You are worth the effort. ✨.

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14/12/2025

It's easy to say "just snap out of it" or "it's all in your head" when someone is struggling with mental illness. But for those living with it, these words often deepen the feeling of being alone, misunderstood, and invisible.
Mental illness isn't a choice or a weakness; it's a real health condition. Let's choose empathy over ignorance and create a world where no one feels isolated for battling their mind. You are not alone, even if it feels that way sometimes. ❤️

13/12/2025

Abnormal is a subjective judgment from those that could never understand your pain.

12/12/2025

The storm is a moment that allows pause to notice ourselves. We cannot control or avoid the storm. Learning to be still, acknowledge and accepting ourselves may release you from old patterns.

08/12/2025

🧠 Are you familiar with your Core Coping Styles? 🤔

We all develop coping styles—automatic ways of responding—to deal with painful feelings that often stem from early, unmet emotional needs. These styles are our default survival mechanisms, but when we overuse them, they can unintentionally keep those old, painful emotional issues active!

There are three main maladaptive ways we cope:

Surrender: You accept the issue as true and act in ways that confirm the negative belief. Example: A person who feels unlovable constantly seeks out critical partners.

Avoidance: You try to bypass the painful feelings of the issue entirely. Example: A person who fears disappointment avoids close relationships altogether.

Overcompensation: You fight the issue by acting in the opposite way, often to an extreme degree. Example: A person who fears being controlled becomes excessively controlling and domineering.

Recognising which style you use is the first step toward healthier change! Recognising these patterns helps you choose a more adaptive behaviour.

03/12/2025

Make one small change today. Just one!

A life that matters is rooted in your deepest yearnings. You don’t need to wait until everything is clear. Take one small action aligned with the qualities you care about, even today. Meaning is not found in a single grand revelation; it’s built moment by moment. Purpose grows as you live it.
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01/12/2025

Love this post! ❤️❤️

Good morning!

Take the time to notice the wonder that’s found in the simple, yet extraordinary.

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