06/07/2025
*** SESSION HIGHLIGHTS ***
Julia originally booked in for a package to help her understand herself more in her relationships. In the past she has had a pattern of attracting partners that have at first been amazing, fulfilling her needs, then over time realised that the relationship had just become toxic. She had constant feelings of questioning if her partner actually loved her, he would give her constant digs at her character, commenting on all her faults, and they had lost the romance in the connection. more often that not she would leave his place feeling rejected and not worthy.
Since this was a pattern of hers in past relationships - meaning she was the common denominator here, so we had to go back and explore what she expereinced growing up with around relationships, what did she witness with her parents relationship and those that surrounded her, only to realise all the modeling from other relationships were much the same - volatile, regular fighting, not watching much togetherness or romance, more like relationships were a chore. She witnessed her father putting her mother down regularly and things were always tense. She also had trauma from back in childhood that hadnt been addressed - her father was a narcasict and mother had bipolar. Once we identified all the past patterns and looks at what life was like as a child - around the drama spikes, too fearful to speak up in the home environment as a child hence grew up not comfortable speaking up for what she wanted as an adult in a relationship - what the links back to the past were, created new positive meanings around it rather than past - im not good enough, im just damaged goods, etc it was time to rewire the mind for what she does want. we created new boundaries, clarity of what she really does want in a relationship, did a love autopsy of the past relationsips to truly identify patterns are for honest assessment on whom she was attracting into her life - flicked the switch and balanced her mind and body utilising a range of techniques from my tool box with a soul alchemy hypnotherapy session and combining kinesiology to have her congruent for what she wants going forward now that she identified the patterns, healed and processed and getting herself ready to open her heart to love again.
Julia realised that all her past relationships had elements of her parents relationship - so by diving into the past impacts of her childhood trauma, her own partner attract and her own values that had been comprimised she had a new clear path going forward. she got very clear on the red flags she would never ignore again, and the biggest realisation was that she was trauma bonding with each of them, her past partners also had a very troubled childhoods, and psychologically abused when young, so identifying that in the past this was a key - yep you are the right fit for me based on our pasts, she was then able to let go of that being the key bonding link.
For the future on dating she was left feeling confident with a new sence of clarity and positive shift on what she really does want, her relationship values, her deal breakers and not negotiables, and ready again to be back out on the dating scene.
