Mended Minds

17/11/2025

Not everyone will understand, and the need to explain passes when you pause and observe its source.

12/11/2025

Silence the Critic, Find the Solution
The urge to criticize points to a failing we won't face in ourselves (like our own chaos or delay).

When the judgment hits, choose quiet.

Pause, and ask: "What truth is this hiding about me?"

Use that moment, not to criticize them, but to find a solution for yourself. Turn outward judgment into an inward plan.

12/11/2025

🛑 Quiet the Critic. Embrace Growth.
The urge to judge others? It's often a swift defense mechanism, pointing to an unaddressed area you need to work on yourself.

This isn't about justifying anything; it's about making a positive change.

When criticism surges, choose quiet.

Pause and ask: "What growth opportunity is this showing me, and what can I change right now?"

Turn that outward focus into an inward plan. That is where real progress begins.

09/11/2025

🤫 The Critic's Mirror
I'll be honest: I struggle with the urge to criticize others. It's a quick, easy outlet when I feel uncomfortable or stressed.

But I've realized something important. That powerful urge to point out a flaw? It's often just a distraction.

The things we harshly judge in others usually touch upon an unconscious fear or failing in ourselves. We zoom in on their messiness or their delay because it's easier than facing our own chaos or procrastination.

The next time that critical feeling surges, try this simple but hard shift: Choose quiet.

Don't speak, don't type, just pause. Ask yourself: "What is the uncomfortable truth this is hiding about me?"

Turning the instinct to criticize outward into an act of self-reflection is one of the most honest and powerful things we can do.

07/11/2025

The only way to overcome the past is through the fire. Without self compassion this becomes impossible and we remain trapped. Want to live in a better world? What are you going to do about it?

You don’t know how a smile may change someone’s day. Be kind 🙏🏽❤️

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03/11/2025

🌳 Embracing Our Inner Seasons: A Journey of Self-Compassion & Curiosity 🌳

Just like this tree moves through its seasons, we too experience profound changes within ourselves. From the stark clarity of winter to the vibrant abundance of summer, each phase holds a unique truth. Our "Tree of Self" reminds us that sometimes, our perception can get stuck, much like seeing only bare branches and missing the hidden life preparing beneath the surface.

From a Jungian perspective, these shifts are opportunities to engage with the rich tapestry of our psyche. When we face challenges or feel "stuck" in a difficult season, it's often an invitation to explore the unconscious narratives, the shadow aspects, or the archetypal patterns that might be influencing our current experience. Instead of resisting these uncomfortable feelings or situations, what if we approached them with curiosity? What might this "winter" be trying to tell us about rest, resilience, or a coming transformation?

This is where Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers a brilliant companion. Instead of struggling against the discomfort (which often just deepens it), ACT encourages us to accept what is showing up – the difficult thoughts, the tough emotions – without judgment. We can practice self-compassion, acknowledging our struggles with the same kindness we'd offer a dear friend. This isn't about liking the pain, but about making space for it, recognising it as part of our human experience.

By doing so, we create a vital shift in perspective. When we bravely turn towards our inner landscape with openness, compassion, and a genuine desire to understand, we are no longer bound by limited perceptions. We start to see not just bare branches, but the inherent potential for new growth. This psychological flexibility allows us to unhook from unhelpful stories and re-engage with what truly matters to us.

When we look at ourselves and our situations differently – embracing every season of our being – we uncover new solutions. These aren't about changing the external world, but about freeing ourselves internally. They are about finding our values and moving towards a rich, meaningful life, even with life's inevitable ups and downs. Embrace your seasons, trust your process, and set yourself free. ✨🌱🧡

02/11/2025

In stillness we experience magic moments. Slow down and breathe. The peacock symbolises divinity and renewal. Each moment is an opportunity to notice the difference in your body and re-centre.

28/10/2025

A moment to pause, enjoy the birdsong and appreciate the rain.

25/10/2025

Getting my hands in the soil reconnects me to nature.

23/10/2025

Good friends and chill vibes .

13/10/2025

A must read for anyone that struggles with letting things go. Have a beautiful day 🙏🏽

Acceptance is one of life’s hardest skills, but also one of the most essential. It means opening up to the full range of our emotions so that love and purpose have space to grow.

In this article, I share how I’ve been practicing acceptance myself, even in the bittersweet moments of watching my youngest son grow up. And I offer some simple ways you can build this skill before life really demands it.

Read the full article here: https://stevenchayes.com/the-bittersweet-art-of-acceptance-2/

12/10/2025

People can never understand you completely. 🧠 How could they? We all struggle to clearly understand often ignoring and silencing parts of ourselves to obtain acceptance. Then why do you get annoyed 😡😡 when you are misunderstood by others?

In silence we learn to listen and honour ourselves. 🤔

☀️❤️🙏