07/01/2025
Some gentle reminders for you 🧡
• grief is non-linear - there may be periods of time when you feel you've finally made progress and are feeling better, only to be triggered by the smallest reminder of the person you love that will take you back to how you felt in your very early days of grief.
That's totally normal and doesn't mean that you're "failing" at grief. Remember that grief is non-linear, and there is no right or wrong.
• grief is messy - the grief journey is full of unexpected turns and surprises. It won't be neat, it won't be pretty, but there may be pockets of beauty along the way like kind words, generous gifts, and invaluable support from friends or strangers. Let go of any expectations that it will be predictable or sensible.
• feeling is healing - make time and space to feel your feelings, and be compassionate towards yourself as you do so. Allow yourself to show up as you are on any given day, feeling whatever emotions you may be feeling. In order to process and learn to integrate the grief into our lives, it needs to be felt and expressed.
If you don't feel safe or comfortable doing that in the environment/company you're in during the day, consider blocking out time in your calendar when you know you'll be safe or in a comfortable space to do that. Healing happens when your feelings are acknowledged and safe to be expressed.
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