28/10/2025
I’m tired, my brain is overstimulated, and all I want is a few moments to myself.
So I sink into the couch and start scrolling whatever app catches my attention before I get some food and prep for tomorrow.
Next minute, it’s been an hour. That lovely bath I was planning to sneak in after dinner is now not doable.
We’ve all been there.
Each time I tell myself, “I’ll manage that better tomorrow.” But somehow, I still find myself on that same couch, eating fridge cheese instead of a nourishing meal, or hitting snooze instead of getting up ten minutes early for a walk.
A favourite phrase I’ve been using lately comes from one of my teachers, Kaya Mindlin:
“What you repeat, you become established in.”
When we hear something like this, we often think of the good habits we want to cultivate.
However, every day we might also be forming habits that don’t truly serve us.
A bit of absent-minded scrolling now and then is harmless.
But when it becomes a nightly ritual, I’m training my mind and body to expect it—reinforcing that pattern over and over again.
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the things I do routinely and how they support or deplete me:
• Putting my phone on charge next to my bed
• Having a shower first thing in the morning
• Grabbing a servo snack on the way to Ryde every Wednesday
• Saying to my cat, “Be home, be safe, and be well” each time I leave the house
• Going to a 12 pm Reformer class on Mondays
What am I establishing through these habits?
Who am I supporting myself to become?
Will this lead me to live the kind of life I dream of?
Some habits seem small, yet over time they shape so much of who we are.
There are things I’d like to add and others I’d like to let go of — but that takes gentle, consistent practice. Habits aren’t built overnight.
If you have space this week, I invite you to reflect on your own routines and habits with curiosity.
Notice which ones support you and which ones may not.
Small, consistent actions are the foundation for great things.
- Karen Gruber
