Julie Tenner

Julie Tenner Julie Tenner is The Pleasure Nutritionist. A mother of four and an experienced facilitator of deep women’s work.

Mum of 4💕 Wife💍
I help individuals and long-term couples go from emotional flatlines and roommate mode back to craving each other again.

🌀Somatic trauma specialist

📕Author - Flowers and Honey, The art of relationship, love & desire A naturopath, nutritionist, herbalist, counsellor, doula, intuitive bodyworker, Divine Feminine and embodiment leader who teaches women how to love wider, feel safe i

n surrender and open to their untapped magnetic power. The daughter of a yogi, together with a lifetime of spiritual practice and over 17 years experience working intimately with women’s physical, emotional and relationship health, Julie believes pleasure is the missing ingredient to women’s wellbeing and ability to radiate their love and light out into the world. Julie creates safe and sacred space for women and couples to explore more of who they are and how they love. A sage and guide in women’s mysteries, she infuses humour with deep knowledge in a distinctive combination of heart and soul, bringing awareness to dynamics and healing that lead the way for deep relationship transformation. A born storyteller, Julie weaves old world magic with modern savviness, captivating audiences all around the world through facilitation of women’s circles, ceremonies, events, online learning and training programs, together with co-hosting her podcast ‘Nourishing The Mother’. A self proclaimed pilgrim of love, Julie will revolutionise the way you relate to yourself and the ones you love, bringing deeper connection and richer intimacy.

You Don’t Owe Him Your Softness.Sometimes you don’t want to soften.Because he wants it.Because he responds when you do.B...
29/04/2026

You Don’t Owe Him Your Softness.
Sometimes you don’t want to soften.
Because he wants it.
Because he responds when you do.
Because it feels like giving something he hasn’t earned.

But here’s the truth:
Your sensuality was never his to deserve.
It’s not a performance.
Not a reward.
Not proof of forgiveness or trust.
It’s your access point - to aliveness, presence, and power.

Sensuality isn’t submission.
It’s reclamation.
It’s the way you remember who you are underneath the armour, the shutdown, the doing.

The way you say: “I still belong to me.”

🔥 In Honey Club, we turn sensuality into sovereignty.
Softness into choice - not currency. It’s where you return to your body, your rhythm, your power…For you.

💌 Join Honey Club - where sensuality comes home to you. Link in bio.

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28/04/2026

Let’s talk about the invisible labour most women carry - the kind that doesn’t get thanked, tracked, or shared.

Globally, women still do 76% of the world’s unpaid care and domestic work (UN Women, 2022).
And in most households - especially with kids - the mental load is real.
It’s logistics, anticipation, remembering, managing, soothing, following up…
and still being expected to smile through it.

In this episode, I share how I used to feel:

“I don’t need all of this to change.
I just need you to see what I’ve carried today.
And thank me for it.”

It’s not always about outsourcing.
Sometimes it’s about acknowledging what’s being held.

And when it does need to shift?
You’re allowed to say:
“I can’t do this anymore.”
Even if you don’t have a solution yet.
Even if it feels scary to drop the ball.

It’s not selfish to stop pack-horsing the entire household.
It’s not dramatic to ask for help.
There are more options than:

Do it all.

Let it all fall apart.

You’re allowed to change the rules you’ve been silently playing by.
And to ask your partner to learn a new role in that, too.

🎧 Listen to Ep 509: Inside Our Bedroom and Beyond
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6e1Kis2mvp3RSl4nb8uezf?si=a3f9b54e6c4443af

After working with so many couples, I’ve seen this truth again and again - it’s rarely about better. It’s almost always ...
20/04/2026

After working with so many couples, I’ve seen this truth again and again - it’s rarely about better. It’s almost always about different.

Different energy. Different reflection. Different parts of themselves they’ve forgotten how to access.

But here’s how I see it: even in a deeply monogamous relationship, it’s healthy to recognise that we all outsource certain needs.

I love the foundations of ethical non-monogamy - because it normalises the truth that no one person can (or should) meet every need we have.

For example, I love watching my husband come alive in spaces that have nothing to do with me - deep in conversation with colleagues, fully absorbed in strategy meetings, or laughing with basketball people.

That energy fills him. It gives him purpose, vitality, and connection I can’t (and don’t want to) be the source of.
I expect that he chooses things over me that nourish him - because I do the same.

So if it feels like his attention or energy is going elsewhere - he’s spending more time, choosing ‘it’ over you, seems more alive in that space or you’re starting to feel resentful in this dynamic:

Ask yourself:
✨ How does this actually benefit me or us?
✨ What am I outsourcing here?
✨ Do I want to reclaim it, or am I happy to keep outsourcing it?

When we stop expecting one person to be our everything, we open space for each of us to be more whole - and for our relationship to feel more alive.

