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27/01/2026

UNFIX THE TOXIC 26

Reclaiming Spontaneity

Before the loooong season of my low ebb, I was quite spontaneous. I would think of an activity and just do it.

I am pleased that part of me is returning.

Stoking the returning embers of my spontaneous self has been rewarding.

This is the reason I'm sharing this photo in place of a vlog.


The photo was taken by the artist.

She triggered this outcome of being spontaneous.

My reward?

Absolute joy!

This little share is about how I saw artist Inessa Karlik's promo as I was doom scrolling Facebook, and made the commitment to go.

It was definitely the colours that drew me to the post.

I do love my bright colours!

On the day of the exhibition, I had dropped my beloved off for his day of sailing and had also wanted to pick up a purchase in Brighton (yes, a Marketplace purchase).

It seemed a day in Brighton was to be had and Inessa's exhibition fitted in perfectly.

I remember walking up the red carpeted stairs, intrigued by what I would discover.

To my pleasure, I was earlier than most and felt like the exhibition was just for me. It felt like the exhibition was put on for my own private viewing.

The display of colour and texture leapt out at me in the fullness of JOY!

For that was what her works were, JOY!

It was a haven for me, away from the doom and gloom of world events. I needed this volume of joy that emanated from her work.

My tired soul was lifted and was lifted even more watching her paint.

Her quiet peaceful demure was spontaneous and joyful as she spread colours across her canvas and sharing with me what inspired her.

She wanted to bring joy to people through her art.

Her was mission was accomplished as you can see by my beaming smile, overflowing with joy over my birds!

The timing of this photo being sent was perfect.

It was sent by the artist last night as I was beating myself up for not preparing a Wellness Wednesday vlog.

Talk about the power or spontaneous serendipity!

I wasn't up for a vlog and this Godsend of a photo was the perfect alternative.

I am viewing this moment as my reward and my reminder to trust my own rhythm instead of others.

The past few days has had me struggling and doubting my posts.

I was feeling lost in the competitiveness of online presenters.

So what's best way to win the competition of this kind?

Don't compete.

Simple!

Just do me.

This photo and the artist responsible for it, eased my struggle and reminded me of my "why".

I am building my online presence to share the joy I feel when I flow, and I flow doing what I now know what I do best.
I am best at sharing my lived experiences in a way that resonates with people who love self development through self discovery.

I am less likely to overthink when I'm spontaneous. Overthinking leads me to underming myself, to second guess myself.

I am relieved to know that sharing Wellness Wednesday this way aligns with who I am, and who I am is someone who always wants to be my truest version at any given time!

I do hope the joy in this photo brings you joy too, thus adding to the mission of this beautiful artist.

My hope is that spontenaeity leads to many serendipitous surprises that overflow with joy!

Happy Wellness Wednesday!

Cheers.

26/01/2026

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21/01/2026

A suspected child ra**st from Sweden fled to the Philippines to escape justice.

The man was a lifelong criminal and unrepentant of his horrific crimes. When justice finally caught up to him, he hid in a Europeans-only hotel with a friend to avoid law enforcement.

That’s when the Philippines National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) asked Destiny Rescue agents to join the case. Because we have a couple of Western agents on the team, they could pose as European tourists to infiltrate the hotel.

To prepare their trap, undercover agents pretended to be foreign visitors lounging by the pool, all while keeping careful watch on the surrounding balconies. Then, they enlisted the help of a local volunteer: with the right wardrobe and hairstyle, the adult volunteer could look strikingly younger than she actually was and splash around in the pool to draw out the criminal.

The plan worked. The monstrous predator couldn’t resist coming out on his balcony to get a better look at the petite woman, even winking at her as she swam by. With this confirmation that he was in the hotel, investigators were able to complete the necessary paperwork to prepare for a raid the next day.

On the day of the raid, the criminal remained reclusive. This was a problem: laws in the Philippines required authorities to confirm a suspect’s presence before going in. It was time for our agents to improvise again.

The two agents, still pretending to be tourists, feigned an argument, escalating it until one of them threw a pair of shorts at the other in a fit of fabricated rage. He missed (on purpose), and the shorts landed on the criminal’s adjacent balcony.

One agent went to the criminal’s room to ask for the shorts back. With visual confirmation that he was there, NBI officers raided, arresting the monster and his friend.

Not only was the criminal arrested, but the NBI found intel on his phone that led to another raid in the Philippines that resulted in the rescue of 10 children, half of whom were under 5 years old. Some of those kids had already endured exploitation, while others were at extreme risk. Two sibling traffickers were arrested in that case.

Because of our generous donors, a child predator has been captured, and victims have become survivors. You have the power to bring justice and light to those who need it most.

19/01/2026

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It's been awhile!
Hope everyone has been well.
STAY BLESSED.

21/10/2024

MONDAY MELODY TO MONDAY MOOD

At the wise advice of my singing teacher, Monday Melody will rest as i rest my voice.

During this time it will be Monday Mood shaped by the whims of mood the day.

My wise teacher heard my heart cry of wanting to sing but feeling strained and down at not being to project a song as I feel it in my heart.

Alas...the strain my vocals have gone through over the years, chain smoking, pulling bongs, Uvulopalatopharyngoplasty, CPAP machines and now working in call centre 8 hrs 4x times a week has taken it's toll.

Does this mean my singing ends?

NOOOOOOO...It means I must rehabilitate my vocals.

I am relieved for it was stressing me out that even though I was committed to MONDAY MELODY, deep down I was disappointed because it wasn't how I wanted it to be.

I know I've sounded better in the past but I must give myself patience and grace, my physiology was much different back then.

So, my vocals are in rehabilitation.

This excites me cause it's sound and it's wise.

It makes perfect sense!

Tonight's singing lesson was brilliant,my teacher found me. She knows what to do with me.

I cried.

I really did, I cried!

There is much excitement being in the hands of great of mentors and teachers that get you.

And they get you because they are genuinely invested in you.

Only people genuinely invested in you can truly see you, see your need and know how to meet them to raise them to the vision of yourself that you shared with them.

Even more so, they even add to that vision an aspect of yourself that you couldn't even have had imagined of yourself.

So for today's MONDAY MOOD, it's about having the wisdom of finding, praying, inviting, great mentors and teachers into your life that honour your genius because they can see and know how to draw it out.

Truly blessed today.

14/10/2024

I WANT REAL LOVE!

Dont we all?

For people who have been disillusioned by spiritual abuse or hurt unintentionally by well intentioned believers, religion becomes a real turn off.

It's not the religion but the overtreaded rituals, or the rules and regulations that somehow become greater than the One which religion was built around.

I have softened somewhat towards relgious acts and find blessings in the rituals of religion, but I will never again make it greater than a relationship with Jesus.

The Mary and Martha story.

Martha thought she had to "do" before being able to sit at Jesus’s feet where Mary was simply "being" at His feet.

Mary chose the right thing.

I think it's beautiful when religion is borne out love for God. It is sad when we are taught to earn His love by being religious first and force that on people.

We have His love already, unearned, the cross made it accessible to all.

Before the cross, rituals got us to God, now only Jesus gets us to God. He gave His all to make it so.

That's REAL LOVE.

(Even though this song is out of my vocal range, I had to do it. The original is incredible. It's called Real Love by Blanca. She punches the words right to the heart of people who have thought it but were afraid to say it.)