25/07/2025
Aging is often romanticised by others: βπππβππ ππ πππππ’!β, βπππβππ πππππ π ππππ ππππ!β "πππ πππ πππππ π πππ πππ π’πππ πππ"but those sentiments, though well-intentioned, can feel hollow when you're experiencing the daily physical, emotional, and existential toll of aging.
A client told us today: They say Iβm luckyβ¦ but I donβt ππππ lucky.
There can be so much sadness around aging. Yes, you are lucky to be that old. But deep inside you just feel your body is abandoning and betraying you, your mind my also starts playing some not so funny jokes on you.
But people still tell you that you are doing well and how lucky you are! Still, sometimes it doesn't feel like a lucky thing. Useless legs, unable to still be active... and part of the world!
But what if... the real luxury and message from the body is that you can relax now, you can let people help you, do things for you... "πΈ πππ πππππ ππ’ππππ ππ ππ πππππππ."
There aren't enough conversations around πππππ old, let alone abound π΅π΄π΄π»πΈπ½πΆ old.
How do we deal with the βπ ππππππ ππ πππβ πππππππ, as a community, carers, and elders?
1. ππππππππ πΏππππππ, π½ππ πΏπππππππππππ’
We often equate worth with what we can do, but what if aging is an invitation to shift from doing to being? Elders hold stories, experiences, humour, and emotional depth. Our Seniors Morning Tea is a small example of creating space for that to be expressed.
2. π΄ππππ ππ πΈππππππππππππππ
Instead of pushing for your own independence at all costs, what if we see it as interdependence? Support Workers are part of this exchange. Letβs stop treating help as pity, and instead treat it as connection.
3. π²πππππ πΉππ’πππ πΌππππππ, π½ππ πΉπππ ππππππππ
There can be so many things that can remind us weβre still here, still human, not just βclients.β Sometimes you might want to play scrabbles or just have a chat. Feel free to suggest simple activities that you'd like to do.
4. ππππ π°ππππ π³ππππ π·πππππππ’, π½ππ πΌπππππππ’
Waiting to die feels unbearable when itβs done in silence. But talking about dying and not just the event, but the feelings around it can actually bring relief and community. It opens space for meaning, for legacy, for peace. You might also discover you are not alone in those feelings.
5. π·πππ πππππ πππ πππ πΆππππ ππ π°ππππ
As we get older, we grieve youth, mobility, speed, memory. That grief deserves a place too. Allow yourself to name it, even to cry about it or joke about it. We can try to normalize it.
If you thing someone needs to read this today, share the love.
This might be the conversation they didnβt know they were waiting for. π