And if you find yourself craving more attention, ask gently:
What energy does that thing bring him - and where might I have felt less of that in myself?
Because the places we envy are often the places calling us home.

💛 Flowers & Honey: The Art of Relationship, Love & Desire
By Julie Tenner - available wherever you get your books and audiobooks.

Why the “bullet train to s^x” kills desire 🚂🔥Here’s a pattern I see in so many couples:👉 Touch = straight to s^x.👉 Press...
17/04/2026

Why the “bullet train to s^x” kills desire 🚂🔥

Here’s a pattern I see in so many couples:

👉 Touch = straight to s^x.
👉 Pressure + predictable outcome = death of desire.

When every cuddle, kiss, or brush of a hand feels like it must end in s^x, she starts avoiding touch altogether. Not because she doesn’t want closeness - but because the pressure makes her body shut down.

The truth? Desire can only grow when there’s freedom.
When touch can just be touch.
When she knows she won’t be swallowed whole the moment she opens.

✨ Think of her “yes” like a flame. If you rush it, you stomp it out.
If you give it space, you let it build into the fire you crave.

The key isn’t pushing harder.
It’s learning to enjoy the moments that don’t lead straight to s^x - because that’s where desire has room to breathe.

*xologist

I’m incredibly honoured to share that I’ve been named a 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻 𝗦𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗕𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 - in 𝙋...
17/04/2026

I’m incredibly honoured to share that I’ve been named a 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻 𝗦𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗕𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗽𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 - in 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝘾𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜.⁣
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And if I’m honest… this one feels deeply personal.⁣
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Because this work isn’t just “business” to me.⁣
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It’s the late-night sessions holding couples who feel like strangers again.⁣
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It’s the women who arrive feeling numb, shut down, or “too much”… and slowly come back to life in their bodies.⁣
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It’s the quiet, powerful work of women healing s*xually and emotionally after abuse - finding their way back to safety, to choice, to their own sovereign s*xuality.⁣
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It’s the conversations no one else is having - about desire, resentment, mental load, and what it actually takes to stay connected in long-term love.⁣
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This recognition isn’t built on noise or scale.⁣
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It’s built on trust.⁣
On depth.⁣
On the courage of the people who sit across from me (or beside me on screen) and choose something different for their relationships.⁣
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So if you’ve worked with me, been in my spaces, listened to the podcast, or quietly taken something in that shifted you…⁣
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You’re part of this.⁣
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And I don’t take that lightly 🤍 Thank you ♥️♥️



17/04/2026

Every time I prepare my weaving grasses to dry, Zeke appears - like clockwork.
He could sit anywhere. But no.
He chooses the grasses.

Maybe he’s grounding them in love.
Maybe he just knows the good energy spots.
Either way… he’s part of the process now.

07/04/2026

Assumptions Are Silent Killers
Resentment rarely starts with a fight.
It starts with an assumption.

“He must think…”
“They probably assume…”
“They don’t care.”

Before you spiral, pause and ask yourself:
✨ What am I assuming right now?
✨ What don’t they know - that, if they did, might change how they show up?
✨ What do I actually want instead?

And if you can’t answer those questions yet - don’t go in guns blazing.
Because as the old saying goes: If you assume, you put an ass between u and me.

So don’t do that. 😉
Get clear first. Then you’re ready to talk about it.

Most disconnection isn’t malice.
It’s missing information.

Resentment thrives in silence.
Clarity dissolves it.

💌 If you want support building clarity before the conversation, book a free 15-minute chat and let’s see what you need and what suits you best.

Link in comments.

This client started with fatigue, resentment, and relationship patterns that felt heavy and stuck. After working togethe...
25/03/2026

This client started with fatigue, resentment, and relationship patterns that felt heavy and stuck. After working together - first in Queen School, then in Couples Dates and 1:1 - she told me:

‘All of a sudden I wanted s*x all the time! Jules, you say you want to get women to 30 degrees, but I felt like a 70! We can’t keep our hands off each other. And that’s given me energy that’s flowing into every part of my life…’

What shifted? They invested in their relationship space - and discovered that the energy you create between you is the energy you have for everything else.

That’s the magic of intimacy work. It’s never just about the bedroom. It’s about the life that connection fuels.

So many women crave surrender… and resist it at the same time.Because when your body doesn’t feel safe, touch doesn’t no...
23/03/2026

So many women crave surrender… and resist it at the same time.

Because when your body doesn’t feel safe, touch doesn’t nourish - it feels like one more thing to give out. And then the gap between you grows.

But your body isn’t broken. She’s wise. She’s signalling: “I need safety. I need nourishment.”

When you listen, the way back to pleasure - and to yourself - begins.

💌 Start with my free guide Reconnecting with Your Feminine Energy 👉 julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/reconnect

And if you’re ready to go deeper, Honey Club is where you’ll find the daily support to live it.

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