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๐ Coping Thoughts. ๐
๐ Here is a list of some coping thoughts that people have found helpful (McKay, Davis, & Fanning, 1997).
๐ Check the ones that are helpful to you and also create your own.
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๐ โThis situation wonโt last forever.โ
๐ โIโve already been through many other painful experiences, and Iโve survived.โ
๐ โThis too shall pass.โ
๐ โMy feelings make me uncomfortable right now, but I can accept them.โ
๐ โI can be anxious and still deal with the situation.โ
๐ โIโm strong enough to handle whatโs happening to me right now.โ
๐ โThis is an opportunity for me to learn how to cope with my fears.โ
๐ โI can ride this out and not let it get to me.โ
๐ โI can take all the time I need right now to let go and relax.โ
๐ โIโve survived other situations like this before, and Iโll survive this one too.โ
๐ โMy anxiety/fear/sadness wonโt kill me; it just doesnโt feel good right now.โ
๐ โThese are just my feelings, and eventually theyโll go away.โ
๐ โItโs okay to feel sad/anxious/afraid sometimes.โ
๐ โMy thoughts donโt control my life, I do.โ
๐ โI can think different thoughts if I want to.โ
๐ โIโm not in danger right now.โ
๐ โSo what?โ
๐ โThis situation sucks, but itโs only temporary.โ
๐ โIโm strong and I can deal with this.โ
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These help tolerate distressing situations by giving strength + motivation to endure hard experiences.
You can begin using them immediately.
Write your 5 favourite coping thoughts on an index card or a sticky note and keep it with you in your wallet or purse.
Or put your coping thoughts in conspicuous places where you can see them every day, like on your refrigerator or mirror.
The more you see your coping thoughts, the more quickly they will become part of your automatic thought process.
From :
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook.
Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal
Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance by
Matthew McKay, PH.D. โข Jeffrey C.Wood , PSY.D. Jeffrey Brantley, MD . New Harbinger Publications. 2007.