13/04/2026
***The Art of Being Un-f*ck-with-able***
I recently returned from a five-day initiation in the outback. It turned out to be a masterclass I didnāt ask for, but one that gave me clarity that feels like fire in my veins.
I was taken there by a mirage. A man who had spent nearly four years building a "Sandcastle of Sincerity" - a close and trusted friendship that supported me through multiple tragedies, abuses and betrayals. He used the "Saviour Script"āpositioning himself as a safe, enlightened and heroic man to gain access to my most private sanctuary.
Nine hours away from any friends or support system, and without an alternative way to get home, I realised something chilling: Some people spend years building beautiful things purely for the thrill of kicking them down.
But here is the secret I brought home from the outback: When you own your radiance, you are not the sandcastle. You are the Ocean. A child can kick a sandcastle, but he cannot hurt the sea.
The Faces of the Zoo
To help myself process this, I began to de-code the patterns. This man played by the same rulebook as every other man from my past, just with a much more sophisticated disguise. I realised that, unfortunately, Iāve always been a magnet to these types, because that was the original frequency set by my family.
I have now created a gallery of narcissistic archetypes so that I will never be caught out again ā Iāve called it Faces of the Zoo - Narcissistic Archetypes. Iāll be sharing the full gallery and how to spot them in my next post, so stay tuned. When we name the Shark (the predator), the Scarecrow (the hyena in lion's clothing), and the Peacock (the somatic narcissist), they lose their power. They become tiny specimens in a laboratory rather than monsters in our beds.
How to Stay Un-f*ck-with-able: 4 Somatic Pillars
If you are a radiant, high-value woman, sadly, you will be targeted. It is not a sign of your āpoor choicesā; it is a validation of your power. Here is how you protect your sanctuary:
1. Trust the "Somatic Sentinel" Your body has a state-of-the-art alarm system. In my VITA training, we call this tracking the "felt sense." If a manās kindness feels like a debt being recorded in a ledger, or if his "support" makes you feel smaller rather than expandedāthat is your Sentinel screaming. Listen to the felt sense.
2. Use the Sovereign Lens: You donāt need a filter to see the truth; you need to thin the social veneer. Ask yourself: "If I stopped providing 'Supply' (my attention, my s*x, my adoration), would this man still be standing here?" Predators hate being ignored. If he withholds intimacy or uses "petty sabotage" when he doesn't get his way, the mask has slipped.
3. Master the Art of "Yellow Rocking" When you realise you are in the presence of a Calculating Mind, do not give them your rage or your tearsāthat is their fuel. Instead, become "hollow." Be polite, be boring, pay your share of the petrol, and maintain Impeccable Integrity. Deny them the "Supply" they crave until you can safely extract yourself.
4. Remember: You are the Ascent. Ambushes happen on the mountain, not in the valley. If you are being attacked, it is because you are ascending. Your radiance is so bright that the darkness has no choice but to reveal itself. You aren't being kicked back to the ground; you are being shown who isn't strong enough to climb with you.
The Queenās Return
I walked away smiling. I came home to my children, my clinic, and my Sovereignty. I left the mirage behind, alone with his childish games and the hollow structures he built.
My lighthouse is now brighter than ever. I am integrating these lessons into the ācrowning jewelā of my workābridging the physical healing of Acupuncture with the deep emotional vitality of VITA coaching.
I am moving through the final stages of this advanced certification, and the clarity Iāve gained has made my work more potent than ever before.
In the photo Iām sharing today, you aren't seeing a woman who was tricked. You are seeing a woman who has no need for masks. I am vast. I am authentic. I am the Ocean.
I am entirely Un-f*ck-with-able.
