26/10/2024
Wise words..
A deep sharing on CREATING SAFE SPACES, by one of our Senior Lomilomi Practitioners, the wonderful Sarah Hancock...
"Last week I assisted on a Spiritual Hawaiian Lomilomi Massage course recently with my wonderful teacher Charlie Snow from The Blisstitute of Living Aloha. It was a profound week full of teachings, if I could take away only one, it would be this.
Creating a safe space for someone to receive is THE most important piece.
When the receiver feels safe, they can rest, heal, let go, and receive.
The words 'Safe Space' get thrown around a lot, and we can’t simply say to someone 'this is a safe space”. It won’t be true for everyone. Feeling safe is personal and unique to each individual.
To share how I create a safe space in my Spiritual Hawaiian Lomilomi Practice let me take you back to 4th grade for an acrostic exploration of the word safety.
SAFETY
Space
The space I work from is important to me. I have always worked from home in quiet residential areas. The room is always warm, clean, and free of visual clutter so the receiver can relax and receive. I consider folks sensitivities. I avoid using chemicals or smells (essential oils) or smudge (burning herbs to clear space). I keep the lights low and check in with my receivers about their music and sound preferences.
Assumptions/Adaptability
I will never make assumptions about your body, your gender, your body parts, or your abilities. I use gender-neutral terms so that all bodies know they are welcome.
I will adapt to you. If you need a bolster under your ankles or knees, that’s cool. If you need to lie on your back for the whole time, it’s ok. If you are adjusting yourself to make your body more comfortable during the session, no worries. Or if you need to leave items of clothing on or there are areas of your body that you are not comfortable with me touching, no skin off my nose. I will adapt, and I will work with you to figure out how you can receive in a way that is comfortable and accessible to you.
Focus
E Pili Mai (be here now) to be in the present moment with you. Lomilomi is about intuitively listening to the body with presence and intuition. Let's be honest focus isn't the perfect word but it is the closest to presence and we are working with what we've got.
I focus on the receiver's individual needs. When I get in my head (which I 100 percent do sometimes) I have tools to guide myself back, I call on Akua (spirit) and the Kūpuna (ancestors) to keep me focused.
Expectations
Let them go. We never know what will unfold in a Spiritual Hawaiian Lomilomi Session. We work with the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies, and as much as I can I deepen into trust and let go of expectations, creating space for Aloha (unconditional love) to flow through.
Trauma-informed
I am not afraid of big feelings, and I know how to identify disassociation and support people back into their bodies. As someone who has experienced CPTSD I understand how scary it is. I will never claim to heal your trauma, and at the same time, I will gently support you to feel safe in your body again.
You
Ultimately the session is about you. About bringing your body, heart, and mind into a state of Aloha (unconditional love) I commit to listening to you, being present with your body, and creating a safe space. I encourage you to let me know if you have any special needs/requests for the session and celebrate questions, concerns, and feedback."
🌿 For bookings with Sarah in Castlemaine VIC: https://soulnest.as.me/schedule.php