05/01/2026
My first son’s birth in 2022 set of a wild cascade of shifts that I am only just starting to fully integrate. I left to focus more on motherhood (with a bit of teaching on the side), I started my studies with and I began the work of being a boy mum! We also traversed death, natural disasters anda renovation during his pregnancy. 🤪 That whole time was so huge.
Leo was a more challenging baby than my daughter had been - with her I could pretend I was still a maiden, do all the things, defer the transition but with Leo he asked me to pull my socks up and pay attention. I learned a lot about coming into full presence through his birth and early postpartum. It wasn’t hard if I wasn’t try to be somewhere else. Trying to do a million things and be everything to everyone. Something had to give and he taught me how to let go. I healed a lot of deep stuff around intimacy and I learned how to find grace in places I have never even thought to look prior. I learned how forceful a presence a small child can have. My daughter was fully present and a wise little glow worm bug, but Leo was intimidating and present in a way I didn’t know a baby could be. His birth taught me that I can handle anything and also that I don’t need to; that allowed me to have a pain free birth and I’ve found so many of the lessons from his birth have made my life so much sweeter. It’s funny cos while it was the most hectic time of my life, I wouldn’t change anything. It’s cliched but true, it made me the woman I am!
I know not everyone gives birth - if you’ve read this far, I’d love to know your moments as woman that shaped you.