Calm Caring Compassionate Counselling

25/09/2025

In a recent post I discussed the key aspects of being your "authentic self" and why this can be difficult for some. This post highlights the signs your body may be giving you that something in your life may not be aligned with your true self.

When you consistently live in a way that’s not aligned with your authentic self, it creates chronic psychological stress, which can lead to both mental and physical health issues over time.

17/09/2025

When things feel overwhelming, what helps you to feel grounded and safe? This week I talk about resourcing, a powerful way to reconnect with a sense of stability-especially helpful for those experiencing anxiety, panic, or the effects of past trauma.

Resourcing is a technique used in trauma-informed therapy to help individuals feel safer, calmer, and more grounded-especially when facing emotions like anxiety or panic.

11/09/2025

It seems that in todays society we are rewarded for "fitting in" instead of standing out, and we may hold onto the belief that we need to hide who we truly are in order to be accepted. The tension between self-expression and approval from others can lead to feeling disconnected from yourself and others, anxiety, and eventually burnout.
I explore the reasons we might fear being our authentic self and suggest strategies to overcome this.

Being your authentic self means living in a way that is true to your values, emotions, and beliefs, rather than conforming to external pressures or social expectations. It involves self-awareness honesty, and congruence between your inner experience and outward behaviour.

07/09/2025

We can all find ourselves trapped in dysfunctional relationships and communication patterns. Often we unconsciously play roles in these interactions which only leads to their continuation. In this recent blog I explore the Karpman Drama Triangle-a powerful psychological model describing these roles and their impacts.

Often, we unconsciously take on roles in relationships which contribute to a cycle of disconnection and conflict within these relationships. These unconscious patterns are usually learned and often rooted in old wounds or survival strategies. We may shift from one role to another quickly within the....

03/09/2025

Stuck in a loop of overthinking or self-doubt?
Sometimes our minds latch onto unhelpful thoughts and won't let go.
Defusion techniques help you step back from those unhelpful thoughts that are guiding your behaviour.

Click the link below for examples of how you can create space between you and your minds chatter

What is Cognitive Defusion? In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), defusion is the process of creating distance from unhelpful thoughts so they don’t control your behaviour.

28/08/2025

Sometimes it feel like we are stuck in a cycle -drawn to partners who aren't good for us, even when we know better. But what if it's not just bad luck or poor judgement? What if unconscious patterns are influencing our choices?

In this blog, I explore the hidden behaviours and beliefs that quietly influnece who we let into our lives- and how to start making healthier choices.

Repetition compulsion is a psychological pattern where we unconsciously repeat past experiences-often painful or unresolved ones-in an effort to gain a different outcome.

24/08/2025

Ever feel like your reaction to something is way bigger than the situation? That is a trigger- an emotional response tied to past pain that has not been processed. Recognising your triggers isn't weakness, but an opportunity to heal and grow. When you know why you are reacting, you can choose how to respond instead of surviving on autopilot.

Click the link below for more information

Repetition compulsion is a psychological pattern where we unconsciously repeat past experiences-often painful or unresolved ones-in an effort to gain a different outcome.

20/08/2025

Ever wondered why your relationships feel like rollercoaster- or why you keep attracting the same type of partner? It could have a lot to do with your attachment style. Understanding yours and your partners attachment style can transform the way you love and how you are loved in return.

Tap the link below to explore how attachment styles shape adult romantic relationships and what you can do about it

What are attachment styles? Attachment styles are patterns of how we connect emotionally with others, especially in close relationships. They develop in early life through our interactions with caregivers and can shape how we behave in adult romantic relationships. Understanding yours and your partn...

31/07/2025

Not my favourite thing to do, but sometimes Its good to push yourself out of your comfort zone 😀.

31/07/2025

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12/08/2024

Keep practicing and make it a habit you will thank yourself for it😊

12/08/2024

Don't believe everything you tell yourself 💜